I Love You But I Don't Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

by Mira Kirshenbaum

Overview

A guide to restoring trust in broken relationships from a renowed couple’s therapist.

Is my relationship worth saving?
Will the trust ever come back?
How can things be good between us again?

Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.

In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780425245316
Publisher:	Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:	02/07/2012
Pages:	304
Sales rank:	28,842
Product dimensions:	5.30(w) x 7.90(h) x 1.00(d)
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Mira Kirshenbaum is the author of eleven books translated into twenty languages and a two-time finalist for the Books for a Better Life award. She is clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute, an internationally recognized center for research and psychotherapy. She has trained clinicians at Harvard Medical School and other institutions.

Editorial Reviews

Infidelity or even the fear of infidelity can cause break ups or undermine an otherwise healthy relationship so badly that it degenerates into a jealousy-ridden armed camp. Mira Kirshenbaum's I Love You But I Don't Trust You is designed to restore trust into endangered love relationships without opening new wounds or creating recriminations. A valuable restorative in time for Valentine's Day from the author of Too Good To Leave Too Bad To Stay; a trade paperback and NOOK Book original.

— Alisa Schnaars

Praise for I Love You But I Don't Trust You

“This book, based on so much experience and wisdom, will be tremendously useful for millions of people in relationships where trust has been damaged. I found important insights and suggestions everywhere.”—Pepper Schwartz, author of Love Between Equals

“If you want to find your way back to the people you love, this book is a must read. It offers a step-by-step map for rebuilding trust and helping you find peace within.”—Michele Wiener-Davis, author of Divorce Busting

“A path breaking book on restoring trust in relationships. A wonderful read based on deeply felt experiences.”—Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., author of How Can I Forgive You?

“This practical must read book is for anyone who has ever suffered the hurt and pain of mistrust. Mira Kirshenbaum wisely takes you on a journey exploring the difficulties of betrayal, suspicion and harmful mistakes. Kirshenbaum’s gifted insights are profound and they show you how to restore trust with your closest loved ones.”—Lee Raffel, M.S.W., author of I Hate Conflict!

“Mira Kirshenbaum has hit another one out of the park. Her no-nonsense approach offers thoughtful, practical step-by-step methods to assess whether and how to rebuild the trust in your relationship.”—Diana Mercer, J.D., co-author, Making Divorce Work

“[Kirshenbaum] gives brave advice for overcoming the devastating effects of betrayed trust, and gives hope that we actually might be able to salvage and repair important relationships, or at least know that we have choices we can make. Thank you for this much needed guidebook to trust—the essential building block of all relationships.”—Carol Evans, President, Working Mother Media

From the Publisher

Whether one is recovering from a major betrayal, a lack of openness, or a history of hurts, psychotherapist Kirshenbaum (When Good People Have Affairs) argues that couples can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and feel secure with each other once again. She uses her own and others' experiences as well as psychological research to show how mistrust enters a relationship (e.g., unequal power), how trust can be restored, and how to safeguard a relationship so it will never happen again. Kirshenbaum also includes an assessment of whether a relationship can be saved. This book will offer a secure foothold to anyone who is feeling betrayed but wants to hang in there.

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