Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief: A Comprehensive Guide to Reclaiming and Cultivating Joy and Carrying on in the Face of Loss (A Grief Recovery Handbook)
224
Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief: A Comprehensive Guide to Reclaiming and Cultivating Joy and Carrying on in the Face of Loss (A Grief Recovery Handbook)
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Overview
Living Now Book Award, Silver – Aging, Death, & Dying
“Filled with insight, wisdom, and relatable stories, this resource shares everything you need to know to start living again with joy, meaning, and love after loss.” —Chelsea Hanson, author of The Sudden Loss Survival Guide
Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief is a handbook for dealing with grief, organized so that you can pick and choose a topic from the table of contents pertaining to the issue affecting you the most at that moment.
Rediscover sustained moments of joy as you seek a new way of being in the world. Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief guides and lightens the journey to positivity for those who feel the pain of loss, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a job, a marriage, a house, a pregnancy, a nest egg—anyone or anything that we loved and that is no longer in our lives. In this book, author and fellow griever Emily Thiroux Threatt provides you with strategies to embrace the process of learning how to start living again. The book includes 26 practices and stories from people who have been through the grieving process and have come out on the other side feeling renewed: one for every week of the year.
Mourning and coping with grief looks different for everyone. Emily organized Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief with this in mind, giving you 26 different options to try in any given moment. Find what works for you, with dozens of ideas covered, including:
- Meditating and allowing space for mindful grieving, sadness and loneliness
- Finding joy and gratitude in the dark moments
- Learning what you can say to others so that they can better understand and help you in your recovery
If you’ve found help from grief books like It's OK That You're Not OK, Bearing the Unbearable, To Love and Let Go, or Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, then you’ll be encouraged and inspired by all of the tips and ideas in Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781642504828 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Mango Media |
| Publication date: | 01/19/2021 |
| Pages: | 224 |
| Sales rank: | 1,063,720 |
| Product dimensions: | 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.20(d) |
About the Author
She holds a Master’s Degree in English with a concentration in Writing. She has been teaching writing and composition on the college and university level over 30 years. During that time, she published the following three writing textbooks, published by Prentice Hall and Pearson Education.
Emily conducts workshops, speaking engagements, and retreats on transforming from loss on the mainland of the United States and in her home in Hawaii.
To learn more, please visit her website at 52practicesforpositivity.com and connect with her on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/1003396810042262/
Michael Bernard Beckwith is the Founder and Spiritual Director of the Agape International Spiritual Center, a transdenominational community headquartered in Los Angeles comprised of thousands of local members and global live streamers. Highly regarded for its cultural, racial, and spiritual diversity, the late Coretta Scott King wrote to Beckwith, “I greatly admire what you are doing to bring about the Beloved Community, which is certainly what my dear husband worked for and ultimately gave his life.” Widely recognized for his teachings on the science of inner transformation, Dr. Beckwith embraces a practical approach to spirituality utilizing meditation, affirmative prayer, and Life Visioning, a spiritual technology he developed for conscious evolution, authentic living, and living your life purpose. These practices teach us to take the experience of inner peace and awakened awareness into our everyday lives.
Dr. Beckwith is a sought after meditation teacher, conference speaker, and TM seminar leader on the Life Visioning Process. He’s addressed audiences at the UN General Assembly during its annual World Interfaith Harmony Week, TEDx Maui, and Oprah Winfrey Network’s (OWN) Supe rSoul Sessions, among numerous others. As co-founder and president of the Association for Global New Thought, he hosts conferences featuring harbingers of world peace including His Holiness the Dalai Lama, and had the distinguished honor of presenting to Nelson Mandela the Gandhi King Award.
Three of his books—Life Visioning, Spiritual Liberation, and TranscenDance Expanded—are recipients of the prestigious Nautilus Award. His new app, Beckwith Inspires, features essential spiritual tools, technologies, and practices to help shift perceptions and transform lives. He has appeared on OWN’s Super Soul Sunday and Help Desk; Dr. Oz; CNN, The Oprah Show; Larry King Live; Tavis Smiley; and in his own PBS Special, The Answer Is You. He is a member of Oprah’s esteemed inaugural Super Soul 100. His weekly Instagram Live series, Lifting the Veil, airs Tuesdays at 1pm.
For more information visit: agapelive.com and michaelbernardbeckwith.com.
Read an Excerpt
When I thought I didn’t really have anything to live for, I started writing down what I am grateful for. I found I kept writing more things and making new lists, and that I wasn’t repeating myself. This showed me how good my life actually was and that I really had lots to live for.
For a long time after Jacques died, I didn’t smile. Life just kind of happened, and I just let it. A couple of my friends, Joe and Ruth, were concerned about me and gave me a copy of the movie The Secret to watch. I watched it with a chip on my shoulder. I didn’t see how anything that it said had anything to do with me. It seemed like the movie was about magical thinking where I could just decide I wanted something, and I would have it. I didn’t see how that could be true. After I watched the movie, I noticed in the case for the DVD there was a sheet that said, “Don’t turn this over until you watched the movie.” Since I had watched the movie, I turned it over, and it was simply a sheet with lines and a statement at the top that said to write down things I was grateful for. My attitude was, yah, right, but I decided to challenge myself and started writing. It didn’t take me long to fill the page. I was surprised because here I was thinking I was miserable, yet I easily filled a page with things I was grateful for. And it felt good!
This little exercise got me going and I found that I was constantly thinking of more things to be grateful for, and I just had to write them down. I wrote on scraps of paper in my purse, on the backs of receipts, and actually on anything that was handy when a thought would come up. I finally bought a little journal and started to record things there. I was absolutely amazed that I kept coming up with new things, and the more new things I came up with, the better I felt, and I realized I was smiling. Knowing how good writing down my gratitude was making me feel made me want to share this feeling with others. I started paying attention when anyone did something I was grateful for, and I would express my gratitude right then. If someone held the door open for me, I thanked that person. When my hairdresser cut my hair, I told her how great it made me feel to have her do such a wonderful job. I even wrote notes to people to thank them for a variety of things they did that made my life easier or made me smile. The more grateful I became, the happier I became. I felt better. Most of my physical complaints subsided. I lost weight. And life in general felt good again. And I knew then I would survive.
At this point, you may be saying that you don’t have anything to be grateful for. I understand that, but I encourage you to try this tool anyway. Before I started writing my own gratitude lists, I came to realize that that I was unconsciously making lots of lists of things I wasn’t grateful for which I now call my Poor Me lists. I would dwell on how lonely I was, how terrible my alcoholic next-door neighbor was who abused his wife and encouraged his sons to fight, how I no longer had a job I loved because I gave it up to care for my dying husband, how my friends didn’t call me, how I had no idea what to do next, and on and on and on. Those lists didn’t serve me. So, I now write gratitude lists which do serve me. Now I am grateful I wake up in the morning. I am grateful for the beautiful place I live. I am grateful to hear the birds singing every day. I am grateful that I can take a deep breath. I am grateful that I can write gratitude lists.
Try writing right now five things you are grateful for. No one will see them or judge you, so feel free to write anything you would like. Start each item with “I am grateful for,” then complete the sentence. Do this every day. Try not to repeat things, but it is ok if you do. There are no rules here. Just gratitude.
Table of Contents
IntroductionChapter 1: Lori’s Letter
Chapter 2: Wrap Yourself in Love
Chapter 3: Feeling How You Feel
Chapter 4: Putting Your Affairs in Order
Chapter 5: Meditation
Chapter 6: Cocooning
Chapter 7: Loss
Chapter 8: Gratitude
Chapter 9: Self-Love
Chapter 10: Judgement
Chapter 11: Being Social
Chapter 12: Loneliness
Chapter 13: Joy
Chapter 14: Resources
Chapter 15: Your Transformation Timeline
Chapter 16: Changing Your Surroundings
Chapter 17: The Stages of Grief
Chapter 18: Your Memories
Chapter 19: Releasing: Clean Out Your Closet
Chapter 20: What Others Say
Chapter 21: Love
Chapter 22: Grief Is Healthy
Chapter 23: Tell Your Story
Chapter 24: Give Yourself Permission to Do What You Want
Chapter 25: Crying in the Car
Chapter 26: Feeling Guilty
About the Author
Gratitude
What People are Saying About This
“Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief is a deeply transformative book. Emily’s poignant experiences of loss captivates the reader and takes them on a journey of inner strength and hope. She has distilled her lifetime of experiences into timeless wisdom and strategies to help others work through their own losses and to know they are not alone.
“As a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst with over thirty-five years of experience, I can highly recommend this book to anyone who has or is facing challenging life circumstances.”
—Tony Toneatto, PhD and professor at the University of Toronto, Canada
“An insightful, riveting, thoughtful and thoroughly engaging work on finding joy while experiencing grief. Inspired by her personal experience, Emily Thiroux Threatt generously and lovingly offers a practical yet spiritual guide for loving and living your way through a process no one welcomes but all must at some time traverse.
“Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief provides a wealth of reader-friendly support, guidance, encouragement and acknowledgement for implementation of its wise, workable recommendations for navigating through the loss of a loved one.
“Spiritual practice, common sense and uncommon wisdom fill these pages. Letters and lists, stages and steps, principles and processes address, inspire, and motivate feeling how you feel, living in the moment, surviving and thriving—all in the midst of your grief.
“A wondrous and welcome addition to your library of living and loving through loss, this book is to be savored, treasured and kept close at hand and heart as needed, desired and required. A true gift to a grieving heart.”
—Rev. Greta Sesheta, 7-Pointer Star Ministries
“When you’re hurting, Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief serves as a steadfast guide to ease your deep sorrow, open your heart to joy, and restore your life after loss.
“Emily Thiroux Threatt not only teaches you how to use love and joy to cope with loss, but also offers many practical tools and useful suggestions to rebuild your shattered world. From journaling to practicing gratitude to setting intentions, you’ll find support, understanding, and comfort whether you’re new to grief or have been living with loss for years.
“Filled with insight, wisdom, and relatable stories, this resource shares everything you need to know to start living again with joy, meaning, and love after loss.”
–Chelsea Hanson, author of The Sudden Loss Survival Guide: 7 Essential Practices for Healing Grief
“We all know that grief is a long process, but I find few resources that are structured to walk us through that first year of loss in both an empathetic and a constructive way.
“Reading this book is like sitting down with Emily on her back porch in Maui, sipping tea and talking about life.
“While it’s so easy to self-isolate when grieving, this book might be the first ‘friend’ you invite back in. You’ll find kind, gentle words, as well as practical resources to help you on your journey.”
—Danica Thurber, certified therapeutic art life coach, Project Grief
“Threatt’s personal experience with the deaths of husbands, parents, and other loved ones equipped her well to author this primer in navigating the territory of grief. She recognizes the uniqueness of each person’s grief and offers a smorgasboard of practical suggestions to help people along their individual paths. This book is quite timely, given the current pandemic which has left immeasurable grief in its wake.”
—Brooke A. Brown, PhD, founder of Nā Keiki O Emalia, a non-profit foundation which provides support to grieving children, teens, and their families to help them heal after the death of a loved one
“There are many reasons I love this book. Two of them are that it is easy to read and it contains many easy-to-do ideas to ease your loss. I wish it was available when my wife died. It wasn’t then, but it is now. Don’t miss a chance to get this heartfelt handbook of healing. It is a godsend.”
—Allen Klein, author of Embracing Life After Loss