How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything--Yes, Anything!

by Albert Ellis, Kristene A. Doyle (Foreword by)

Overview

CLASSIC SELF-HELP FROM A RESPECTED PIONEER OF PSYCHOTHERAPY
 
All of us worry about something, big or small, every day. But much of the emotional misery we feel is an overreaction, and it can be significantly reduced, using the techniques you’ll find in this landmark book.
 
World renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, who created Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), believed that anger, anxiety, and depression are not only unnecessary, they’re unethical, because when we allow ourselves to become emotionally upset, we’re being unfair and unjust to ourselves. Thinking negative thoughts is a choice we can refuse to make. Applying the proven, time-tested principles of REBT is a simple, logical way to find true mental health and happiness.
 
REBT acknowledges the power of emotions, but it also helps us understand which feelings are healthy and which are not. This classic book teaches you how to:
 
*Retrain your brain to focus on the positive aspects of your life and face each obstacle without unnecessary despair
*Control your emotional destiny
*Refuse to upset yourself about upsetting yourself
*Solve practical problems as well as emotional problems
*Conquer the tyranny of “shoulds”
 
…and much more, providing all the tools you need to take back your life—and your happiness. If you can refuse to make yourself miserable, you’re that much closer to making yourself happy—every day.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780806538051
Publisher:	Kensington
Publication date:	08/30/2016
Pages:	240
Sales rank:	204,116
Product dimensions:	6.01(w) x 8.99(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Albert Ellis, Ph.D. founded Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), the pioneering form of the modern Cognitive Behavior therapies. In a 1982 professional survey, Dr. Ellis was ranked as the second most influential psychotherapist in history. His name is a staple among psychologists, students, and historians around the world. He published over seven hundred articles and more than sixty books on psychotherapy, marital and family therapy, and sex therapy. Until his death in 2007, Dr. Ellis served as President Emeritus of the Albert Ellis Institute in New York, which provides professional training programs and psychotherapy to individuals, families and groups. To learn more, visit www.albertellis.org.
 
Kristene A. Doyle, Ph.D., Sc.D. is the Director of the Albert Ellis Institute. Dr. Doyle is also the Director of Clinical Services, founding Director of the Eating Disorders Treatment and Research Center, and a licensed psychologist at the Institute. She is a Diplomate in Rational-Emotive and Cognitive-Behavior Therapy and serves on the Diplomate Board. In addition, Dr. Doyle conducts numerous workshops and professional trainings throughout the world and has influenced the growth and practice of Rational Emotive and Cognitive Behavior Therapy in countries spanning several continents. Dr. Doyle is co-author of A Practitioner’s Guide to Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, 3rd edition, and co-editor of The Journal of Rational-Emotive and Cognitive-Behavior Therapy. She has served as an expert commentator for ABC’s 20/20, Access Hollywood, Channel 2 and Channel 11 News. Dr. Doyle has also been quoted in prestigious publications including The New York Times, U.S. News and World Report, and The Wall Street Journal.

Table of Contents

Foreword Kristene A. Doyle, Ph.D., Sc.D. ix

Introduction xii

Acknowledgments xiv

1 Why Is This Book Different from Other Self-Help Books? 1

2 Can You Really Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything? 5

3 Can Scientific Thinking Remove Your Emotional Misery? 13

4 How to Think Scientifically About Yourself, Other People, and Your Life Conditions 21

5 Why the Usual Kinds of Insight Won't Help You Over-come Your Emotional Problems 31

6 REBT Insight No. 1 Making Yourself Fully Ware of Your Healthy and Unhealthy Feelings 37

7 REBT Insight No. 2: You Control Your Emotional Destiny 43

8 REBT Insight No. 3: The Tyranny of the Should 52

9 REBT Insight No. 4: Forget Your "Godawful" Past! 63

10 REBT Insight No. 5: Actively Dispute Your Irrational Beliefs 68

11 REBT Insight No. 6: You Can Refuse to Upset Yourself About Upsetting Yourself 78

12 REBT Insight No. 7: Solving Practical Problems as Well as Emotional Problems 86

13 REBT Insight No. 8: Changing Thoughts and Feelings by Acting Against Them 100

14 REBT Insight No. 9: Using Work and Practice 109

15 REBT Insight No. 10: Forcefully Changing Your Beliefs, Feelings, and Behaviors 124

16 REBT Insight No. 11: Achieving Emotional Insight Is Not Enough-Maintaining It Is Harder! 134

17 REBT Insight No. 12: If You Backslide, Try, Try Again! 148

18 REBT Insight No. 13: You Can Extend Your Refusal to Make Yourself Miserable 157

19 REBT Insight No. 14: Yes, You Can Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Severely Anxious or Depressed About Anything 167

Appendix 1 The Biological Basis of Human Irrationality 173

Appendix 2 How to Maintain and Enhance Your Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Gains 200

Appendix 3 Techniques for Disputing Irrational Beliefs (DIBS) 211

Selected References 216

Index 221

About the Authors 226