Table of Contents
Dedication v
Preface vii
Introduction and a Few Things to Know Before Reading This Book xi
Chapter 1 Get Real: Take Off the Mask and Show Your Many Faces 1
Chapter 2 Channel the Flow of Emotion: Have Your Feelings without Your Feelings Having You 15
Chapter 3 Enough about Them: Look Deeply Within for the Sources of Change 36
Chapter 4 Don't Hold Back: Forge an Authentic Connection with Your Therapist 56
Chapter 5 Be Curious, Not Judgmental: Observe Yourself Honestly without Attacking Yourself 77
Chapter 6 Carry Your Fair Share, and Only Your Fair Share: Differentiate When to take Responsibility and When Not To 93
Chapter 7 What's Your Story? Identify the Recurring Themes and Fundamental Beliefs That Guide You 106
Chapter 8 It Ain't Necessarily So: Build a Better Narrative and Choose Your Beliefs Consciously 122
Chapter 9 Do Something! Continue Your Psychological Work outside of Sessions 135
Chapter 10 Into the Fire: Use Challenges as Opportunities for Growth 159
Afterword 182
Appendix A In the Beginning: Starting Therapy 184
Appendix B Are We There Yet? Stopping Therapy 191
Appendix C Does This Thing Work? Research Evidence Supporting the Efficacy of Psychodynamic Psychotherapy 195
Acknowledgments 198
About the Author 200
Endnotes 201
Index 213