Relationship Reset: Secrets from a Couples Therapist that Will Revolutionize Your Love for a Lifetime

by Jen Elmquist

Overview

Relationship Reset reveals the secrets to becoming a better couple through exposing valuable information from current research and identifying critical insights that make relating easier. By reading Relationship Reset you will learn:

• The Core Elements—define what’s “normal” for your relationship to experience and how to navigate through the tough spots.
• The Mind Benders—learn to take personal, thought shifting actions that will change your relationship for the better.
• The Muscle Builders—engage in exercises together that will strengthen and stabilize your love for a lifetime.

Crafted specifically for all couples, Relationship Reset focuses on making committed relationships last by offering simple and essential skills in an interactive format. Whether at the beginning of your union or well down the road, this book will revolutionize your relationship!

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780997458121
Publisher:	Restoration Productions
Publication date:	09/12/2017
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	274
File size:	971 KB

Table of Contents

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS IX

INTRODUCTION XII

1. A Little Explanation 1

CORE ELEMENTS: THINK LIKE A COUPLES THERAPIST 7

2. Cycles—The Couples Journey 9

3. Patterns—Drama to Durable 49

4. Styles—All Couples Fight 89

5. Lesson from Viktor 109

MIND BENDERS: BE THE CHANGE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 117

6. Stopping the Train 119

7. A Loving Observer 127

8. The Small Big Things 133

9. Releasing Expectations 137

10. Becoming More Critical 141

11. Relational Accounting 101 147

12. Three Positives 155

13. Clean Slate Protocol 159

MUSCLE BUILDERS: CREATE A STRONG CONNECTION 163

14. The Epic Kiss 165

15. “Can You Hear Me?” 169

16. Let’s Get It On 175

17. Vision Quest 183

18. Say a Little Prayer for Me 189

19. Getting the Whole Picture 195

20. Keep It Interesting 201

21. What about You? 207

22. The Research Project 213

CONCLUSION: A SWAN STORY 223

RELATIONSHIP RESET PLEDGE 230

RESEARCH AND RESOURCES 231

INDEX 241

ABOUT THE AUTHOR 253

Editorial Reviews

"This book will be an asset to anyone in a committed relationship. It will be particularly valuable for those in newer relationships who want to build a solid foundation, but even seasoned couples with decades of dysfunction under their belts will find help and hope, provided they are open to growth and are willing to change."--FOREWORD REVIEWS

"The book's near-total lack of platitudes and magic bullets is very refreshing. Through the use of ample case studies of her own clients to illustrate her points, Elmquist makes her step-by-step breakdowns immediately applicable to her readers."--KIRKUS REVIEWS

From the Publisher

2017-08-31
A couples therapist offers a comprehensive guide to maintaining healthy, intimate relationships.In her nonfiction debut, Elmquist acknowledges at the outset that the "stressors" working on any committed relationship are many, varied, and serious: "Financial obligations and work priorities, life responsibilities and accountabilities, and the daily needs of family and friends [are] all asking for your attention while you and your partner attempt to maintain individual and collective hopes and dreams." At the heart of her advice is the concept of a "reset," during which couples are urged to step back and look holistically at the changing nature of their relationship. Elmquist relates the familiar and worrying statistic that most troubled couples wait a very long time—the average is around six years—before seeking out professional therapy. She aims to drastically shorten that interval by equipping couples with the tools they need in order to detect and address problems as they arise. The key is something that Elmquist calls the "Six-Stage Change Cycle of Committed Couple Relationships," which aims to help couples identify the various evolving stages of their relationship: "You and Me," "We," "I and I," "The We/I Plateau," "The D-Factor" (involving differentiating one's personal identity), and "Us or Me." The author effectively points out that these stages are fluid things, taking different forms with different partners, but she notes that they are nevertheless universal: "We all play each of these roles at one point or another in our relationships," she writes. "To deny that is to deny we breathe." Overall, the book's near-total lack of platitudes and magic bullets is very refreshing. Through the use of ample case studies of her own clients to illustrate her points, Elmquist makes her step-by-step breakdowns immediately applicable to her readers. She also employs a uniform tone of enthusiastic encouragement throughout ("Getting started is the key. Momentum follows action!"), lightening her prescription of hard, detailed work that every committed relationship requires. An impassioned and analytic guide to taking control of faltering relationships before they fall apart.

Kirkus Reviews