| How to Use the Receiving Love Workbook | 1 |
Session 1 | The Gift Diary | 16 |
Part I | The Receiving Inventory | 18 |
| Exercise: Construct Your Receiving Inventory | 18 |
Part II | Daily Gift Record | 20 |
| Exercise: Keep a Daily Gift Record | 20 |
Part III | Dream Gift List | 22 |
| Exercise: Keep a Dream Gift List for Your Partner | 22 |
Session 2 | The Imago Dialogue | 24 |
Part I | Mirroring | 26 |
| Exercise: Learning to Mirror | 26 |
Part II | Validating | 29 |
| Exercise: Learning to Validate | 29 |
Part III | Empathizing | 31 |
| Exercise: Learning to Show Empathy | 31 |
Part IV | Taking Turns | 33 |
| Exercise: Trading Places | 33 |
Session 3 | Learning How You Know | 35 |
Part I | Are You a Separate or Connected Knower? | 37 |
| Exercise: Are You a Separate or Connected Knower? | 37 |
Part II | Growth Process for Separate Knowers | 41 |
| Exercise: Develop Your Connected Knowing Skills | 41 |
Part III | Growth Process for Connected Knowers | 44 |
| Exercise: Develop Your Separate Knowing Skills | 44 |
Session 4 | Practice Receiving and Giving | 48 |
Part I | Receiving Sensory Impressions | 49 |
| Exercise: Learning to Appreciate Your Senses | 49 |
Part II | Receiving Your Partner's Reality | 52 |
| Exercise: Learning to Appreciate Your Partner | 52 |
Part III | Receiving a Gift and Giving a Gift | 55 |
| Exercise: Practice Asking for and Receiving a Gift, and Giving a Gift | 56 |
Session 5 | Positive Flooding | 58 |
| Exercise: Learning Positive Flooding | 59 |
| Exercise: Expanding Positive Flooding | 60 |
Session 6 | Your "Receiving Quotient" Assessment | 64 |
| Exercise: Examining Your Receptivity | 64 |
Session 7 | Your "Giving Love" Assessment | 70 |
| Exercise: Examining How Giving You Are | 70 |
Session 8 | Your Imago | 76 |
Part I | Influences From Childhood | 79 |
| Exercise: What I Got from My Parents or Other Caretakers | 79 |
Part II | Current Influences | 91 |
| Exercise: The Beliefs My Partner Brought to Our Relationship | 91 |
Part III | Choosing the Messages of the Future | 96 |
| Exercise: Deciding How I Want to Give and Receive Now | 96 |
Session 9 | Barriers to Intimacy | 99 |
| Exercise: Identifying Your Childhood Wound | 101 |
| Exercise: Learning More About How Your Childhood Wound Affects Your Relationship | 103 |
| Exercise: What to Do with Information About Your Childhood Wound | 111 |
Session 10 | Identifying Your Defenses | 115 |
| Exercise: How Do You Try to Defend Yourself? | 117 |
Session 11 | Discovering Your Hidden Potential | 128 |
Part I | Recovering Your Lost Self | 132 |
| Exercise: Identifying Your Lost Self | 132 |
Part II | Recovering Your Lost Self in Relationship | 139 |
| Exercise: What Messages Do I Send to My Partner? | 139 |
Session 12 | Becoming Whole Again | 145 |
Part I | Discovering Your Disowned and Denied Self | 149 |
| Exercise: What Is There About You That You're Not Seeing? | 149 |
Part II | Your Personal Growth Plan | 154 |
| Exercise: Integrating Your Disowned and Denied Self | 154 |
| Appendix | 159 |
| Acknowledgments | 193 |
| About Imago Relationship Theory | 194 |
| About the Authors | 195 |