How to Be Love(d): Simple Truths for Going Easier on Yourself, Embracing Imperfection & Loving Your Way to a Better Life

by Humble the Poet

Overview

Now in paperback! The last book on love you’ll ever need. Explore simple truths for going easier on yourself, embracing imperfections and loving your way to a better life through insightful stories and down-to-earth advice from artist and international best-selling author of Unlearn, Humble The Poet.

We all want love. Everything we do is in pursuit of love, but that journey has gotten difficult and complicated. We’re programmed to seek love outside of ourselves, and we’re trained that love is something to earn, or a destination to reach; that programming blinds us to the simple truth that we are beautiful, eternal sources of love, and to BE LOVED is to BE LOVE.

This book is a guide to self-love that helps to clear the blockages on your path inward toward love and throw away old ideas that prevent us from realizing the love we’ve always had.

Clear away the misguided notion that you must be ENOUGH before you are worthy of love—you are worthy. Clear away the expectations for love you have learned from the media—love is messy and real, not "happily ever after." Clear away your lack of self-awareness—see yourself for who you truly are.

Instead of earning more, achieving more, and gaining more attention, what we really need to do is clear pathways and make room for love to enter, be realized, and flourish. Whether we're talking about love for ourselves, or love for everyone and everything.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781401974220
Publisher:	Hay House Inc.
Publication date:	12/26/2023
Pages:	336
Sales rank:	298,179
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 8.00(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Humble The Poet (a.k.a Kanwer Singh) is a Canadian-born artist, rapper, spoken-word poet, international best-selling author, and former elementary school teacher. He is the author of The Globe and Mail best-seller Unlearn and Things No One Else Can Teach Us.

With his tattoos, beard, head wrap, and silly smile, Humble commands attention. He stimulates audiences with ideas that challenge conventional wisdom and go against the grain, with dynamic live sets that shake conventions and minds at the same time.

He has performed at concerts and festivals, including Lollapalooza, and has been featured in major media including The New York Times, BuzzFeed, Vogue, Rolling Stone, and Huffington Post.

Visit him at HumbleThePoet.com.

Table of Contents

Diamonds for Paperweights: A Love Story viii

0 How to Make Anybody and Everybody Fall in Love with You xiv

WTF is Love?

Blank Check: A Love Story 2

1 Love is a Path, Not a Destination 6

2 Big L Love vs. Small L Love 10

3 Love Attracts Love 14

4 Perfect is the Enemy of Love 19

5 Love and Ego Won't Hold Hands 22

6 Secrets Don't Help Love 28

7 Love Doesn't Judge 32

8 To Love One is to Love All 36

9 Why We Thirst for Love 41

10 You Can Only Have Unconditional Love For 45

11 Love the Verb > Love the Noun 49

NAZR: A Love Story 52

Love for Self

Lonely Dances: A Love Story 58

12 Our Addiction to Approval Denies Us Love 62

13 How to Put Yourself First Without Being Selfish 66

14 Love is not Impressing Others, It's Impressing Ourselves 71

15 Loving Yourself Is Being Your Own Best Friend 75

16 Love Is Forgiving Yourself 79

17 Self-Love Means Knowing What Matters 84

18 Envy Pulls Us Away From Love 89

19 Love Your Flaws and Incompleteness 94

20 Loving Yourself Is Being Your Own Nurturing Parent 98

21 Love Is Breaking Our Cycles 103

22 Love Is Feeling It All 107

23 Love Is Always Telling the Truth … To Yourself 111

24 Self-Care Is Not Always Self-Love 116

25 Be Kind to Your Inner Critic 120

26 Progress is a Great Friend of Love 124

27 Loving Yourself Is Honoring All of Yourself 127

28 Love Your Truth > Your Relationships 130

29 Love Is Sitting with Pain 136

30 Loving Yourself Is Knowing Who You Are 144

31 Love Is Pushing Yourself … Sometimes 148

32 Love Is Communication with Our Deepest Self 152

33 Love Is Saying No 155

34 Love Is Showing Your Teeth 159

35 Be What You Love, Not What Loves You 164

36 Love Is Keeping Your Commitments to Yourself 169

37 They Can Only Love Us for Yesterday 173

38 Love Who You Are and the Experiences That Shaped You 177

39 What's In Your Wallet?? 180

Love for Others

365 Proposals: A Love Story 186

40 The Crazy Shit We Believe About Love 188

41 Don't Fall In Love with Potential 193

42 Love is Fuel, Not Glue 197

43 Mixed Signals Mean No 204

44 Interdependent Relationships > Codependent Relationships 209

45 The Cure for Loneliness 214

46 Love is a Good Fight 220

47 Love Needs To Be Received 224

48 Love Is about Setting Intentions, Not Expectations 229

49 Love with Your Eyes Open 234

50 Love Is Explaining and Accepting Your Flaws 238

51 Relationships We Build > Relationships We Have 242

52 Listening Is Love 247

53 Love Is Attunement 255

54 Conflict Styles 260

55 Love is a Game, and Games Should Be Fun 266

56 Is Honesty a Pathway to Love? 270

57 Walls and Windows 275

58 Jealousy is not the Right Sign of Love You're Looking For 279

59 Nice Guys Don't Finish Last 284

60 When to Close Pathways of Love (When to End Relationships) 288

61 A Broken Heart is an Open Heart 294

You Don't Know Love: A Love Story 298

62 The Last Book I'll ever Write 302

About the Author 307

Acknowledgments 308