Table of Contents
Foreword Ruth Soukup xv
Introduction 1
1 Nature Is Proof That Ease Surrounds Us 9
2 Add to Your Plate 12
3 Volume Creates Victory 14
4 The Best and Fastest Way to Change Someone 16
5 You Are Bigger Than What's Making You Anxious 19
6 Living Your Dreams Can Stan Right This Second 22
7 If Something feels Off. It Probably Is 25
8 It's Okay to Be Sad after Making the Right Decision 27
9 What to Remember When You Mess Up 29
10 Call Your To-Do List Your "Get-to-Do" List 32
11 Ordinary Routines Create Extraordinary Results 33
12 Wear Out Don't Rust Out, Baby 36
13 Communicate without Confusion 37
14 You Don't Have to Defend Yourself, Ever 40
15 Success Is Very Unsexy 42
16 Drifting Off Your Life's Course Happens Slowly 44
17 "Best Thing I Never Had" Is the Best Beyonce Song 46
18 Take Yourself Out to Lunch 49
19 What to Know When You're Not Someone's Cup of Tea 51
20 Stop Trying to "Balance" Everything 54
21 Everyone Has (Invisible) Scars 56
22 See the World in High Definition 58
23 A Little Extra Makes All the Difference 60
24 Be Easy about Sex 62
25 Argue for Your Possibilities 65
26 Just Decide 67
27 Know Your Blind Spots 68
28 Confidence Is Simply a Willingness to Feel Uncomfortable 70
29 The Past Does Not Create the Present 72
30 Desire Is the Greatest Force in Human Nature 74
31 Grief Is Love 76
32 Every Silver Lining Has a Cloud (and That's Okay) 78
33 Let People Know You're Happy to See Them 80
34 The Next Time Someone Gives You a Weird Look 82
35 Good and Bad, You'll Get Used to It! 84
36 If You Don't Feel Like an Imposter, Are You Really Going for It? 86
37 If They Gossip to You, They'll Gossip about You 88
38 Call on Your Imaginary Mentors 90
39 Stop Saving, "I'm Proud of You" 92
40 The Best Coaching Question Ever 94
41 The Grass Is Greener Because It's Fake 96
42 Stop Picturing Success (and Do This Instead) 98
43 When You Thrive, Everyone Wins 100
44 The Oscar Curse Is Real 102
45 Pain Is Good Because It Makes You Move 104
46 Commitment Makes Life Easy: The 100 Percent Rule 106
47 Loving You Is the Real You 110
48 When You Think You're Not [Fill in the Blank] Enough 112
49 The Best Thoughts Ignite This One Feeling 114
50 What Palm Trees Teach Us about Resilience 117
51 What You're Not Changing, You're Choosing 119
52 Fun Is Always an Option (Even When Things Go Wrong) 121
53 Don't Rob Yourself of New Experiences 123
54 We Are Everything We See and Feel 125
55 The World Will Always Match Your Energy 126
56 Saving Money Is Expensive Sometimes 128
57 Just Be on Time 130
58 Don't Underestimate Your Contribution 132
59 Boredom Is Dangerous 134
60 It's All Relative 136
61 No One Intends to Screw Up Their Life (a Lesson in Compassion) 138
62 Good Enough, Is 140
63 Tell People Who Are Suffering They Are Not Alone 141
64 Couples Therapy - Just Do It 143
65 Unmute Yourself 145
66 The Present Moment Creates the Past 147
67 Don't Deprive Others of the Joy of Helping You 149
68 Putting Yourself First Is Generous 151
69 A Secret Superpower 153
70 Don't Just Consume, Create! 154
71 Talk about It, Already 156
72 Stop Fighting with Yourself 159
73 Australian Wisdom You Can Use Every Day 161
74 Success Leaves Clues 163
75 How to Give the Perfect Gift 164
76 You Spot It, You Got It 166
77 A Positive Mental Attitude Can Save a Life 167
78 Your Value Is Not Determined by How Other People Treat You 169
79 Someone's Death Does Not Define Their Life 170
80 It's Okay to Break Up with a Friend 171
81 Lets Revel in Your Accomplishments for a Second 173
82 Can't Forgive? That's Understandable 175
83 There's No Such Thing as Normal 177
84 Take a Stand for the "And" 179
85 The Biggest Manifesting Magnetizer: Appreciation 180
86 Keep Your Network Alive 183
87 Pity Is Never Helpful 185
88 Divorce Is Not a Big Deal 187
89 The Secret to Contentment - Even If You Feel Lonely or Sad or Lost 189
90 Sulking Is Worse Than Fighting 191
91 Just Thirty Minutes Is Enough 193
92 Don't Give Up Hope on a Strained Family Relationship 194
93 The Pickup Line That Resulted in Two Husbands 195
94 Give People Quantity Time 196
95 Priority Is Meant to Be Singular 198
96 The Pursuit of Happiness Is Miserable 199
97 Drop the Ball Sometimes 201
98 It's Better to Be Happy Than Right 202
99 Anticipatory Fear Is the Worst Kind of Fear 204
100 Putting Yourself Down Is Exhausting for Others 205
101 The Core of Any Phobia Is a Loss of Control 206
102 Actions Have Consequences 207
103 Ask Yourself, How Much of My Life Was My Idea? 209
104 Use This Perspective to Relax 210
105 Victims Need Villains 212
106 Never Say, "I Don't Have Time" 213
107 Humans Are Wired for Mimicry 214
108 Take It Seriously but Hold It Lightly 215
109 Be Generous in Order to Win 216
110 Give the People You Love Permission to Die 218
111 Desire Requires Distance Sometimes 219
112 Unused Talents May as Well Not Exist 221
113 Happiness Is a Short Memory 223
114 When in Doubt, Zoom Out 225
115 Deflate Drama with Distraction 227
116 Say Sorry First 228
117 Build Trust with Yourself 230
118 People Who Don't Trust Can't Be Trusted 232
119 Know Your One Thing 234
120 See the Child in Everyone 236
121 Love Is What Makes a Family 238
122 Four Words to Be Wary of Using 240
123 When You Want to Give Up, Remember This 242
124 Live and Let Live - the Ultimate Wisdom 243
125 Nostalgia Is Dangerous 245
126 Too Late Is a Decision, Not a Position 247
127 Raise Your Hand Even When You Don't Know the Answer 249
128 There's Nothing Uncool about Practice 251
129 Find Commonalities with Your "Enemies" 253
130 Let Selling Be Easy 256
131 Be Flexible When Unexpected Things Happen 260
132 One Day, You Won't Even Be a File in a Hospital 262
133 Replace Your Knife with an Ax 263
134 Batch Your Life! 264
135 The Best Way to Make a Friend 266
136 Only Action Cures Fear 267
137 You're Apologizing Too Much 268
138 Qualifications Aren't Everything 269
139 Closure Requires Only One Person 271
140 You Don't Have to Finish What You Start 273
141 What You Don't Like in Someone Else, You Probably Don't Like in Yourself. 275
142 Doing It Is Easier Than Not Doing It 277
143 Be a Light for Others 279
About the Author 283
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