Table of Contents
Foreword 11
Introduction 15
Section 1 Foundations
Chapter 1 Crossing the Bridge When we get There 23
Section 2 Lies Men Believe
Chapter 2 Lies Men Believe About God 35
1 God is not a whole lot different from me 41
2 God isn't actually involved in or concerned with the details of my life 44
3 I can earn God's favor 48
4 There are many ways to God 51
5 Church? I can take it or leave it 54
Chapter 3 Lies Men Believe About Themselves 59
6 I'm not responsible for my actions 63
7 Pleasure and entertainment can satisfy me 67
8 I'm the master of my own destiny 70
9 Real men don't cry 73
10 I don't need male friends 75
Chapter 4 Lies Men Believe About Sin 81
11 Who others think I am matters more than who I really am 87
12 If I mean well, that's good enough 91
13 My sin isn't really that bad 94
14 God could never forgive me for what I've done 97
15 I can hide my secret sin since it only hurts me 100
16 Holiness is boring 106
Chapter 5 Lies Men Believe About Sexuality 109
17 A little porn is harmless 114
18 What my wife doesn't know won't hurt her 119
19 If I experience same-sex attraction, I should pursue a same-sex relationship 122
20 I have sexual needs my wife can't fulfill 127
Chapter 6 Lies Men Believe About Marriage and Family 133
21 Love doesn't require spoken words 138
22 My wife is supposed to make me happy 142
23 I don't have what it takes to be the CEO of my home. I can leave that role to my wife 145
24 I don't have to grow up 153
25 If I discipline my kids, they'll rebel 157
Chapter 7 Lies Men Believe About Work and Wealth 163
26 Making more money will make me happier 169
27 How I spend my time is my business 172
28 I'm not responsible to be the provider for my wife and family 176
29 My faith and my work are unrelated 182
30 I can't afford to give more money away 188
Chapter 8 Lies Men Believe About Circumstances 193
31 I have the right to be angry when things don't go my way 199
32 Pain and suffering are always bad 201
33 The world is rigged against me 206
34 I can't help how I react to certain people or circumstances 211
35 I can run away from God 216
Chapter 9 Lies Men Believe About the World 221
36 The world is too messed up to bring children into 228
37 I'm measured by how I compare with other men 233
38 With everything going on in my life, it's really not possible to live with integrity 238
39 Being a Christian is supposed to be cool 242
40 My death will be the end of my story 246
Section 3 Walking in Truth
Chapter 10 COuntering the Lies with the Truth 253
Chapter 11 The Truth that Sets Us Free 267
Epilogue 287
Acknowledgments 291
Notes 295