Table of Contents
Preface to the Second Edition ix
Introduction Stephen Mitchell xiii
How to Read This Book xxxiii
1 A Few Basic Principles 3
2 The Great Undoing 12
3 Entering the Dialogues 30
4 Doing The Work on Couples and Family Life 34
My Husband's Affair 36
Elise Is Ignoring Me 47
My Father Was Horrible 61
Stanley Didn't Have to Die 86
I Need My Family's Approval 95
Peter Broke His Word to Me 106
My Son and Daughter-in-Law Are Being Reckless 122
5 Deepening Inquiry 143
6 Doing The Work on Work and Money 164
He's So Incompetent! 167
Uncle Ralph and His Stock Tips 172
Angry at Corporate America 190
7 Doing The Work on Self-Judgments 199
8 Doing The Work with Children 203
Abby and Zoë Don't Want Me to Play with Them 207
9 Doing The Work on Underlying Beliefs 218
She Was Supposed to Make Me Happy 224
I Need to Make a Decision 239
10 Doing The Work on Any Thought or Situation 251
11 Doing The Work on the Body and Addictions 257
My Daughter's Addiction 259
12 Making Friends with the Worst That Can Happen 272
My Father Is Going to Beat Me 276
Afraid of Death 294
Bombs Are Falling 303
I'm Angry at Sam for Dying 312
Terrorism in New York City 318
13 Questions and Answers 332
14 The Work in Your Life 349
Appendix: Self-Facilitation 353
Contact Information 359
Notes to the Introduction 361