Publishers Weekly
04/10/2023
Debut author So tenderly celebrates friendship, fandom, and family in this fervent second-chance-romance. Eighteen-year-old childhood best friends Elsie Lo and Joan Tse haven’t spoken to each other since Joan moved to Hong Kong seven years ago, until a serendipitous encounter reconnects them in their Oxford, England, hometown. Though she’s eager to “just wave away those years” when she didn’t hear from Joan, Elsie wrestles with feelings of abandonment and awkwardness as the two relearn one another. Elsie, who is only out as bisexual to close friends, has also been hyping herself up to confess her love for her longtime online pen pal Ada, a fanfic writer. Recruiting her best friend Ritika and publicly out lesbian Joan to help, Elsie embarks on a trip to perform a grand romantic gesture for Ada. Too little planning as well as tensions surrounding old hurts obstruct the teens’ goals, but new perspectives and shared moments of pathos bring them together. Dialogue-heavy interactions and a leisurely buildup—crafted with depth, nuance, and care—center a memorable cast and warm depictions of connection. Main characters read as East Asian. Ages 14–up. (May)
From the Publisher
Cynthia So leans into the complex fluidity of relationships over time, across generations and communities, shaded by culture and circumstances. Elsie’s story is romantic, warm, wise, and disarmingly sincere.” — #1 New York Times bestselling author Becky Albertalli
“A moving and heart-warming story about queer love, family, culture and fandom. So has a uniquely poetic style that sees beauty in the everyday and makes the familiar feel fresh and new.” — Ciara Smyth, author of The Falling in Love Montage
“I loved this cozy book. Like reading a long-awaited comic sequel, eating the perfect bowl of soy sauce noodles, or finally finding the right words at the right time, this book left me satisfied in the way a queer coming-of-age novel should.” — Jaye Robin Brown, author of Georgia Peaches and Other Forbidden Fruit
“A beautiful story of cultural identity, friendship, and the dizzying and exhilarating experience of young love. If You Still Recognize Me is a triumph." — Stonewall Honor author Ashley Herring Blake
“A wonderfully heartfelt and joyously queer romance.” — Lauren James, author of The Loneliest Girl in the Universe
“This wonderful book is both a tender coming-of-age romance and—a tapestry of queer identity that spans oceans, generations, and stages of life ... As intimate and revelatory as the first touch of a first crush’s hand.” — Riley Redgate, author of Seven Ways We Lie
“A lyrical, complex tale of friendship, family, and all the stories we tell ourselves—true and not—about what it means to love.” — Kelly Loy Gilbert, author of When We Were Infinite
“Just so SO perfect. This is the book I wish I'd had as a queer teen discovering my identity.” — Sarah Underwood, author of Lies We Sing to the Sea
“Tender and true. A worthwhile celebration of love and second chances from a fresh voice.” — Kirkus Reviews
“Crafted with depth, nuance, and care." — Publishers Weekly
School Library Journal
08/11/2023
Gr 8 Up—British Chinese teen Elsie Lo, whose family is from Hong Kong, is making grand-gesture plans to confess her crush on Ada, the biracial Nigerian and white British fanfiction writer she befriended on Tumblr. She's going to try to locate Theresa, the old friend and likely long-lost love of Ada's grandma, in the hope of earning Ada's affections. But before her hunt across England begins, she runs into her own long-lost friend, Joan Tse, who moved away when they were 11 and never wrote Elsie back. They reconcile, catch up, and come out to each other: Joan as a lesbian, and Elsie as bisexual. Now back in each other's lives, and along with Elsie's best friend, Ritika, the grand-gesture adventure ensues after Elsie hears about Ada's grandmother's own long-lost pen pal. The novel attempts to weave together so many different back stories and side plots, sacrificing the main plot and severely slowing the narrative down before coming to its abrupt conclusion. VERDICT Despite some bumps this is a good purchase where teens are deeply into fandom.—Kayla Fontaine
Kirkus Reviews
2023-04-12
It’s the summer before she starts university, and a comic enthusiast from Oxford, England, has plans.
In addition to a vacation with best friend Ritika Ghosh, Elsie Lo is finally going to confess her feelings for Ada Hobbs, her long-distance crush and online fandom friend who has a Black Nigerian mum and a White English dad. Things start to shift when Elsie runs into Joan Tse, the childhood BFF who ghosted her years ago. The two start chatting, rekindle a friendship, and come out to each other as lesbian (Joan) and bi (Elsie). Elsie shares her plan to try to reunite two long-separated women—probably lesbian lovers, one of them Ada’s grandmother. She hopes this grand romantic gesture will impress Ada. Joan is game to join in, and the Cornwall vacation with Ritika turns into a three-person research trip. This ambitious novel has many threads, including an epistolary element and multiple romances, and it doesn’t always come together. The relatively deep backstories—Elsie is also the survivor of an unhealthy relationship—and numerous key characters make for a slow start. Still, Elsie’s search for an older generation of queer women even as she grapples with her own challenging grandmother gives the story momentum and depth, and her journey to finding love, her people, and herself rings tender and true. Both Elsie’s and Joan’s families are from Hong Kong; most major characters are people of color and/or queer.
A worthwhile celebration of love and second chances from a fresh voice. (Romance. 13-18)
