How to Date Like a Grown-Up: Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky, or Even Get Married in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond
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How to Date Like a Grown-Up: Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky, or Even Get Married in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond
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Overview
"Witty and smart, this is a must-read for any woman ready to find Mr. Right. Or at least Mr. Right Now."
Christopher Hopkins, Oprah's Makeover Guy and author of Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45
By the time you hit forty, you have a pretty good idea of what you want when it comes to dating, love, and romance. But how do you get it? HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP will tell you everything you need to know to find the love you're looking for (even after a long marriage or other dating hiatus), how to get married (if that's what you're after), or how to just get lucky.
Dating expert, bestselling author, and TV personality Lisa Daily (Daytime) uses her hilarious and compassionate voice to offer up realistic, counterintuitive advice that will help you finally find the relationship (and the guy) you deserve, including:
- Where (and how) to meet better men
- 5 easy tips to chat up any stranger
- What you may be doing to make yourself a magnet for losers
- How to deal with the pitfalls and fringe benefits of dating younger men
- Little-known secrets to dramatically improve your dating odds
- How to break it to your kids that you have a better social life than they do
- A foolproof way to find the best dating site for you
- How to face getting naked in front of someone new for the first time
- How to accommodate changes in your body (and the little blue pill)
- The one simple thing you can do in the bedroom that will make a man speed up his marriage proposal
- Why men are rushing to the altar, and why you might just want to wait
Dating: It's Not Just For Kids Anymore
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781402249716 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Sourcebooks |
| Publication date: | 01/01/2009 |
| Sold by: | Barnes & Noble |
| Format: | eBook |
| Pages: | 256 |
| File size: | 690 KB |
About the Author
Dating guru Lisa Daily has appeared on more than 1,500 top radio and television shows and been quoted in hundreds of publications (including the New York Times, USA Today, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and the Washington Post). Her first book, Stop Getting Dumped, has sold nearly 40,000 copies. Lisa reaches millions of viewers every week as the dating expert on a nationally syndicated morning TV show, Daytime.
Read an Excerpt
It's a Lot Easier to Date Once Your Eyesight Starts to Go
Raise your hand if you've ever been on a date so bad that halfway through the calamari you were thinking, Why in the world am I still sitting here listening to this guy? Stabbing myself in the arm with a fork or attending a four-day seminar on putting paper clips up my nose would be more interesting.
When you were twenty, or even thirty, you probably would have forced yourself to sit through the entire date, hoping it would get better, making an effort to make some sort of human connection with this person, or digging for something - anything - you might be able to use to piece together an intelligent conversation.
Now, you're just not interested in wasting an entire evening on a date that's going nowhere.
A lot of things change once we hit forty.
I'm not just talking about those silver hairs that begin to sprout overnight, or those little tiny wrinkles around your eyes that weren't there yesterday, or the fact that you probably shouldn't go braless ever again. (Even if they still are fabulous, you probably want to give them all the help you can.)
In your twenties and thirties, you're looking outside yourself - you're trying to accomplish things, kick-start your career, define yourself. By the time you hit forty, you finally have a pretty good idea of who you are, and that changes everything.
You're a grown-up, which means you're looking for something more when it comes to dating, love, and romance.
You want love, companionship, commitment, sex. Sometimes you want all of those things wrapped up in one fabulous package. Sometimes you just want one or theother: romance a la carte.
You are tired of waiting for the right guy to show up, and yet, you're still hopeful that he will. Which is why the usual "head-out-to-the-bar-and-meet-your-Prince-Charming" book aimed at twenty-somethings just isn't going to cut it for you.
Why Dating Like a Grown-Up Is Different
This book will tell you everything you need to know to get back out into the dating world after a long marriage or dating hiatus, how to have better luck (or meet better men) if you've been on the dating scene for a while, how to just get lucky, or how to get married if that's what you're looking for. How to Date Like a Grown-Up will teach you the best (and worst) places to meet men; reveal what forty-, fifty-, and sixty-year-old women have that their twenty- and thirty-year-old counterparts don't; and let you in on all of the places and situations that might be making you a magnet for losers.
Want to Get Out There?
I'll tell you how to avoid feeling like the invisible woman; where to find the best untapped places to meet nice, decent, and attractive men; how to deal with the pitfalls and benefits of dating younger men; and whether or not it's a good idea to try to rekindle an old flame. I'll clue you in on the methods of the new pick-up artists so you can spot the men who are just looking for a quick romp (whether this is a good thing or not is your call). I'll give you some little-known secrets that will improve your dating odds dramatically and teach you how to work a room. I'll help you learn how to sift through the jerks, prisoners, and married men online; teach you a foolproof method for picking an online dating site that best meets your needs; and show you why speed dating can be the most time-effi cient dating method under the sun. You'll also learn how to break it to your kids that your social life is more interesting than theirs is. (Read this book, and I promise it will be!)
Want to Get Lucky?
You're not the only one. I'll let you know when to avoid a one-night (or ten-night) stand and when to go for it, how to tell if a man is just looking for sex, and how to face getting naked in front of someone new for the first time. I'll tell you what men really think about sleeping with women over forty, how to accommodate changes in your body (and his), and explain the good and bad of the little blue pill.
What's more, I'll clue you in on the one thing you can do in the bedroom to make a man speed up his marriage proposal.
Want to Get Married?
I'll let you know why men over forty are rushing to the altar and, for once, why many women are holding back. You'll learn the skinny on living together versus getting married and the financial considerations for both. I'll help you navigate the etiquette for second- or third-time brides and fi rst-time brides over forty. And I'll throw in some pointers from experts on how to gracefully handle children, stepchildren, exes, and other assorted relatives on your big day.
If You've Got Questions About Dating Like a Grown-Up, I Can Help
I'm Lisa Daily, and for six years I've been helping women change their lives and attract the kind of men they've been searching for. I am a dating coach, columnist, and the relationship expert on Daytime, a syndicated morning TV show. During the last two years, I have interviewed hundreds of men and women over forty about what they're looking for in a relationship as well as what they're looking to avoid. I've learned where they're looking (and where the good ones are hiding), what works, and what doesn't. I've answered hundreds of viewer and reader letters and received thousands more. (You'll see many of them throughout the book.) I've interviewed dozens of experts in a variety of fields, read hundreds of studies, and even conducted a survey, the Grown-Up Dating Survey, specifically for this book. I want to help you get from here to happily ever after.
Table of Contents
Introduction: It's a Lot Easier to Date Once Your Eyesight Starts to Go
Part 1: Get Out There
Chapter 1: It's Not Easy Being the Invisible Woman
Chapter 2: 31 Surefire Secrets to Improve Your Dating Odds
Chapter 3: Mortuaries and Other Pick-Up Joints
Chapter 4: Why Older Women Are (Finally) Dating Younger Men.
Chapter 5: How to Date Like a Grown-Up
Chapter 6: 43 Dates in a Night: How to Speed Date
Chapter 7: I Thought You'd Be Taller: Navigating the World of Online Dating
Chapter 8: Liars, Criminals, and the Freak Next Door
Part 2: Get Lucky
Chapter 9: Is He Just Dating You For Sex? (And Is That a Bad Thing?)
Chapter 10: Born-Again Virgins
Chapter 11: Condoms and Other Mood Killers
Chapter 12: The Secret Bedroom Technique That Makes Men Propose Right Away
Part 3: Get Married
Chapter 13: Shacking Up: 3 Out of 4 Ministers Say You Probably Won't Go To Hell
Chapter 14: Here Come the Grooms
Chapter 15: If I've Had Four Kids, Can I Still Wear White to My Wedding?
Conclusion
Resources
Acknowledgments
About the Author