Table of Contents
Foreword Harry Wong xi
Acknowledgments xiii
Introduction 1
1 A Balanced and Realistic Approach 5
2 Relational Discipline 17
Part I The Way You Position Yourself in the Relationship 17
Part II The Words You Choose to Use 24
3 Misconceptions 31
Misconception 1 It's One Extreme or the Other 31
Misconception 2 Rules Should Be Stated in the Positive 33
Misconception 3 One Size Fits All 34
Misconception 4 Discipline is Enough 36
Misconception 5 Suspensions Are Not Effective 39
Misconception 6 Always Follow Through With a Consequence 43
Misconception 7 That Teacher Doesn't Like Kids 47
Misconception 8 The Student Told Me You Said … 53
Misconception 9 If You Give In, You Lose Credibility 55
Misconception 10 Every Student Can Be Successful at School 57
4 Strategies 61
Strategy 1 Become the Fool and Make a Connection 61
Strategy 2 Finish the Loop 64
Strategy 3 Use Visual Imagery and Analogies 66
Strategy 4 Teach Mind Control 69
Strategy 5 Give Permission to Exit 71
Strategy 6 Turn the Tables or Ask Why 75
Strategy 7 Foretell the Future With Facts 77
Strategy 8 A New First Day of School 80
Strategy 9 Tell Them Who You Are 84
Strategy 10 The Best Strategy: Network With Winning Teachers 87
5 Resources and Conceptual Models 90
Resource 1 Matrix of Behavior Levels 90
Resource 2 Classroom Management Essential Questions 93
Resource 3 Behavior Contracts 100
Resource 4 Reflection Forms 105
Resource 5 Relationship-Type Scale 114
Resource 6 Tiered Classroom Management Plan 118
Resource 7 Three Options for Change 124
Resource 8 Reset Room 128
Resource 9 Harassment and Bullying Report Form 131
Resource 10 Safety Plan 134
6 Scenarios 138
Disclaimer 139
Scenario 1 Impulsive and Distracted 139
Scenario 2 Explosive and Defensive 140
Scenario 3 Disrespectful and Defiant 140
Scenario 4 Hard to Reach and Resentful 141
Scenario 5 Unpleasant, Defiant, and Rude 141
Scenario 6 Behavior and Spectrum Combination 142
Scenario 7 Pubicly Defiant 143
Scenario 8 The "Coup d'État" Class 143
Scenario 9 Raging 143
Scenario 10 Bad Reputation and Sly 144
Conclusion 145
References 146
Index 147
About the Author 154
