Table of Contents
Author's Note ix
Introduction xi
Part 1 Biology and the Basics 1
1 The Basics of a Cheating Heart 3
2 Desire: The Engine of the Affair 19
3 Sex and Love: The Primordial Addictions 36
Part 2 The Taste for New Sex 59
4 Cyber Relationships and America's Obsession with Pom 61
5 The Emotional Affair 78
6 The Sex Quest for Threesomes and Orgies 92
7 When Pain Is Pleasure, and Other Kink 105
Part 3 Discovery, Disclosure, and Moving Forward Toward Healing 119
8 Discovery: The Truth Comes Out-What Now? 123
9 Disclosure: Prepare Yourself for the Messiness 141
10 Emotional Healing 158
11 Sexual Healing and Fidelity 179
12 Sex and Love with More Than One: Do Open Relationships Work? 206
13 Closing Thoughts 226
Appendix: For More Help 233
Acknowledgments 237
Notes 239
Index 255