Play Like You Mean It: Passion, Laughs, and Leadership in the World's Most Beautiful Game

Play Like You Mean It: Passion, Laughs, and Leadership in the World's Most Beautiful Game

by Rex Ryan


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“I want every player in the National Football League to want to play for the Jets, and I want every coach in the league to want to coach for the Jets, and we’re well on our way.” —Rex Ryan
Since Rex Ryan was made head coach of the New York Jets in 2009, his infectious energy and love of the game have made him one of the best-known coaches in the NFL. Play Like You Mean It invites readers behind the scenes of the NFL from Rex’s days coaching the Baltimore Ravens and Arizona Cardinals, to his acceptance of the head coach position for the Jets, to mentoring Mark Sanchez as he transformed from a young USC grad to a seasoned QB, to all the thrilling, controversial ups and downs of the Jets’ 2010 season. With his characteristic frankness and exuberance, Rex reveals his philosophy of life, both on the field and off, and shares colorful stories of growing up with twin brother Rob (now the Dallas Cowboys’ defensive coordinator), and their father, legendary NFL coach Buddy Ryan.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780307743336
Publisher: Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group
Publication date: 08/07/2012
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 1,249,580
Product dimensions: 5.26(w) x 7.80(h) x 0.62(d)

About the Author

Rex Ryan is the head coach of the New York Jets of the National Football League. He has coached with the Super Bowl champion Baltimore Ravens, and with the Arizona Cardinals, and is the son of former head coach Buddy Ryan.
Don Yaeger is a former associate editor for Sports Illustrated. He is the bestselling co-author of seventeen books, including Never Die Easy: The Autobiography of Walter Payton, and I Beat the Odds by Michael Oher.

Read an Excerpt

1. 2010... A Wild Ride

On January 24, 2010, I looked up from the sidelines at Lucas Oil Stadium and watched the clock tick down to 0:00. The hard realization set in: Our 2009 season, my rookie season as head coach of the New York Jets, was over. The Indianapolis Colts had won the AFC Championship. Losing is brutal—I don’t think anyone can deny that. But some losses, well, they burn a little deeper. As 63,000 fans cheered for the Colts, and their players started putting on their championship hats and T-shirts, I jogged to the middle of the field to shake Jim Caldwell’s hand with only two things on my mind: 1) Damn... Peyton beat me again; and 2) When do I get another shot at him?
Losing in the AFC Championship was tough enough, but having Peyton Manning take a second Super Bowl ring from me just pissed me off. In 2006, when I was the defensive coordinator with the Baltimore Ravens, we got beat by the Colts in the playoffs. The whole thing just haunts me. Wait, let me rephrase that. Peyton Manning haunts me. In my opinion, simply winning isn’t enough. You have to win against the best, and Peyton Manning is the best. Now, don’t get me wrong, we deserved to lose that 2009 AFC Championship Game. We were outmanned, injuries killing us all over the field during the second half. And no one knows how to abuse your weakness quite like Peyton. But to watch our season end on that note was frustrating, and the only way I knew how to deal with that frustration was to let it drive me. That’s why my first instinct was to imagine how we were going to beat Peyton the next time around... and to envision the Jets, if only in my mind, playing the Colts in the playoffs again.
My moment to mourn was short and sweet, because the second my hand left Caldwell’s, the 2010 season began and we were 0-0.
Setting the tone with my Jets in that postgame locker room speech was a huge step toward a new season. Fortunately, it took very little effort. I just went in, was true to myself, and told them exactly what I believed. I told them that the fastest way to kick ourselves in the ass was to go into 2010 with the assumption that we were going to make it to the AFC Championship Game. From that point on, every team was on a level playing field. There were no guarantees. We knew what it felt like to be right there and lose it. That would make us hungrier. We wanted to take it all. I told them to strive to get a home game in the 2010 playoffs. I said let’s play for it again, let’s win it, and let’s do it in our city, at our stadium, in front of our fans. I wanted them to wear their Jets gear and be proud. We finished in the top four in the NFL, we turned an underdog team into an AFC title contender, and we earned the respect and support of the people in New York. I mean, they lit up the Empire State Building green and white the week of the AFC Championship Game. If that didn’t make my players proud to be Jets, then they shouldn’t be on this team.
The future, I told them right there in the belly of that stadium, came with a challenge. I told the coaches and the players that I was challenging each of them, and myself, to find a way for us to get better. I didn’t know how it was going to happen, but we were going to find a way for each of us to get a little bit better. I knew as a team we were going to have to make some roster improvements. We had to get better in the corner and better in the back end. I also knew it was crucial for us to get a closer as a pass rusher. We needed someone who could close out guys so I wouldn’t have to blitz every snap.
Coming out of that game and going into the off-season, we went right at those weaknesses to prepare for 2010. We signed Jason -Taylor and Antonio Cromartie as free agents. We drafted Joe -McKnight, who could help us in both the running and passing game; Kyle -Wilson, who I know will be a dynamic player down the road; John -Conner, who is an outstanding fullback; and Vladimir Ducasse, who is a dynamite player on the field. We also ended up getting -LaDainian Tomlinson, Santonio Holmes, Nick Folk, and Trevor Pryce. We were determined to do everything we could to improve in every way possible. We even picked up Mark Brunell, an 18-year veteran quarterback, who has turned out to be a fantastic mentor to Mark Sanchez.
Unfortunately, this business is all about give-and-take. So, as excited as I was to get such amazing guys before our 2010 season, I was equally upset to have to let some go. We released Alan Faneca, Thomas Jones, and Marques Douglas, who was one of my guys from Baltimore, and traded Leon Washington to Seattle. That is, by far, the worst part of my job. These guys are truly amazing players and people. If I had it my way I would keep everyone, but that’s just not how it works in the NFL. Every decision is for the betterment of the team.
With a week or two to go before our 2010 season opener, I was feeling good. We were back in Florham Park after spending training camp at SUNY Cortland, we had officially decided on our 53-man roster, and we had settled some lingering contract negotiations. If you watched us on HBO’s Hard Knocks at the beginning of the season, then I’m sure you’re well aware that two of the contract negotiations I’m talking about were with our cornerback, Darrelle Revis, and our center, Nick Mangold. I’ll get into further detail about this later in the book, but for now, let me just say that compared to the Revis situation, Mangold’s contract was a breeze. Both of these players are great guys, but the way their situations played out was far different. Our owner, Woody Johnson, and our general manager, Mike Tannenbaum, approached Nick about a lucrative seven-year extension, and he signed two weeks later, making him the highest-paid center in the league. On the day he signed, I actually held him out of practice. I mean, we’re talking about a lot of money here! The last thing he needed was to walk out there and fall in a hole with that much on the table.
Revis, on the other hand, signed a big-time four-year deal after one of the most publicized holdouts in recent NFL history. The day he came back to practice might possibly have been one of the happiest days of my life. I have never wanted something to be over more than that whole ordeal.
From the very beginning of the season, it seemed like the New York Jets were the most talked-about team in the NFL. A large part of this was due to our appearance on Hard Knocks. Apparently, some people think I’m entertaining. The truth is, I don’t really care what other people have to say about me, including an NFL blogger, a broadcaster, or even a former head coach. I knew Hard Knocks was going to generate interest. Not everyone was going to like it, and that’s fine; that’s what remote controls are for. I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t like our name constantly in the press. People were talking about us, and that’s really all that mattered. We were exactly where we wanted to be.
We put ourselves in a position where we had no other choice but to prove ourselves. I knew people looked at the Jets and me like, “Okay, Rex, we’ve been hearing about you guys all preseason. Now show us what you’ve got.” I felt challenged by all the media attention, and I LOVE a challenge.
I also don’t mind if the media’s coverage of us isn’t 100 percent positive, but I really don’t like being portrayed as something we definitely are not. We had developed what the media called an “Animal House” image. At first, I think we got this image because people viewed my language on Hard Knocks as offensive, and when they watched the show they thought they saw a team that was all play and no work, a claim I had to defend a million times in the media.
It really escalated in September 2010 when Inez Sainz, a female reporter for Mexico’s TV Azteca, accused some of the players and coaches, myself included, of acting inappropriately toward her during a visit to one of our practices. The story hit the media on Monday, September 13, and we were exactly one week from opening the season against the Ravens in our new stadium... and this is what I’m dealing with. Now, I could go on for pages and pages about what happened, and what definitely did not happen, but at this point the whole incident has been discussed and dissected, and I don’t think anyone on either side found much to talk about.
The incident shook me up beyond belief, partially because my name was being dragged into a situation that I hadn’t even witnessed, and partially because we already had the image of being goof-offs because of Hard Knocks, and now we were on the verge of developing a reputation for being jerks, too. It was, honestly, killing me. It was a poor reflection of our football team, and I knew we were just the opposite of that. We always said we wanted to have some real badasses on the field and gentlemen off the field—and that’s what we had. That’s why this whole thing made me madder than hell.
But in the end this was an example of the kind of distraction you have to expect from out of the blue—these things can either derail you and your team, or you can come together and learn from them.

Table of Contents

1 2010 ... A Wild Ride 1

2 Blunt-Force Trauma 15

3 Son of Buddy 26

4 Joining the Family Business 49

5 Father of My Own 63

6 Tackling Dyslexia 72

7 Eat, Pray, Football 80

8 Loving Baltimore 91

9 The Perfect Owner 113

10 Changing the Culture of the Jets 126

11 Mark Sanchez 139

12 Filling Out the Roster 149

13 The Perfect Formula 161

14 Taking Risks on Players (and Making My Own Mistakes) 172

15 Sharing the Big Apple 187

16 2009 Season 197

17 Coach-Speak: Getting Up in Front of the Players and Coaches 209

18 Hard Knocks 218

19 Revis: The Art of the Deal 228

20 Bring It On: Putting Pressure on Yourself 239

21 Let's Go Snack 247

22 We'll Be Back 254

Acknowledgments 271

Index 274

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

“Rex Ryan has extended his general approach—open, blunt, direct . . . from the spoken word to the written one.”
     —The New York Times

“Typical Rex: no-holds-barred and thoroughly entertaining.”
     —WFAN/CBS Radio

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