Publishers Weekly
03/25/2024
In this probing meditation, journalist Jones (The Nature Seed) reflects on how becoming a mother physically and mentally transforms women. Jones emphasizes the beauty and volatility of maternity, juxtaposing the deep love she feels for her three young children with the crushing exhaustion she endured as their primary caregiver. Discussing her postpartum depression, Jones observes that though probiotics and neurosteroids have shown promise in curbing symptoms, they should be paired with more robust social support for new mothers (namely, “affordable childcare and investment in perinatal healthcare”). Unconventional stylistic decisions punctuate the narrative, as when Jones underscores the agony of labor (“so awful and so full of power”) by arranging the phrase “this is how big it needs to be” in a large circle meant to represent a dilated cervix. Seamlessly weaving personal recollections with broader social analysis, Jones describes how she was once “attracted to the idea of a ‘natural birth’ without pain relief” but later discovered that the “fetishization” of natural birth was largely invented by 20th-century obstetrician Grantly Dick-Read, who claimed “modern women” only experienced pain during childbirth because they had lost touch with their natural instincts. Elevated by inventive formal flourishes and searching reflection, this will resonate with mothers of all stripes. Agent: Jessica Woollard, David Higham Assoc. (May)
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Longlisted for Women's Prize for Non-Fiction
“Wide-ranging and hugely ambitious…Marshalling memoir, science, sociology, and history, Jones argues that, outside of adolescence, there is no transformation as dramatic in a human’s life [as motherhood], in both its emotional and biological impacts.”
—The New Yorker
“The book I wish I’d had [when I had my first child]…A tenderly woven, comprehensive explanation of what happens to us when we grow, birth and care for a baby…[Jones] meticulously builds to an irrefutable conclusion: Becoming a mother changes us in ways that are external, internal, and lasting, and it is ‘likely the most drastic endocrine event in human life.’”
—The Cut
“In this maddening journey of motherhood, I encourage everyone to let Matrescence be your soothing guide. From my early days of motherhood to a few years deep in the trenches, Lucy’s words and wisdom continues to guide and comfort me. Matrescence is the sister I never had but always longed for as I try to figure out how to mother in this world. It’s a fierce book, equally tender as it is sharp. It is my kind of bible that I will carry with me (and gift to others!) for a long time.”
—Szilvia Molnar, author of The Nursery
“Sweeping and courageous.” —Tom Mustill, biologist, filmmaker, author of How to Speak Whale
"A deep dive into the radical transformation of becoming a mother...An intimate, insightful memoir."
—Kirkus
“The best book I’ve ever read about motherhood. Myths are . . . smashed from page one, which makes this a thrilling read. Matrescence is essential reading, bloody and alive, roaring and ready to change conversations.” —Jude Rogers, The Observer (UK)
“To read this book – and I very much hope its audience is not confined to women who are about to or have recently given birth – is to emerge chastened and ready for change. Anger is not an emotion we expect from mothers. But, as Jones says, good anger is necessary. Let us hold to that.” —Marianne Levy, I News (UK)
“I loved this book. It’s a questioning, intelligent investigation into the process of becoming a mother, sparked by Jones’ own life but looked at from all angles: environmental, social, historical, neurobiological, psychoanalytical, and more. She suggests that portrayals of motherhood as either rose-tinted bliss or boring drudgery means we fail to prepare women for its reality—and we also fail to allow for its wilder, radical possibilities. Revelatory.”
—Joanna Quinn, author of The Whalebone Theatre
“A beautiful contemplation of the extraordinary yet ordinary metamorphosis that adult humans undergo as they become mothers. I was entranced . . . a passionate and powerful maternal roar for change. Wonderful.” —Gaia Vince, award-winning journalist; author of Adventures in the Anthropocene
“Excellent on the difference between historical views of motherhood and actual experience. In fact, Jones seems to come as close as it’s possible to describing this indescribable moment in a woman’s life.” —Joanna Pocock, The Spectator (UK)
“A scientific and poetic ode to motherhood…Raw and real…Her lyrical prose is celebratory while acknowledging the challenges that can arise during pregnancy and throughout motherhood…A fascinating and worthwhile read, this book for mothers is steeped in research that is both validating and illuminating.”
—Library Journal
“[Jones] charts the monumental impact of having children from every angle. A boundary-pushing book that is more complex and creative, transcending even the ‘part-memoir, part-critical analysis’ genre that has become such a commonplace format for female authors in recent years. There is much to be gleaned as Jones skillfully elucidates the monumental shifts [motherhood] brings. The chapter on the maternal brain is especially fascinating and, more importantly, validating for those of us who feel society’s minimising of matrescence flies in the face of our experience of it. Jones never becomes bogged down in the material, which is quite an achievement considering its scope. At times, I wanted more. Jones is a pioneer, and as such has left some ground unexplored. This book is a beginning, and a fine one at that.” —Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett, The Guardian
“[A] probing meditation…Jones emphasizes the beauty and volatility of maternity…Seamlessly weaving personal recollections with broader social analysis…Elevated by inventive formal flourishes and searching reflection, this will resonate with mothers of all stripes.”
—Publishers Weekly
“A beautiful, intelligent book that is as tender and moving as it is demanding and urgent. An absolutely essential new addition to the literature of mothering and parenthood.” —Clover Stroud, author of The Wild Other
“Jones writes beautifully with searing honesty about life-changing physical and emotional impact of having a child.” —Rachel Sylvester, The Times (UK)
“The single most powerful, life-changing, heartachingly healing thing I have been given. Matrescence holds the power to carry us back to ourselves, to the rituals and community from which we came. . . Lucy Jones is the person who should have written it. I am so glad she did. She has given us mammals such a gift, one that will save lives.” —Kerri ní Dochartaigh, author of Cacophony of Bone
Library Journal
05/01/2024
Award-winning journalist Jones (Losing Eden: Why Our Minds Need the Wild) pens a scientific and poetic ode to motherhood. Equating volcanic eruption to birth and exploring the bond that mother trees have with son and daughter trees through chemical signs, Jones shows how the natural world is full of beauty and contains many parallels to human motherhood. She encourages readers to shed their "good mother" assumptions as a snake does its skin. Raw and real, she details her depression in the months after her baby was born, exposes the pressure on mothers to provide constant and exclusive nurture, and shares the emotions, including feelings of guilt, that she had about breastfeeding. She also explores the stigma and shame surrounding decisions about breastfeeding and natural childbirth, the embarrassment involved in seeking help, and the lack of honest discussion about risks. Jone also asks why celebrations exist for other rites of passage but not for the emotional transition to parenthood. Her lyrical prose is celebratory while acknowledging the challenges that can arise during pregnancy and throughout motherhood. VERDICT A fascinating and worthwhile read, this book for mothers is steeped in research that is both validating and illuminating.
Kirkus Reviews
2024-02-15
A deep dive into the radical transformation of becoming a mother.
British journalist Jones, author of Foxes Unearthed and Losing Eden, combines memoir, reportage, and social critique in a wide-ranging inquiry into the physical, emotional, and intellectual metamorphoses that women experience during pregnancy and early motherhood. Her first pregnancy, she reveals, was nothing like what she expected. Instead of morning sickness, she had constant nausea; her sense of smell became heightened; she craved salty, fatty foods; and her hair “came loose.” Furthermore, being “inhabited by another person” made her feel psychologically destabilized. The birth was also far different from what she imagined. Undergoing more than 41 hours of labor, she admits, was “the most dramatic and frightening experience of my life.” Her exhaustion intensified after her daughter was born. Breastfeeding constantly to meet the infant’s demands, she never slept more than a few hours at a time. She was frustrated because her baby kept losing weight, felt guilty for supplementing breast milk with formula, and was confused by conflicting advice about how to handle a baby’s sleeping and feeding. Alone with her daughter, who often cried inconsolably, she felt isolated; although she had visits from a health worker, she found herself unable to ask for help. Causes for postnatal depression, she discovered, include profound biochemical changes, lack of support networks for new mothers, and a flawed model of intensive motherhood, which overemphasizes a mother’s responsibility for her child’s health and development and leaves mothers feeling “stress, burnout, and guilt.” Now a mother of three, Jones feels that she is emerging from “matrescent angst.” Motherhood, she writes, “tested my empathy to the limit, it challenged me intellectually, it required me to answer and ask questions constantly, to consider metaphysics and the origins of matter.” Complex and “breathtakingly challenging,” it changed her forever.
An intimate, insightful memoir.
