Table of Contents
Prologue
A Message to My Reader xiv
A Guide for the Road Ahead xvi
Part I Discovering Mike has Alzheimer's
What's Wrong with Mike? 2
The Day We Got the Diagnosis 8
How Long Do We Have? 10
Part II Preparing for the Road Ahead
Mike and I Make a Deal 14
Designating Mike's Power of Attorney 17
Calculating the Cost of Our Home Care Plan 21
To Work or Not to Work 27
Part III Holding on to Our Love Story and Our Dreams
Our Life and Love Before Alzheimer's 34
Keeping the Spark Alive 40
Fulfilling Our Travel Dreams 47
How Love Can Triumph Over Alzheimer's 55
Wedding Rings Have Their Stories 61
Part IV Forming Our Circle of Support
Telling Our Friends that Mike has Alzheimer's 66
Learning to Accept Support from Others 69
The Angels Next Door 73
A Priceless Gift from Two Old Friends 76
Part V Resolving our Differences
Arguments Will Happen 82
The Battle of the Car Keys 87
An ID Bracelet for Mike? 93
Understanding Alzheimer's Anger 97
A Word About Yelling 107
When is it Okay to Lie to Your Love One? 112
Part VI Learning to Compensate and Keep Going
Keeping Mike Safely on His Feet 118
When Words Begin to Fail 125
Table for Two 139
Making the Most of Medications 144
Maintaining Your Partner's Dignity 149
The Magic of Proper Sleep 154
Part VII Still Savoring Life at Year 5
What Life was Like for Mike and Me in Year 5 160
When Mike Could No Longer be Left Alone 174
Hiring a Family Friend to Help 178
Can a Spouse be a Caregiver and Still be a Spouse? 181
Good Reasons to Join a Support Group 185
Part VIII Keeping Up with Our Children and Grand Children
Celebrating Our Daughter's Wedding 190
Mike's Gift for the Baby 194
Little Riley and Grandpa Mike Hit it Off Right Away 197
Part IX Nourishing the Spirit
Keep the Music Playing 206
The Best Medicine of All 210
Kisses and Hugs Continue 215
On Faith and Prayer 217
Part X Counting Our Blessings in Year 9
12 Unexpected Blessings at this Late Stage 222
A Farewell Visit to Mountain Brook 230
Why I Finally Hired a Professional Caregiver 232
Saving Mike from Becoming Bedridden 236
Celebrating our 45th Wedding Anniversary 239
Part XI Accepting that the End of Life Is Near
When Hospice Joined Our Circle 248
Discussing Life and Death 255
Mike's Last Visit to Dr. Jung 259
What Our Last Few Months Together were Like 264
Keeping Our Marriage Bed 272
Human Touch is Therapy 275
Part XII Mike and I Say Goodbye
A Light in the Dark 280
Letting Go 282
Forever Remembered 287
Part XIII Hope for the Future
Have Faith 292
We are All in this Fight Together 294
The Mailbox at the Top of the Hill 298
Acknowledgments 300
More Praise for Mike Me 302
About the Author 304