Cheryl Bradshaw does a deep and important dive into the murky waters of teen sex and consent in her book, Real Talk about Sex and Consent. Not only does she bring clarity to the topic, but also empowers the reader in the process. Cheryl compassionately and effectively guides teens through the basics of sex, communicating with consent, boundaries, alcohol and drugs, and sexual assault. This is a must-read for every teen, parent, caregiver, and educator of teens.”—Michelle Skeen, PsyD, and Kelly Skeen, coauthors of Just As You Are
In Real Talk about Sex and Consent, Cheryl Bradshaw goes beyond simple slogans and gets to the root of why consent matters. Not only does this book help teens understand what true consent looks and sounds like, it’s a compassionate guide that teaches youth to better understand their desires, boundaries, and relationship needs.”—Nadine Thornhill, EdD, sexuality educator, speaker, and cohost of Every Body Curious
Written in a way that is honest, informative, and engaging, Cheryl Bradshaw’s book, Real Talk About Sex and Consent, is an important read for all teenagers, educators, and parents. In order to shift often unsafe societal views around sex and relationships, our young people need to know and understand their rights regarding consent and intimacy. This book provides life-changing information, as well as practical ideas and scenarios so teenagers can feel empowered and safe as they head into adulthood.”—Jayneen Sanders, educator, and author of Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect
A ray of hope for our next generation! This book provides a clear and in-depth discourse on sex and consent, and meticulously walks the reader through the ‘who, what, when, where, why, and how’ of total consent. Bradshaw demystifies the often misunderstood experience of survivors of sexual assault. A crucial read in the time of the #MeToo movement. It’s a must-read for teens, parents, counselors, health care practitioners, lawyers, judges, and educators.”—Kanchan Kurichh Keigher, MA, RP, registered psychotherapist; Ontario College Counselor at Sheridan College in Oakville, ON, Canada; and yoga teacher
Real Talk about Sex and Consent targets a deep and painful gap in our understanding of sexual intimacy. With her inviting style, Cheryl Bradshaw goes beyond the yes/no, providing depth and dimension to a topic we have only touched on at a surface level. Every teen should have the opportunity to move through apprehension to greater confidence in communicating needs and developing healthy and more fulfilling relationships. A true gift.”—Erin Lipsitt, MSW, RSW, therapist, and mother of two teens
This book is timely, inclusive, and incredibly comprehensive. We have been teaching youth about their bodies, relationships, and their sexual health rights for over forty years—and this book effectively addresses their most asked questions and demystifies the topic of consent. This is a great resource for youth and their parents to start the conversation about consent, healthy relationships, and preventing sexual violence. We would highly recommend this book!”—Centre for Sexuality, organization in Calgary, AB, Canada, that has been providing relationship and sexual health education to youth in Alberta since 1975
I spend a lot of time discussing complex and sometimes uncomfortable issues with teens and their families, and I admire the inclusive and accessible language Bradshaw uses to speak to young people. She provides clear and up-to-date information around the use of contraception and protection from sexually transmitted infections. I would recommend this book to teens and anyone who cares for them who is looking to start a conversation about healthy relationships!”—Gabrielle Salmers, FRCPC, general pediatrician
Real Talk about Sex and Consent is a current and engaging guide for teens using language they understand and stories they can relate to. Bradshaw’s skillful use of metaphors and acronyms makes key concepts about consent easy for readers to understand and put into action. It is also an invaluable tool for parents and other caring adults in the lives of young people who want to have meaningful conversations with them about this important topic. My stepdaughters will definitely be getting a copy!”—Saleema Noon, BA, MA, OBC, sexual health educator, and coauthor of Talk Sex Today
This book is an easy read that navigates through the fundamentals of consent. Using real examples that are clear and appreciable, the reader can understand consent and all the problematic avenues that an individual may face when applying consent skills. The reader is provided with an opportunity to reflect on the points presented to develop their confidence and values.”—Lisa Perizzolo, MEd, SHEC, school counselor, and certified sexual health educator
Consent is a heavy topic, but there is none more important. Real Talk about Sex and Consent provides readers with the knowledge and tools to create their own road map for healthy and fulfilling relationships. Bradshaw offers an in-depth consideration of the many dimensions of consent, and the ways in which it intersects with gender, pleasure, relationships, identity, confidence, communication, and emotional literacy—to name just a few. More than a sex-positive guidebook with real-life examples, it is also packed with practical prompts and scripts for reflection and discussion to engage parents, teens, and partners alike.”—Jessica O’Reilly, PhD, sex and relationship expert, host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast, founder of Happier Couples Inc., and coauthor of The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay
★ 10/01/2020
Gr 8 Up—This comprehensive guide to the legal, emotional, social, and physical aspects of consent shows teens that this issue is much more complicated than just saying "yes" or "no." Bradshaw, who is a registered psychotherapist, focuses on creating healthy relationships that are safe and respectful, have boundaries, and involve enthusiastic consent. Readers are given the skills to communicate effectively and clearly. Bradshaw provides many examples of scenarios and scripts that depict what consent looks and sounds like. Aimed at all genders and all sexualities, chapters examine getting to know yourself and your desires, identities, and attractions; gendered stereotypes and dynamics; pornography, nudes, and sexting; laws regarding age, power dynamics, and the ability to consent; warning signals; solutions and approaches to conflict; factors that may affect consent; and how to recognize sexual assault and get help. Conversational, honest, and accessible, with an emphasis on consent as a complete way to approach intimacy, this resource is invaluable. Repetition and summaries drive home which aspects are involved in total consent. The text makes it clear that all people deserve respect and the ability to be in control while emphasizing that consent is an ongoing component of healthy, happy, safe, and respectful relationships. Back matter includes resources (books, videos, articles), sexual assault intervention training and programs, and where to find support. VERDICT A truly vital and nuanced guide that is as empowering as it is educational.—Amanda MacGregor, Parkview Elem. Sch., Rosemount, MN
2020-08-25
This accessible book unravels the often confusing topics of sex and consent.
Written in a casual tone directed at teens and 20-somethings, this volume covers all aspects of consent, including sexual and emotional awareness, societal influences, the law, what consent looks like, and what to do in the event of a sexual assault. Bradshaw takes the discussion beyond “no means no” and even “yes means yes” into the real world. She gives concrete examples, tools, and exercises that young people can apply to their lived experiences. She acknowledges the complicated feelings that can arise and the difficulty of dealing with rejection. She also gives a simplified explanation of the science behind our fight-or-flight response and why we sometimes appear to consent when we really want to run away screaming. This text is addressed to all genders and sexualities, though it does not hesitate to acknowledge and break down gendered pressures and stereotypes. It is not only targeted at theoretical targets of assault; it clearly explains that if you can’t honor someone’s boundaries, you are not ready to have sex. Despite a few awkward sentences and corny acronyms, this is an invaluable resource for readers wishing to learn more about these critical subjects.
Everyone learning to navigate sexual relationships should read this manual for total consent. (additional resources, works cited) (Self-help. 13-adult)
