OCTOBER 2018 - AudioFile
Brockes’s journey to motherhood was unconventional. While in her late thirties and single and in the early stages of a relationship with a woman known as “L,” she decided she had reached the do-or-die moment to either embark on the path of getting pregnant or give up the idea. Brockes narrates her memoir with clarity and sardonic humor. Her love and respect for her core group of friends and her father, who supported her every step of the way, are evident not only in her writing, but also in her tone of voice. Her self-awareness gives her plenty of room to poke fun at herself, adding levity to serious moments. J.E.M. © AudioFile 2018, Portland, Maine
The New York Times Book Review - Mary Pols
…An Excellent Choice contains accounts of fertility clinics and a scene of dwindling hope in a public toilet, but there is nothing grim about it. Nor is a desire to get pregnant a prerequisite for reading it. Brockes…[is] smart and tartly charming…
Publishers Weekly
02/26/2018
British journalist Brockes’s thoughtful memoir of becoming a single parent at the age of 39 focuses primarily on the hurdles faced on the path to motherhood rather than on life after delivering twins. Brockes (She Left Me the Gun) was preoccupied with her career during her 20s and 30s, though she had always known that one day she wanted to have kids. At age 37, she set out to get pregnant via a sperm donor and IVF treatment (her partner, a woman referred to as “L,” already had a child of her own, and the couple opted to keep their Upper West Side households separate while remaining partners). Brockes takes readers on a fascinating and sometimes frustrating journey through fertility treatments, dashed hopes and delays, often accenting her tale with clever comparisons of the American and the British health care systems (“How on earth can one buy medical treatment the same way one buys three-for-two cans of beans at Costco?”). Along the way the fiercely independent Brockes realizes that while she can do almost anything she pleases alone, it’s quite acceptable to ask for help: not only does she hire a baby nurse but she accepts her partner’s advice to lease an apartment that’s become available just below hers. This is an uplifting, well-told story, in which Brockes walks the fine line between surrendering to chance (i.e., not one but two babies) and taking charge to make tough but excellent choices. (June)
From the Publisher
[A] splendid and fascinating book. [Brockes’s] memoir is subtitled ‘Panic and Joy on My Solo Path to Motherhood,’ but I saw no time when Brockes — supremely confident, sensible and twice as smart as anyone else in the room — panicked. She is cool, methodical and, at times, insanely funny, with a great eye for the ironies and amusements of life…There is no doubt that her decision — at least for us readers — was an excellent one indeed.” —Minneapolis Star Tribune
“The book speaks to a growing contingent of would-be parents who reach their 30s and 40s and find they have the means and motivation to have kids outside of a conventional domestic partnership, embracing their chosen single parenthood as a form of empowerment. It seems as if almost everyone bearing a child is writing a book about it, but Brockes is too original a personality to fall in quietly with the rest. A disarming and casually hilarious take on the opposite of co-parenting.” —Kirkus
“Brockes’ second memoir will have readers caught up in the excitement and anxiety of pregnancy along with her. Her humor and empathy shine through, even during her most challenging moments. Whether parents, aspiring parents, or happily child-free, readers will enjoy Brockes’ intimate story of how she became a mother.” —Booklist
“[A] thoughtful memoir…Brockes takes readers on a fascinating and sometimes frustrating journey through fertility treatments, dashed hopes and delays, often accenting her tale with clever comparisons of the American and the British health care systems…An uplifting, well-told story, in which Brockes walks the fine line between surrendering to chance (i.e., not one but two babies) and taking charge to make tough but excellent choices.” —Publishers Weekly
“I don't know whether to love Emma Brockes more as a writer or a human being. Why can't we all face life with her courage, grace, and shockingly good sense of humor?”
—Lauren Collins, author of When in French
“Emma Brockes is a spiky, smart and ferocious writer. Her quest to become a mother is alternately harrowing and hilarious.”
—Pamela Druckerman, author of Bringing Up Bébé and There Are No Grown-ups
“Witty, irreverent, and wickedly perceptive, An Excellent Choice illuminates not one, but a whole host of still quasi-taboo topics from sperm donors to assisted reproduction. Emma Brockes is a beautiful writer, a wonderful story-teller, and a keen observer of human nature.”
—Amy Chua, author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and Political Tribes
OCTOBER 2018 - AudioFile
Brockes’s journey to motherhood was unconventional. While in her late thirties and single and in the early stages of a relationship with a woman known as “L,” she decided she had reached the do-or-die moment to either embark on the path of getting pregnant or give up the idea. Brockes narrates her memoir with clarity and sardonic humor. Her love and respect for her core group of friends and her father, who supported her every step of the way, are evident not only in her writing, but also in her tone of voice. Her self-awareness gives her plenty of room to poke fun at herself, adding levity to serious moments. J.E.M. © AudioFile 2018, Portland, Maine
Kirkus Reviews
2018-04-16
A fertility memoir with a whiff of Tristram Shandy.British journalist Brockes (She Left Me the Gun: My Mother's Life Before Me, 2013, etc.) recounts the process by which she and "L" decided to bear children as single, working mothers in a nontraditional but loving relationship. The author spent her 20s in the grip of an all-consuming dream job: writing for the Guardian. The sudden breakup of a three-way work marriage (one of her best friends fell pregnant) propelled her all the way to New York and onto the path toward having not just one baby, but twins, all by herself. Her eccentric narrative hazes over the challenges of same-sex parenting to focus on the fertility industry and the alternative structure that she and L created to make up for their hopeless incompatibility as live-in partners. They found matching apartments on different floors of the same Upper West Side high rise, which enabled them to bring the kids together regularly, but each woman parented her own children to suit herself. Brockes plays up the contrast in fertility treatment styles between England and the U.S., but while she extols the stolidity and sensibility of her national health care birthright, she can't help but glory in the comparatively free-wheeling American market for intrauterine insemination and in vitro fertilization as one more indication that her adopted country is the "place where the future happens first." Her quirky, neurotic intensity pairs well with the brisk pace she has crafted after so many years writing to deadlines, and she holds little back. The book speaks to a growing contingent of would-be parents who reach their 30s and 40s and find they have the means and motivation to have kids outside of a conventional domestic partnership, embracing their chosen single parenthood as a form of empowerment. It seems as if almost everyone bearing a child is writing a book about it, but Brockes is too original a personality to fall in quietly with the rest.A disarming and casually hilarious take on the opposite of co-parenting.
