Intuitive Parenting: How to tune in to your innate wisdom
Intuitive Parenting: How to tune in to your innate wisdom
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Overview
Reconnect with your parenting intuition and the innate wisdom it provides with simple, practical steps. Reduce stress and overwhelm, improve your confidence and your relationship with your child or children.
'In her wise book, Jennifer Day makes a powerful case for parental confidence . . . Intuitive Parenting offers practical strategies for overcoming the stresses of parenting and embracing our own inner capacities' - Daniel H. Pink, bestselling author of Drive
Parents today are inundated with information and expert advice, often contradictory and invariably overwhelming. This results in anxiety, insecurity and stressed parenting that inevitably drives wedges between parents and children instead of the much-needed connection. This book offers swift, practical and to-the-point information to help you reconnect with your innate wisdom, giving you the confidence to trust your own parenting intuition.
· Learn what gets in the way of connecting to your intuition and how to eliminate it
· Discover the key - and underused - ingredient to your own parenting blueprint
· Learn the three levels of influence you have on your child and how (and why) to align them
· Discover the one simple tool to managing your stress - so easy your child can do it too
· Learn how to give unspoken support and how to practice true listening
The practical everyday applications this book offers will reduce your anxiety and help you to connect and be fully present with your child, improving relationships for you both.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781472142177 |
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| Publisher: | Little, Brown Book Group |
| Publication date: | 07/11/2019 |
| Sold by: | Hachette Digital, Inc. |
| Format: | eBook |
| File size: | 681 KB |
| Age Range: | 12 - 18 Years |
About the Author
Jennifer Day is coach and counsellor with more than twenty-five years of experience, having worked in the field of emotional intelligence since its inception. Originally a choreographer and professional dance teacher, she spent nine years studying alternative approaches to the mastering of emotions and stress on both sides of the Atlantic. The resulting Applied Emotional Mastery® (a practical methodology for managing stress in parents and children and building emotional and social intelligence) has been the subject of studies internationally and has been coached and taught to thousands of individuals, executives, physicians, students, teachers and parents in the US and the UK. She is the best-selling author of Creative Visualization with Children: A Practical Guide, and Children Believe Everything You Say, as well as other books.
Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Why we have lost touch with our parenting intuition and how we can regain it 1
The difference between intuition and instinct 4
1 What Every Parent Should Know (But Doesn't)
About the Brain 9
Plasticity and how the brain changes 9
The brain's threat system 10
The 'thinking' brain 11
How we hardwire children's brains 13
2 There But Not There 15
Parents' greatest fear 15
Why the loss of 'the village' is detrimental to children 16
How social media affects children's emotional growth 18
Parents' IT use and how it impacts children's emotional needs 19
The challenges of over-parenting 21
How to overcome the factors that undermine the parent-child connection 23
3 Your Three Levels of Influence 27
How important is a parent's influence? 27
The three levels of parental influence 29
The significance of what we say to children 30
How what we do and demonstrate impacts our children 34
How parents' emotions influence children 35
Entrainment: What it is and why it is key to parental influence 37
How children pick up parental authenticity 39
How to be congruent 41
Becoming entrained 42
4 Your Personal Parenting Blueprint 45
A tool to help resist parenting peer pressure 45
The power of core values 46
Core values and the adolescent brain 49
Identifying core values 50
Creating a family core-values chart 53
5 Expectations - Those that help and those that hinder 57
Expectations to 'be' 58
Expectations and the brain's threat system 59
Your child's threat system 61
Your child is one of a kind 62
Expectations to 'do' and perform 65
A growth mindset versus a fixed mindset 66
Minding your praise 69
The brain's integration process 70
Meeting your children where they are 71
6 Tuning In - The ultimate intuitive parenting tool 75
Recognise: Emotional awareness 76
Are girls and boys emotionally different? 77
Emotions are physical 79
Emotions and stress 80
Release: Emotional management 101 83
Releasing stress-producing emotions 84
Reframe: Emotional mastery and parent intuition 86
The three R's of tuning in 88
7 Empowering Your Child - Could you be over-parenting? 91
Over-parenting 91
Building self-reliance 93
Over-scheduling 94
The safety factor 97
Risky play 99
8 Giving Unspoken Support - How to listen, fully tuned in 103
The breakdown of listening skills 103
Fully listening 105
The parental knee-jerk that prevents full listening 107
Agenda-free listening: How to do it 108
Unseen and unspoken support 110
9 Letting Go - Staving tuned in during stress, conflict and adolescence 113
Debunking a myth about parenting adolescents 113
Working out how and when to set limits 115
Conflict, anyone? 118
Your image of your child or adolescent 121
Your stress in conflict 123
Parenting-in-stress default behaviours 124
10 Intuitive Parenting - Listening to yourself 127
Being, doing and having 128
In conclusion 129
What gets in the way 130
Stress 130
There but not there 131
Expectations 133
Over-parenting 134
Intuition index: Keys to intuitive parenting 136
Three levels of influence 136
Core-values blueprint 138
The three R's of managing emotions and accessing intuition 139
Accepting what is 141
Listening to and empowering your child 142
Appendix: Find the Feeling Word List 145
Bibliography 147
Acknowledgements 153
Index 155