I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced without Losing their Kids, Money, and Minds

by Raiford Dalton Palmer

Overview

How to Move on With Your Life Without Losing Everything

Divorce is the intersection of everything we hold dear in life: love, sex, money, and children. When those are threatened, people get angry. Logical and reasoned decision-making spirals to power plays and finger-pointing, and potentially open warfare. Without a clear head, divorce is a lose-lose for everyone except the lawyers.

It doesn't have to be that way. Family law attorney Raiford Palmer has helped clients find a faster, more peaceful, less costly alternative to "World War III" divorce cases. Unfortunately, some divorce lawyers (and their clients who don't know better) fight it out, at great expense to the divorcing spouses. Worse, divorcing parties fail to consider the all-important cost-benefit analysis to assess their chances in a case, so they end up chasing legal strategies that are not worth the trouble.

In I Just Want This Done, Raif guides the reader through the divorce process, from filing through resolution. With step-by-step advice, practical tips, and never-do-at-any-cost warnings, I Just Want This Done teaches:

 

• What matters and what doesn't in divorce
• How to know if reconciliation is possible or not
• How typical legal advice risks everything
• How to choose the right divorce lawyer
• How to be a smart client
• The 22 myths most people believe about divorce
• Your four case resolution options
• What the "meta case" is and how to win it
• The four true costs of divorce and how to minimize them
• How to protect your business and career during divorce
• The do's and don'ts of child custody
• How (and why) to hire a divorce coach
• How to handle new significant others
• How to not be painted as a jerk

If you want to avoid the divorce swamp, regain control of your future, and keep your kids, money, mind, and happiness, this book is for you.

 

Product Details

BN ID:	2940165697081
Publisher:	E. James Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date:	07/15/2021
Sold by:	Draft2Digital
Format:	eBook
Sales rank:	388,645
File size:	3 MB

About the Author

Raiford Dalton Palmer, J.D., AAML is an experienced Illinois attorney concentrating in family law with a focus on complex divorce cases, especially those involving business owners and high income earners. His work includes divorce, collaborative divorce, mediation, child custody, and post-divorce matters, and premarital/postmarital agreements. Achievements include multiple successful jury and bench trials, numerous successful arbitrations and mediations, and many successfully resolved divorce and family law matters. Raiford has also argued an appeal before the Illinois Appellate Court.

Raif is the managing shareholder of STG Divorce Law, a premier divorce law firm located in the Chicagoland area. A multi-year winner of client service awards from Avvo.com as well as multi-year awardee of the SuperLawyer and LeadingLawyer designation for family law in Illinois, he is a frequent lecturer on Illinois divorce law and law firm management topics. Raiford is also a Fellow in the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and the Collaborative Law Institute of Illinois.

Editorial Reviews

"Having worked with 100,000+ women all around the world, I have seen firsthand how an entrepreneur's marriage can make or break their business. Divorce can be the worst financial crisis a business owner has ever endured, or it can be the beginning of a new season in life. Raif Palmer teaches women and men how to respectfully part ways from their spouse with as much money, dignity, and self-respect intact as possible. I highly recommend I Just Want This Done to any entrepreneur considering a divorce."

-Danielle Canty, Co-Founder & President, BossBabe

"I have settled numerous divorce cases with Raif over the last fifteen years. I am both a lawyer and a licensed counselor, and I can tell you that Raif's approach to resolving divorce cases is top-notch. This book contains tons of useful tips and advice that is honest, practical, and will save you money, time, and aggravation. If you are thinking of getting divorced, or if you are in the middle of a divorce-get this book.You'll be glad you did."

-James J. Lenahan, J.D., The Law Offices of James Lenahan

"I found Raif's book of special value to me and my podcast audience, The Luxury of Self Care because it provides realistic advice to anyone considering or involved in divorce. As a child of divorce myself, I know the damage that can be harmful to children without the intention. As I approach my own marriage, I found Raif's point of view insightful on many aspects, from years in his professional practice, to his own personal failed marriage vs. his current successful one. We can all learn from our mistakes and years of experience. I found I Just Want This Done helps divorcing couples peacefully, respectfully separate without wasting time, money, or energy. I recommend everyone considering divorce read it and take Raif's unique advice to heart, I know I did."

-Ahnastasia Albert, Host, The Luxury of Self Care Podcast

"I Just Want this Done is a book that should be read by any sophisticated person wanting insights regarding how to work with their lawyer, how to understand the rules of the game and how to best make emotionally intelligent decisions in this most difficult time of your life. I cannot recommend Raif's book more strongly!"

-Gunnar J. Gitlin, J.D., AAML, Principal, Gitlin Law Firm, Author, Gitlin on Divorce

"Raif wrote a book on divorce that needed to be written. It is insightful, smart and candid. I will be giving a copy to all my divorce clients."

-Ryan Kalamaya, J.D., Shareholder of Kalamaya Gosha, Aspen, CO

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