How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

by David Richo Narrated by David Richo

Overview

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.
4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts—what Richo calls the five A's—form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly

Approaching the study of relationships from a psychotherapist's perspective is How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Teacher and writer David Richo gives practical and spiritual exercises for couples and singles who want to have mature and lasting relationships. Emphasizing paying attention and letting go, Richo gently and compassionately coaches readers on what he calls the five A's: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. His book, which proposes "letting go of ego," will help those seeking personal transformation in their relationships. (June) Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.

From the Publisher

An inspiring and highly practical guide to effective relationships.”—Kathlyn Hendricks, coauthor of Conscious Loving and The Conscious Heart

APRIL 2013 - AudioFile

In this candid, spiritually inclined collection of wisdom, psychotherapist David Richo’s voice doesn’t have the fluidity or spontaneity you hear in his live seminar recordings. But he’s sincere, and no one could sound as connected as he does to his sophisticated 2002 book about the joys and struggles of seeking an authentic romantic relationship. He corrals a wide range of Eastern spiritual beliefs, developmental psychology, and self-disclosure into five elements of mindful loving: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and autonomy. It’s an enormously moving book because of its core idea that everyone who wants a mature relationship can learn the required skills and perseverance. This belief is offered with engaging poetic and historical illustrations as well as some of the warmest writing ever heard in a discussion of relationships. T.W. © AudioFile 2013, Portland, Maine

Product Details

BN ID:	2940172049019
Publisher:	Penguin Random House
Publication date:	03/06/2018
Series:	Shambhala
Edition description:	Unabridged
Sales rank:	638,771

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