No Such Thing as a Bully: Shred the Label, Save a Child, Bullyproofing Protection for Parents and Children, 2nd Edition

by Kelly Karius

Overview

Does your child talk about being treated badly by his peers, and you don't know what to do? Does the school tell you to make your child stop bullying, and you don't know how?

You'll find the answers inside.

For years and years we have talked about bullies and victims. We've talked about them enough that the words have shaped the lives of many people. It's time for a whole new framework!

NO MORE will we speak of bullies and victims.

NO MORE will we give power to the ideas that bullying is inherent in our society.

This new framework throws traditional bullying on its head, examining bully actions and victim responses and teaching lessons that help each and every one of us, adult and child, stop ourselves from falling into either category. People who communicate well and have developed a strong self-concept, balanced thinking, balanced approaches and empathy for others are less likely to use bully actions or victim responses. Bystanders are strengthened and culture is changed.

It's that simple. 

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780973683165
Publisher:	Siretona Creative
Publication date:	04/04/2022
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	148
File size:	464 KB

About the Author

Kelly Karius is an award winning Social Worker, Mediator and Author. Kelly is an expert at quickly finding the root of problems, reframing and redefining to give you another way of looking at your situation and new tools to stay calm and peaceful within it. She is highly skilled at showing people that they can reclaim their personal power and change their relationship with themselves and with others.

Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction 10

PART 1: General Information/Background

Rationale13

Goals for Parents14

Kelly's Story15

Definitions18

Recognizing the Signs20

Approaching Your Child 22

Risk Assessment23

Levels of Intervention 24

When An Influential Adult Is Using Bully Actions29

"Screen Time" and Bullying30

Recognizing the Frames of Reference 31

Characteristics31

Individuals can counteract the characteristics32

Children Experiencing Bullying33

Predicting Violent Behavior33

Bullying Outcomes36

The Bullying Spiral37

Real Life School Bullying 37

Dawn-Marie Wesley37

Emmet Fralick40

When Your Child is Using Bully Actions41

When Your Child is Using Victim Responses43

When Your Child is a Bystander43

Self Esteem45

Teaching Points for Your Child46

Role-Playing48

Defining the Problem 48

Brainstorming51

Pledging53

Goals54

Self-Assessment of Your Own 

Communication Style55

PART 2: Protection Lessons for Parents and Children

Protection One: Conflict vs. Bullying59

Protection Two: Feelings62

Protection Three: Fight, Flight, or Freeze65

Protection Four: Important Ideas67

Protection Five: The Bullying Spiral71

Protection Six: Working Through Harm75

Protection Seven: How You Act79

Protection Eight: Friendship Skills83

Protection Nine: Bill of Rights 

and Responsibilities87

Protection Ten: Bully Actions and 

Victim Responses91

Protection Eleven: Saying No99

Protection Twelve: "I" Sentences     103

Protection Thirteen: Always and Never     107

Protection Fourteen: Questions     108

Protection Fifteen: Tone of Voice     109

Protection Sixteen: Body Language     112

Protection Seventeen: Thinking           115

Protection Eighteen: Inaccurate Thinking     116

Protection Nineteen: Automatic Thoughts     122

Protection Twenty: Balanced Thinking     125

Protection Twenty-One: The Anxiety Equation  131

Protection Twenty-Two: Taking Care of Yourself 135

Protection Twenty-Three: Lucky or Unlucky    136

Protection Twenty-Four: Control     139

Protection Twenty-Five: Affirmations     141

References     145

Contacts for No Such Thing as a Bully®     146