Mind Whispering: A New Map to Freedom from Self-Defeating Emotional Habits

by Tara Bennett-Goleman

Overview

With her book Mind Whispering, Tara Bennett-Goleman, the New York Times bestselling author of Emotional Alchemy, draws on the the fields of cognitive psychology, neuroscience, and Eastern traditions to present a workable means to overcome the negative patterns in our lives.

Mind Whispering is a new map of the emotional mind. This groundbreaking approach shows us that we have a choice of our moods, emotions, actions, and reactions. Mind Whispering teaches how to manage our brains, and incorporate the timeless wisdom of mindfulness into everyday situations.

Ultimately, Mind Whispering exposes the modes of being that act as obstacles in our lives and relationships, and shows us how we can choose to improve our relationships and free ourselves, living with a lasting sense of happiness. With a foreword by the Dalai Lama, Bennett-Goleman's Mind Whispering: A New Map to Freedom from Self-Defeating Emotional Habits gives you the keys to lasting emotional freedom.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062130891
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	05/21/2024
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	341
File size:	949 KB

About the Author

Tara Bennett-Goleman, New York Times bestselling author of Emotional Alchemy, is a longtime psychotherapist and international workshop leader who has offered seminars on the synthesis of mindfulness and cognitive therapy for many years with her husband, Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence.

Table of Contents

Foreword ix

Part 1 Modes of Being

1 The Lotus Effect 3

2 The World of Modes and Why They Matter 13

3 Root Causes 25

4 Insecure Connections 37

5 An Evolutionary Arms Race 47

6 Traps, Triggers, and Core Beliefs 59

7 The Evolution of Emotion 69

Part 2 Mind Whispering

8 Shifting the Lens 87

9 The Art of Whispering 99

10 The Mindful Overseer 113

11 Mode Work 129

12 Priming Our Secure Base 149

13 Training the Mind 165

14 Wise Heart 179

15 The Physics of Emotion 195

Part 3 Tending to the Whispers of the World

16 Two of Me, Two of You 221

17 Joined at the Heart 235

18 A Shared Secure Base 245

19 The Transformative Power of the Arts 261

20 Collective Whispering 273

21 Connected at the Source 289

Acknowledgments 299

Resources 303

Notes 305

Index 317

What People are Saying About This

Joseph Goldstein

“In weaving together so many different strands of wisdom and compassionate response, Mind Whispering creates a striking and inspiring tapestry of engaged understanding. Tara Bennett-Goleman draws on an amazingly rich and varied life and in so doing illuminates our path of love and freedom.”

Aaron Beck

“Tara Bennett-Goleman’s Mind Whispering furthers the dialogue of psychology east and west. She is truly a pioneer in the integration of Cognitive Therapy and mindfulness. This book is not only useful for clinicians, but for people in their everyday lives.”

Mark Williams

“Bennett-Goleman has written a book of exquisite sensitivity and wisdom, in which she invites us to cultivate a healing relationship to the deepest aspects of ourselves and the world, through ‘mind whispering’. Brilliantly synthesising the ancient wisdom of Asia, with modern psychology, she offers a lasting source of nourishment.”

Editorial Reviews

Blending cognitive psychology, Eastern philosophy, neuroscience, and lessons from the animal kingdom, psychotherapist Bennett-Goleman (Emotional Alchemy) outlines the destructive thought patterns that beget emotional instability, and offers solutions for changing them. After defining the most common negative core beliefs—e.g., subjugation, or the sense that “my wishes and feelings don’t count”; unlovability, the belief that one is essentially defective; and fear of abandonment—the author teaches readers to pinpoint their triggers, recognize damaging mental habits, counteract knee-jerk reactions, decide upon a healthier response, and assert oneself in a productive way. “Sometimes a perspective shift is all it takes to change your reaction,” she opines. As is the case with most self-help books of this sort, that’s easier said than done. But Bennett-Goleman is nevertheless a clear and capable guide. In addition to her treatment of the individual, she also turns a lens on the world at large, advising readers on how to apply these principles to intimate relationships as well as everyday encounters with coworkers, friends, and strangers, and provides suggestions for how to feel empathy for others struggling with their own self-defeating behaviors. A thought-provoking and practical way to reassess one’s emotional life. Agent: Linda Loewenthal, David Black Agency. (May)

Publishers Weekly

Tara Bennett-Goleman’s Mind Whispering furthers the dialogue of psychology east and west. She is truly a pioneer in the integration of Cognitive Therapy and mindfulness. This book is not only useful for clinicians, but for people in their everyday lives.” — Dr. Aaron Beck, Founder of Cognitive Therapy

“In weaving together so many different strands of wisdom and compassionate response, Mind Whispering creates a striking and inspiring tapestry of engaged understanding. Tara Bennett-Goleman draws on an amazingly rich and varied life and in so doing illuminates our path of love and freedom.” — Joseph Goldstein, author of A Heart Full of Peace, and One Dharma

“Bennett-Goleman has written a book of exquisite sensitivity and wisdom, in which she invites us to cultivate a healing relationship to the deepest aspects of ourselves and the world, through ‘mind whispering’. Brilliantly synthesising the ancient wisdom of Asia, with modern psychology, she offers a lasting source of nourishment.” — Mark Williams, Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Oxford, and author of Mindfulness

“Mind Whispering is the connection between thought and action, leading to a paradigm shift in consciousness. Tara Bennett- Goleman’s poetic story telling is addictive, mesmerizingly beautiful and meditatively calm. Mind Whispering is a little gem, a story of conscious evolution.” — Dr. A.T. Ariyaratne, Founder and President of the Sarvodaya Movement, also known as "Sri Lanka's Gandhi"

From the Publisher

In weaving together so many different strands of wisdom and compassionate response, Mind Whispering creates a striking and inspiring tapestry of engaged understanding. Tara Bennett-Goleman draws on an amazingly rich and varied life and in so doing illuminates our path of love and freedom.

Joseph Goldstein

Bennett-Goleman has written a book of exquisite sensitivity and wisdom, in which she invites us to cultivate a healing relationship to the deepest aspects of ourselves and the world, through ‘mind whispering’. Brilliantly synthesising the ancient wisdom of Asia, with modern psychology, she offers a lasting source of nourishment.

Mark Williams

Tara Bennett-Goleman’s Mind Whispering furthers the dialogue of psychology east and west. She is truly a pioneer in the integration of Cognitive Therapy and mindfulness. This book is not only useful for clinicians, but for people in their everyday lives.

Dr. Aaron Beck

Mind Whispering is the connection between thought and action, leading to a paradigm shift in consciousness. Tara Bennett- Goleman’s poetic story telling is addictive, mesmerizingly beautiful and meditatively calm. Mind Whispering is a little gem, a story of conscious evolution.

Dr. A.T. Ariyaratne

"Tara Bennett-Goleman’s Mind Whispering furthers the dialogue of psychology east and west. She is truly a pioneer in the integration of Cognitive Therapy and mindfulness. This book is not only useful for clinicians, but for people in their everyday lives."

Doctor - Aaron Beck

Psychotherapist Bennett-Goleman (The Horse Whisperer, LJ 7/95) synthesizes a variety of disciplines, such as Buddhism, cognitive psychology, and neuroscience, to describe her method of changing negative habits into healthy ones. As one might expect, she draws parallels to working with horses and recommends being aware of one's environment. In order to overcome unhealthy habits, the author advocates mindfulness, loving kindness, and meditation. VERDICT Will appeal to devotees of Eastern philosophy.

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