I Hear What You Say, But What Are You Telling Me?: The Strategic Use of Nonverbal Communication in Mediation / Edition 1

I Hear What You Say, But What Are You Telling Me?: The Strategic Use of Nonverbal Communication in Mediation / Edition 1

by Barbara G. Madonik
ISBN-10:
0787957097
ISBN-13:
9780787957094
Pub. Date:
10/16/2001
Publisher:
Wiley
ISBN-10:
0787957097
ISBN-13:
9780787957094
Pub. Date:
10/16/2001
Publisher:
Wiley
I Hear What You Say, But What Are You Telling Me?: The Strategic Use of Nonverbal Communication in Mediation / Edition 1

I Hear What You Say, But What Are You Telling Me?: The Strategic Use of Nonverbal Communication in Mediation / Edition 1

by Barbara G. Madonik

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Overview

I Hear What You Say, But What Are You Telling Me? is a fascinating, original, and invaluable tool kit filled with practical information and techniques for mediators who want to use nonverbal communication to their strategic advantage. Employing a proven process, Barbara Madonik—communication expert, mediator, and international consultant—reveals what it takes to understand, analyze, and utilize nonverbal communication to greatly enhance the mediation process.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780787957094
Publisher: Wiley
Publication date: 10/16/2001
Edition description: 1 ED
Pages: 320
Product dimensions: 6.28(w) x 9.21(h) x 1.07(d)

About the Author

Barbara G. Madonik is president of Unicom Communication Consultants Inc., a firm specializing in communication consulting and training, and dispute investigation and resolution services. She can be contacted at barbara.madonik@utoronto.ca

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Table of Contents

Preface.

Acknowledgments.

Introduction.

Communication Realities.

A Blueprint for Nonverbal Strategies

Maximizing Your Results.

Part One: Essential Definitions and Practical Applications.

1. Essential Definitions-Terms and Tools.

Systems.

Cues.

Language.

Paralanguage.

Levels of Awareness.

Space.

Touch.

Time.

Objectics.

Symbolism.

2. Practical Applications-Representational Systems.

Eye Cues and Patterns.

Physical Cues and Patterns.

Language Cues and Patterns.

Paralanguage Cues and Patterns.

Deciding on a System.

3. Practical Applications-General Patterns and Techniques.

Understanding Messages in Patterns of Communication.

Identifying Individuals' Cues and Patterns.

Applying Nonverbal Techniques During Mediation.

Part Two: Seven Steps to Getting Results.

Step 1: Be Prepared.

Planning Ahead.

Having Useful Equipment On Hand.

Gathering Facts.

Step 2: Maximizing the Initial Telephone Contact.

Physical Factors In Telephone Communication.

Conversation Management.

Paralanguage Nuances.

Questioning.

Step 3: Managing the Environment.

Examining the Power Balance.

Providing for Safety.

Establishing Comfort.

Conveying Respect.

Step 4: Assessing the Parties.

Knowing Yourself.

Tracking the Big Picture.

Tracking Detailed Information.

Identifying Action Triggers.

Identifying Working Frameworks.

Step 5: Building Rapport.

Engaging the Parties.

Adjusting Your Responsiveness.

Changing Communication In the Room.

Configuring Productive Work Units.

Step 6: Triggering Action.

Coming Face-to-Face with the Real Issues.

Enabling the Parties to Build Momentum.

Dealing With Derailments.

Encouraging Physical Movement to Change Mental Positions.

Step 7: Bringing Closure.

Helping Parties Make Productive Decisions.

Presenting the Offer in a Compelling Way.

Guarding Against Buyer's Remorse.

Guiding the Parties To Craft the Final Agreement Jointly.

Helping Parties Leave the Conflict Behind.

Conclusion.

Appendix A: Taking Your Own Communication Inventory.

Appendix B: System Expressions.

Resources.

References.

About the Author.

Index.

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

"Ms. Madonik's book has shown me that professionally there isalways something beneficial to learn with respect to modernpersuasion tactics. The judiciary, lawyers, and mediators will reapa significant gain through the reading of this book."
—The Honourable Mr. Justice Ronald E. Stauth, Ontario Courtof Justice (Family Division)

"This book details an excellent set of nonverbal techniques tohelp mediators resolve conflicts and break impasses. It alsopresents negotiators with the tools to gain a strategic advantageduring their next negotiation."
—John Barkai, professor, University of Hawaii School ofLaw

"This book gives mediators a promising array of insights andtools, drawn from Barbara Madonik's background in communications,for building understanding and improving rapport in mediation. Itwill be especially helpful to lawyers/mediators whose focus hasbeen on content and advocacy and who now wish to develop greatersensitivity and skill in interpersonal communication in thespecific context of mediation."
—David G. Price, lawyer and mediator, chair, AlternativeDispute Resolution Section, Canadian Bar Association (Ontario)

"Barbara Madonik has created a very helpful and much-neededexploration of the hidden dimensions of mediation. Her sensitivityto all of the complicated nuances of nonverbal communication iswell expressed in this book. Mediators will find both practicalguidance and a new set of tools for understanding the interpersonaldynamics of the mediation process."
—David A. Hoffman, attorney, mediator, and arbitrator,member, Hill & Barlow, P.C.

"Ms. Madonik provides the tools to access a whole new dimensionin mediation. Her book should be required reading for everymediator who desires to reach and respond to parties moreeffectively."
—Melissa Janis, president, Dovetail Solutions, LLC

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