Manhood for Amateurs: The Pleasures and Regrets of a Husband, Father, and Son

Manhood for Amateurs: The Pleasures and Regrets of a Husband, Father, and Son

by Michael Chabon
Manhood for Amateurs: The Pleasures and Regrets of a Husband, Father, and Son

Manhood for Amateurs: The Pleasures and Regrets of a Husband, Father, and Son

by Michael Chabon

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Overview

“Chabon has always been a magical prose stylist, adept at combining the sort of social and emotional detail found in Philip Roth’s Goodbye, Columbus stories with the metaphor-rich descriptions of John Updike and John Irving’s inventive sleight of hand. . . . As in his novels, he shifts gears easily between the comic and the melancholy, the whimsical and the serious, demonstrating once again his ability to write about the big subjects of love and memory and regret without falling prey to the Scylla and Charybdis of cynicism and sentimentality.”
— Michiko Kakutani, New York Times

“Wondrous, wise and beautiful.”
— David Kamp, New York Times Book Review

The bestselling and Pulitzer Prize-winning author of Werewolves in Their Youth, Wonderboys, The Mysteries of Pittsburgh, The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, and The Yiddish Policemen’s Union Michael Chabon “takes [his] brutally observant, unfailingly honest, marvelously human gaze and turns it on his own life” (Time) in the New York Times bestselling memoir Manhood for Amateurs.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780061490194
Publisher: HarperCollins
Publication date: 05/11/2010
Series: P.S. Series
Pages: 306
Sales rank: 641,207
Product dimensions: 5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

About The Author
Michael Chabon is the bestselling and Pulitzer Prize-winning author of Moonglow and The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay, among many others. He lives in Berkeley, California with his wife, the novelist Ayelet Waldman, and their children.

Hometown:

Berkeley, California

Date of Birth:

May 24, 1963

Place of Birth:

Washington, D.C.

Education:

B.A., University of Pittsburgh; M.F.A., University of California at Irvine

Table of Contents

I Secret Handshake

The Losers' Club 3

II Techniques of Betrayal

William and I 11

The Cut 21

D.A.R.E. 29

The Memory Hole 37

The Binding of Isaac 43

III Strategies for the Folding of Time

To the Legoland Station 51

The Wilderness of Childhood 59

Hypocritical Theory 67

The Splendors of Crap 75

IV Exercises in Masculine Affection

The Hand on My Shoulder 87

The Story of Our Story 95

The Ghost of Irene Adler 105

The Heartbreak Kid 111

A Gift 119

V Styles of Manhood

Faking It 127

Art of Cake 135

On Canseco 143

I Feel Good About My Murse 151

VI Elements of Fire

Burning Women 161

Verging 169

Fever 175

Looking for Trouble 179

A Woman of Valor l85

VII Patterns of Early Enchantment

Like, Cosmic 197

Subterranean 205

X09 211

Sky and Telescope 217

VIII Studies in Pink and Blue

Surefire Lines 225

Cosmodemonic 231

Boyland 239

A Textbook Father 245

IX Tactics of Wonder and Loss

The Omega Glory 253

Getting Out 261

Radio Silence 267

Normal Time 275

Xmas 281

The Amateur Family 291

X Cue the Mickey Katz

Daughter of the Commandment 301

What People are Saying About This

Douglas C. Lord

“Both lyrical and side-splittingly funny. . . . Readers seeking the intelligence of Updike; the gentle, brainy appeal of Sedaris; or the literary virtuosity of Nabokov will thoroughly enjoy.”

Jerry Eberle

“Chabon takes a big, fat swing at the essay form with his second collection and achieves success. . . . These warm and thoughtful essays underscore just how good a wordsmith Chabon is-regardless of the form he chooses.”

Jeremy Adam Smith

“Hilarious, moving, pleasurable, disturbing, transcendent, restless. . . . And seemingly by accident, Chabon ultimately does create a composite image of ideal manhood, one that is modest, responsible, bemused, empathic, and thoughtful.”

Lev Grossman

“Chabon brings his prodigiously entertaining verbal intelligence to a very personal investigation of what it means to be a father, a son, and a husband.”

Interviews

Michael Chabon
An email conversation with Cameron Martin

Michael Chabon's newest book, Manhood for Amateurs, is a collection of personal essays that charts the course of his experiences as a son, husband, and father. His ruminations range from poignant memories of a lonely childhood in which imagination helped salve the bitterness of his parents' divorce, to the frank thoughts of a successful man filling some of the duties traditionally left to women. In a recent email exchange with Barnes & Noble Review contributor Cameron Martin, Chabon, who won the 2001 Pulitzer for The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay, discusses the art of the personal essay, his plans for a second children's book, and the subject and setting for his upcoming novel, which will be "more mainstream than my recent work."

Barnes & Noble Review: The majority of the essays in this collection first appeared in Details magazine. How did that column originate? Did you and the editors hash out a template for the type of material you'd regularly address or were you given carte blanche?

Michael Chabon: I was first approached by the magazine's editor in chief, Dan Peres, back in early 2001. At the time I didn't feel that a monthly column was a burden I wanted to assume. When Dan came back to me four years later with the same proposition, I eagerly accepted. Evidently something had changed during the interval. The births of two more Chabon children, with their associated expenses, may have had played a certain part.

From the beginning there was no set subject or theme. Peres and Details were incredibly generous and tolerant and supportive, and I never got any kind of directive orguidance to try to tailor my pieces to please a particular readership, or anything like that.

BNR: In "The Story of Our Story," you said the birth of your brother, when you were five, signaled the beginning of your storytelling career. "I had learned to work a record player, tell lies, read the funny pages, and feel awkward at parties. But it was not until that morning, in early September 1968, that my story truly began. Until my brother was born, I had no one to tell it to." If you'd been an only child, how do you think your interest and confidence in storytelling would have evolved? Would it have developed later, as you made school friends? Were other influences -- your parents, other relatives -- in line to foster this interest, or do you think it would have been nipped in the bud without the presence of a younger sibling who saw you in a "heroic light"?

MC: This is one counterfactual that is really difficult to imagine. Certainly many of our best storytellers have been only children, so it's not like it's a sine qua non. And for the first 5+ years of my life, I was an only child. I think that gave me a certain confidence and poise with adults -- I was always the kid who stayed at the dinner table to be with the grownups when everybody else went off to watch TV after dessert. But the first stories I ever told, the first deliberate attempts at producing extended works of fiction for the purpose of entertainment, were the stories I told my little brother. He still remembers and talks about them. His patient, willing, eager audienceship played a crucial role in my idea of who I was and of what I was able and wanted to do.

BNR: In several works you lament the over-regimented lives of your four children, who aren't experiencing and cherishing the freewheeling aspects of childhood -- hours roaming the neighborhood without adult supervision, for one thing -- that fed your own imagination. Were there any parts of your own childhood that you wish had been less regimented or overseen, that with looser strictures would have spurred your imagination even more?

MC: That, too, is hard to imagine. In the summertime sometimes I walked out the door after breakfast, said goodbye to my Mom, and came home in time for dinner. The only part of my childhood that was overly regimented was school, and even there, at least for the first few years of elementary school, I knew greater freedom than a lot of kids, because in that era the public schools of Columbia, Maryland employed a lot of radical new late-60s ideas like Open Classrooms and Media Centers and Team Teaching. Most of that had disappeared by the time I reached middle school, at which point there really was a clampdown, and things turned kind of gray. Summer never lost its sense of infinite liberty, though.

BNR: What personal essayists do you enjoy reading?

MC: Essayists whose work shaped my idea of essay writing, or to which I return continually for inspiration, in no particular order: Roland Barthes, Jonathan Lethem, Susan Sontag, Geoffrey O'Brien, David Foster Wallace, Walter Benjamin, Jorge Luis Borges, Greil Marcus, S. J. Perelman, Roger Angell, Ursula K. Le Guin...

BNR: In these essays you're reticent about the details of your parents' divorce and your own divorce from your first wife, yet frank about your second wife's bipolar condition and about having sex as a teenager with your mother's thirtysomething friend. What informs your decision to describe certain situations or events while withholding the details of others? Beyond the divorces, are there topics in your life you don't feel comfortable detailing in your essays?

MC: Well, I'm not out to embarrass anybody or to engage in recrimination or payback. In the case of my wife's bipolar disorder, I was following well after her own open and candid writing on the subject; in the case of the second piece you mention, I don't name any names or give any telling details. I don't think there's really much more to say about my divorce; it wasn't really that interesting. As for my parents' divorce, the most painful, central truth of it is one that I freely divulge: that I felt my father had abandoned me. Nothing else I could say would be worse than that, from my child's-eye point of view.

BNR: Do you still resent your father's actions in regards to the divorce? Has being married and divorced and raising your own family at all caused you to see him and his actions in a different light? You say as a child that you felt your father abandoned you when you parents divorced. This book about Manhood is dedicated to your brother, Steve. Why the decision to dedicate this particular book to him?

MC: Oh, yeah, that was all a long time ago. The verb was in the past tense for a reason. Those were different times, to quote Lou Reed.

I already dedicated a book to my father - The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay. You have to, you know, spread the love.

BNR: Is the monthly essay something you look forward to writing, either as a way to organize some thoughts about your life or to revisit past episodes? Or is it something that usually comes together under the threat of deadline?

MC: It pretty much routinely alternated between those two poles. But I actually thrive under deadline... some of my favorite pieces in the book were written in a panic. Many times I began a column at leisure, with a clear idea of the thoughts I wanted to "organize" as you put it, and a week to go, only to find myself a day late with nothing any good -- and then I would pound something out lickety-split, on an impulse, and have it turn out well. I should mention that I have written my last column for Details, it's in the current issue, I believe.

BNR: Many of the essays in this collection contain detailed descriptions of products and entertainments from your childhood. Do you ever find that a hazy memory sends you off to research a product, movie or television show from your past, and in researching you unlock a memory or a detail you'd otherwise have forgotten and which in turn becomes the focus of an essay?

MC: Absolutely. The one that comes immediately to mind is the one triggered by the Captain Underpants series of books, which led me to research and explore the old Wacky Packages trading cards.

BNR: You published a 15-part serial in the New York Times magazine, "Gentlemen of the Road," in the first half of 2007. What was the overall reaction from fans? Did they enjoy the tantalization of the installments or were they impatient for the whole package? Do you think fiction readers want more serials, and would you like to try your hand at it again?

MC: I was not overly conscious, let's say, that there was a fervent mob of readers hanging on the end of every installment, ready to charge down to the wharves to greet the ship bringing in the latest chapter... I think the serial is still viable, in theory. But I don't think people turn to the Sunday Times Magazine looking for, or expecting to find, fiction there, and I'm not sure that the layout, design and format of the magazine really lent themselves to the presentation of a short serialized novel. There's something diffuse about it, vast pages of tiny type...

BNR: Did having children encourage you to write Summerland, your first children's novel, and do you intend to revisit this genre? Were the ideas for it in place before your children were born, or did they grow from specific experiences you had while raising them?

MC: I had been kicking around vague notions of writing a novel based in American folklore, as so many classic novels for children are based on Northern European folklore, since I was about 12. Having children, and not being able to find any really great fiction about baseball to read to them, impelled me to try my own baseball book, and to merge it with that other, ancient idea of mine. And yes, I do plan to return to the field again -- before too long, I hope.

BNR: You've written novels, short stories, essays and film scripts. Which type of writing provides you with the greatest joy or satisfaction, taking into account the process itself and the end results?

MC: They all provide identical joy on the day that I complete them. I take my satisfaction in writing sentences and paragraphs, so they all qualify, even scripts -- but as a reader I love novels most. As a writer, I can't ignore that love.

BNR: When can we expect to read your next novel-length work of fiction? What genre will it be in? And what can you tell us about the plot, settings and characters?

MC: 2011? It's more mainstream than my recent work, set in present day Berkeley and Oakland. I am having fun writing it -- most of the time.\

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