Table of Contents
About the Author ix
Preface xi
Introduction xvii
Chapter 1 Parenting in an Upside-Down World 1
Need and right of parental discipline
Erroneous thinking
The power of role modeling
Chapter 2 Parent in Charge 27
Pros and cons of an in charge parent
Differences between in charge parent and modern parent: power, expectations
Establishing and maintaining control
Typical manipulating responses and counters
Missed opportunities for discipline leads to more problems
Obedience factor
Gaining control is essential
Chapter 3 Loving Through Purposeful Discipline 55
Parents should be responsible and emotionally mature
Eight steps of purposeful discipline
Be In Charge
Role model moral values
Communicate the positives of moral values
Set limits and expectations
Prepare child with anticipated consequences
Debrief after the event
Administer consequences
Discuss purpose of the discipline
Chapter 4 A Menu of Consequences for Purposeful Discipline 71
Natural consequences
Human imposed consequences
Rewarding consequences
Punishing consequences
Individualizing consequences
Administering just right moral consequences
Guiding principles
Chapter 5 Basic Training of the Child 91
Loving Training: Obedience training, empathy training, responsibility training, creativity training, and listening training
Conscience Training: Creating rational and calibrated guilt for the misdeed; respectfulness training, honesty training, and spiritual training
Reality training: Gender training, preparing-for-school training., pain training, willpower training
Independence Training: Sleep training, eating training, potty-training, mature-thinking training, critical-thinking training, and work-ethic training
Courage Training: Antibullying training, spanking training, and the Wrap
Chapter 6 Perfecting Your Parenting 187
Criteria for evaluating your training program: child development milestones and expectations, essential building blocks of family, healthy child's minimum standards, socially approved character traits, and self-appraisal of your parenting
Chapter 7 Being in Charge Quiz and Answers 205
Notes 219
