Recognizing Ourselves: Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment
In April 1993, as part of the March on Washington for Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation, hundreds of couples participated in "the Wedding," a symbolic commitment ceremony held in front of the Internal Revenue Service building. Part protest and part affirmation of devotion, the event was a reminder that marriage rights have become a major issue among lesbians and gay men, who cannot marry legally and can only claim domestic partner rights in a few locations in the United States. Yet despite official lack of recognition, same-sex wedding ceremonies have been increasing in frequency over the past decade.

Ellen Lewin, who has consecrated her own lesbian relationship with a commitment ceremony, decided to explore the myriad ways in which lesbians and gay men create meaningful ceremonies for themselves. She offers the first comprehensive account of lesbian and gay weddings in modern America. A series of richly detailed profiles—the result of extensive interviews and participation in the planning and realization of many of these commitment rituals—is woven together to show how new traditions, and ultimately new families, are emerging within contemporary America.

Just as the book is a moving portrait of same-sex couples today, it is also a significant political document on a new arena in the struggle for lesbian and gay rights. In a larger sense, Lewin's work is about the politics surrounding same-sex marriages and the ramifications for central dimensions of American culture such as kinship, community, morality, and love.

Lewin explores the ceremonies themselves, which range from traditional church weddings to Wicca rituals in the countryside, with portraits of the planning, the joys, and the anxieties that led up to the weddings. She introduces Bob and Mark, a leather fetishist couple who sanctified their love by legally changing their last names and exchanging vows in tuxedos, leather bow ties, and knee-high police boots. In an equally absorbing profile, Lewin describes Khadija, from a working-class black family deeply suspicious of whites (and especially Jews) and Shulamith, raised in a Zionist household. She tells of how the two women struggled to reconcile their widely disparate upbringings and how they ultimately combined elements of African and Jewish traditions in their wedding. These, among many other stories, make Recognizing Ourselves a vivid tapestry of lesbian and gay life in post-Stonewall United States.
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Recognizing Ourselves: Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment
In April 1993, as part of the March on Washington for Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation, hundreds of couples participated in "the Wedding," a symbolic commitment ceremony held in front of the Internal Revenue Service building. Part protest and part affirmation of devotion, the event was a reminder that marriage rights have become a major issue among lesbians and gay men, who cannot marry legally and can only claim domestic partner rights in a few locations in the United States. Yet despite official lack of recognition, same-sex wedding ceremonies have been increasing in frequency over the past decade.

Ellen Lewin, who has consecrated her own lesbian relationship with a commitment ceremony, decided to explore the myriad ways in which lesbians and gay men create meaningful ceremonies for themselves. She offers the first comprehensive account of lesbian and gay weddings in modern America. A series of richly detailed profiles—the result of extensive interviews and participation in the planning and realization of many of these commitment rituals—is woven together to show how new traditions, and ultimately new families, are emerging within contemporary America.

Just as the book is a moving portrait of same-sex couples today, it is also a significant political document on a new arena in the struggle for lesbian and gay rights. In a larger sense, Lewin's work is about the politics surrounding same-sex marriages and the ramifications for central dimensions of American culture such as kinship, community, morality, and love.

Lewin explores the ceremonies themselves, which range from traditional church weddings to Wicca rituals in the countryside, with portraits of the planning, the joys, and the anxieties that led up to the weddings. She introduces Bob and Mark, a leather fetishist couple who sanctified their love by legally changing their last names and exchanging vows in tuxedos, leather bow ties, and knee-high police boots. In an equally absorbing profile, Lewin describes Khadija, from a working-class black family deeply suspicious of whites (and especially Jews) and Shulamith, raised in a Zionist household. She tells of how the two women struggled to reconcile their widely disparate upbringings and how they ultimately combined elements of African and Jewish traditions in their wedding. These, among many other stories, make Recognizing Ourselves a vivid tapestry of lesbian and gay life in post-Stonewall United States.
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Recognizing Ourselves: Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment

Recognizing Ourselves: Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment

by Ellen Lewin
Recognizing Ourselves: Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment

Recognizing Ourselves: Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment

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In April 1993, as part of the March on Washington for Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation, hundreds of couples participated in "the Wedding," a symbolic commitment ceremony held in front of the Internal Revenue Service building. Part protest and part affirmation of devotion, the event was a reminder that marriage rights have become a major issue among lesbians and gay men, who cannot marry legally and can only claim domestic partner rights in a few locations in the United States. Yet despite official lack of recognition, same-sex wedding ceremonies have been increasing in frequency over the past decade.

Ellen Lewin, who has consecrated her own lesbian relationship with a commitment ceremony, decided to explore the myriad ways in which lesbians and gay men create meaningful ceremonies for themselves. She offers the first comprehensive account of lesbian and gay weddings in modern America. A series of richly detailed profiles—the result of extensive interviews and participation in the planning and realization of many of these commitment rituals—is woven together to show how new traditions, and ultimately new families, are emerging within contemporary America.

Just as the book is a moving portrait of same-sex couples today, it is also a significant political document on a new arena in the struggle for lesbian and gay rights. In a larger sense, Lewin's work is about the politics surrounding same-sex marriages and the ramifications for central dimensions of American culture such as kinship, community, morality, and love.

Lewin explores the ceremonies themselves, which range from traditional church weddings to Wicca rituals in the countryside, with portraits of the planning, the joys, and the anxieties that led up to the weddings. She introduces Bob and Mark, a leather fetishist couple who sanctified their love by legally changing their last names and exchanging vows in tuxedos, leather bow ties, and knee-high police boots. In an equally absorbing profile, Lewin describes Khadija, from a working-class black family deeply suspicious of whites (and especially Jews) and Shulamith, raised in a Zionist household. She tells of how the two women struggled to reconcile their widely disparate upbringings and how they ultimately combined elements of African and Jewish traditions in their wedding. These, among many other stories, make Recognizing Ourselves a vivid tapestry of lesbian and gay life in post-Stonewall United States.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780231103923
Publisher: Columbia University Press
Publication date: 04/28/1998
Series: Between Men-Between Women: Lesbian and Gay Studies
Pages: 288
Product dimensions: 6.34(w) x 9.36(h) x 1.09(d)
Lexile: 1520L (what's this?)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Ellen Lewin is professor of anthropology and women's studies at the University of Iowa. She is the author of Lesbian Mothers: Accounts of Gender in American Culture, coeditor, with William Leap, of Out in the Field: Reflections of Gay and Lesbian Anthropologists, and editor of Inventing Lesbian Cultures in America.

What People are Saying About This

Evan Wolfson

As gay people advance toward sharing in the freedom to marry that our non-gay brothers and sisters take for granted, this book is a rich reminder that at the heart of the civil rights struggle are the couples themselves.... Lewin's account helps explain why gay couples will win the freedom to marry, and the sky won't fall.

Evan Wolfson, Director, The Marriage Project, Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund

Kath Weston

A sensitive treatment of the cultural issues associated with the debate on gay marriage. Lewin does an exceptional job of conveying why weddings -- those most ordinary of extraordinary rituals -- should have become so compelling to a wide range of lesbians and gay men.

Kath Weston, author of Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship

Esther Newton

In the best tradition of public, thought-provoking, and accessible anthropology pioneered by Margaret Mead and Ruth Benedict, this elegantly written account of gay and lesbian marriage ceremonies brings both empathy and discernment to bear on queer culture and politics in the making. Interweaving moving narratives and rituals with wide ranging cultural criticism, Lewin provides an analytic frame for understanding American culture's evolving values about kinship, love, and commitment.

Esther Newton, author of Cherry Grove, Fire Island: Sixty Years in America's First Gay and Lesbian Town

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