High Five Discipline: Positive Parenting for Happy, Healthy, Well-Behaved Kids

by Candice W. Jones MD, FAAP

Overview

When confronting the challenge of disciplining their children, moms and dads often default to the ways their own parents disciplined them, sometimes with harmful results. In High Five Discipline, mom and practicing pediatrician Dr. Candice Jones shows parents a better way. Dr. Jones coaches parents to understand their child’s developmental stages and their own motivations to create a family discipline plan that manages misbehavior and encourages good behavior. Her advice is packed with developmentally appropriate strategies to tame tantrums, stop sibling squabbles, and reward better behavior to create a calmer, more harmonious home.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781610025171
Publisher:	American Academy of Pediatrics
Publication date:	12/01/2021
Pages:	225
Sales rank:	663,678
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Candice W. Jones, MD, FAAP, is a board certified, practicing pediatrician, spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics, and host of the podcast KIDing Around with Dr. Candice. She is the mother of two children and lives near Orlando, Florida.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction xv

About This Book xix

Part 1 Personal History: My "Her" story

Part 2 Essential Discipline Dynamics

Chapter 1 Discipline Basics: The What, Why, and How 9

Chapter 2 A Win-Win Approach: The High Five Essentials of Effective and Positive Parenting 25

Part 3 Adult in the Mirror

Chapter 3 Selfies 59

Chapter 4 Top Model 71

Chapter 5 Woosah … Mindfulness, Coping Skills, and Mindset 77

Part 4 Child Basics: Act Like a Parent but Think Like a Child

Chapter 6 Early Childhood, or the Critical Years: Birth to 3 Years 89

Chapter 7 Preschool Period: 3 to 5 Years 101

Chapter 8 School-age Period: 6 to 12 Years 109

Chapter 9 Adolescence: 12 to 17 Years 119

Chapter 10 Be Aware: From ACEs to Healing-Building Resilience and Beyond 129

Part 5 Establishing a Family Discipline Plan

Chapter 11 Who's Got Skills? You've Got Skills! 147

Scenario 1 Lack of Knowledge 149

Scenario 2 Who's Bullying Who? 151

Scenario 3 "Bad Kid" or Just Misunderstood? 153

Scenario 4 Can Y'all Just Get Along? 155

Scenario 5 The "P" Word 157

Scenario 6 Am I Grown Yet? 159

Chapter 12 Piecing Together A Plan 167

Bibliography 187

Index 191

Editorial Reviews

08/02/2021

Pediatrician and KIDing Around with Dr. Candice podcast host Jones focuses on “positive discipline” in her uneven debut. While every child needs discipline, she writes, it “doesn’t have to be strict, harsh, or aggressive. Appropriate discipline should be administered with love and a spirit of training or teaching, all to foster the greatest potential in our children.” As such, Jones lays out five principles to deal with conflict effectively and positively: knowledge of child development, good relational health between parent and child, encouraging proper behavior, discouraging and correcting inappropriate behavior, and managing the environment. These are put into practice with examples such as giving children choices when possible and communicating unconditional love even in the face of unacceptable behaviors, and she offers some imagined dialogue between parents and children. While Jones’s advice is encouraging, it’s also all fairly familiar, and some readers will be turned off by her occasionally condescending way of advising adults (“If you know that you have a work presentation at 9:00 am next Tuesday morning, you should prepare”). There’s no shortage of parenting books that take a similar tack, and, unfortunately, little separates this one from the pack. (Oct.)

Publishers Weekly

"She lays out in clear, easy-to-follow steps how parents can reframe discipline from an exhausting constant fight for control into a loving collaboration between parent and child." David L Hill, MD, FAAP, coauthor of Co-parenting Through Separation and Divorce

"Dr. Jones gives examples that help you to recognize your own parenting style and that also help you to apply some of the strategies and techniques shared in this much-needed book." Shanta Barton-Stubbs, LMHC, ThD, founder of New Image Youth Center, author of There Is Good in My Hood

"Dr. Jones’ book teaches us that physical punishment should never be part of discipline for parents; there are better, evidence-based methods."  David A. Levine, MD, FAAP, professor of pediatrics and clerkship director, Morehouse School of Medicine,


"A must-read for any adult caring for a child." Joelle Simpson, MD, MPH, FAAP

"Dr. Candice Jones gives parents and caregivers practical and positive guide to understanding and disciplining their children." Leslie Hartog, chief strategy officer, the K-Ready Community Project

"A rich, comprehensive blend of the pragmatic rooted in evidence-informed guidance on 21st century parenting. High Five Discipline is a rich, comprehensive blend of the pragmatic rooted in evidence-informed guidance on 21st century parenting." Joseph L. Wright, MD, MPH, FAAP,
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"Packed full of practical advice." Karen Willis, CWDP, BA, MPA, chief executive officer, Early Learning Coalition of Orange County

"Real-life scenarios from a leading expert." Glenton Gilzean Jr., president and CEO, Central Florida Urban League  ,

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