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Healing the Addictive Personality: Freeing Yourself from Addictive Patterns and Relationships
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by Lee L. Jampolsky
Lee L. Jampolsky
Healing the Addictive Personality: Freeing Yourself from Addictive Patterns and Relationships
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by Lee L. Jampolsky
Lee L. Jampolsky
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Since 1991, Dr. Lee Jampolsky's self-help classic Healing the Addictive Mind has given well over 100,000 people around the world the tools to create significant change in their lives. Now he continues his proven and trustworthy blend of practical and positive psychology with HEALING THE ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY. Dr. Jampolsky's straightforward approach, based on firsthand experience, presents ways of healing addictive thinking, behavior, and destructive relationship patterns with forgiveness, compassion, and the potential for limitless opportunity through an eleven-week action plan.A personal note from the author: “Many people live in a self-imposed prison and don't even know it. I did. For years I was so busy building walls I did not see that I was imprisoning myself behind them. My addictive thinking and behavior became the bars of my cell. I denied feeling empty inside and instead looked for new things to acquire, substances to take, and goals to achieve in order to feel better about myself. Sometimes I felt momentarily free, powerful, and whole, but in the end my addictive cycle only compounded my loneliness and despair. If you recognize this pattern in yourself, this book is addressed to you. Today, I am able to tell you I now know what true freedom and happiness are and I offer the path that I intend to follow every day of my life.”Reviews:"This 178 page book is a miraculous Godsend because it goes deep to expose the profile of the addictive personality, and then broadens from there to show us how to recognize the characteristics of the addictive personality and understand why it develops in the first place. The layout of this awesome teacher helped me to see how I can go from a place of addictive thinking to having a truth-based personality.I liked how the negative core beliefs were laid bare, and the healthy counterparts were readily available because many times there is denial associated with addiction and it helped me see the true man behind the curtain and not just the illusions I have been living with. The cunning foe of addiction has become such a part of our society that I would recommend this crucial and charming champion to anyone at any stage of their spiritual growth and development. This precious gem will help many on the path to serenity and it has found it's way to my spiritual toolbox. Thanks, Dr. Lee for this most excellent way out.—Riki Frahmann www.mysticlivingtoday.com
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781587613159 |
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Publisher: | Clarkson Potter/Ten Speed |
Publication date: | 01/01/2008 |
Pages: | 192 |
Sales rank: | 632,255 |
Product dimensions: | 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.41(d) |
About the Author
Leading psychologist, author, teacher, and inspirational speaker DR. LEE JAMPLOLSKY has served on staff at hospitals, clinics, and graduate schools in California and is a recognized specialist in the fields of chemical dependency, addiction behavior, and human potential. He lives in Carmel Valley, California.
Table of Contents
Introduction 1
The Path to Happiness and the Road to Misery Are Easily Confused 3
Recognizing an Addictive Personality and the Purpose of Healing 4
Healing Begins with the Invitation to Love 7
The Four A's: Achieving, Acquiring, Approval, and Accomplishing 7
When the Solution Becomes Another Addiction 8
Where to Find the Answers and How to Recognize the Smoke and Mirrors 9
Biological Factors and Addiction 10
Is There Really an Addictive Personality? 11
How to Use the Power of Choice to Heal 12
Your Teacher Is Standing Right in Front of You 12
Who We Are Versus Who Our Addictive Personality Tells Us We Are 15
The Truth about Happiness 17
Three Healing Words: "I Am Enough" 20
Denial: The Not-So-Little Secret 22
The Addictive Personality's Plan: Deny It and It Will Disappear 23
Projection: The Illusion That Keeps On Rolling 24
Special Hate and Special Love Relationships 26
The Thought System of the Addictive Personality 29
How the Addictive Personality Uses Fear to Control You 30
How to Break the Addictive Personality's Cycle of Fear 33
How the Addictive Personality Uses the Past and the Future to Prevent Positive Change 35
How the Addictive Personality Uses Judgment to Maintain Conflict-Centered Relationships 40
The Peaceful Alternative to Judgment 42
How the Addictive Personality Uses Scarcity 43
The Thirteen Core Beliefs of the Addictive Personality 45
I am separate from everybody else 45
If I want security and success, I must judge others 47
My perceptions are always correct and my way is the right way 48
Attack and defense are my only safety 48
The past and the future are real and must be worried about 48
Guilt is inescapable because the past is real 49
Mistakes require judgment and punishment 50
Fear is real 51
Other people and situations are at fault for my feelings and failures 52
Another's loss is my gain 53
I need someone or something else to complete me 54
My self-esteem is based on pleasing you 54
I need to control everyone and everything around me 55
How These Beliefs Combine Forces 55
The Two Forms of Communication 57
The Structure of the Truth-Based Personality 59
How the Truth-Based Personality Uses the Power of Love 62
How the Truth-Based Personality Uses the Present Moment to Set You Free 64
Peak Performance and the Present Moment 66
Six Principles to Peak Performance and Realized Opportunity 68
Six Old Patterns of the Addictive Personality and Six Truth-Based Alternatives 69
Watching the Breath 70
How the Truth-Based Personality Uses Acceptance to Create Deep Change and Peace-Centered Relationships 70
Recognized Essential Value 71
Deep Change Versus Surface Change 75
The Power Over Approach 76
The Power of Powerlessness Approach 77
Hard Honesty 78
Hitting Bottom 79
How the Truth-Based Personality Creates Opportunity and Miracles 80
Creating Opportunity and Abundance: What Is Valuable and What Is Not 82
The Myth about True Abundance 83
The Thirteen Core Beliefs of the Truth-Based Personality 85
What I see in others reflects my own state of mind 85
My safety lies in my defenselessness 86
Love is unconditional 88
Forgiveness, with hard honesty, ensures peace 89
Session 90
Only the present is real 92
To change my experience, I must first change my thoughts 93
Mistakes call for correction and learning 94
Only love is real 95
I am responsible for my life 95
I receive what I want by giving what I have 96
I am complete right now 97
My self-esteem comes from within 98
I can't change others, but I can change how I perceive them 99
The Core Beliefs of the Addictive Personality and the Truth-Based Personality 100
Beliefs of the Addictive Personality 100
Beliefs of the Truth-Based Personality 101
The Addictive Personality and the Fear of Intimacy 103
The Confusion between Freedom and Imprisonment 104
Accepting and Embracing the Life We Have Lived 108
Finding Freedom and Opportunity through Responsibility 109
The Big Myth: "I'm Not Okay the Way I Am" 110
The Misuse of Goals 111
Stopping the Cycle of Attack and Defense 111
A Truth-Centered Approach to Life 113
The Truth about Anger, Guilt, Attack, and Defense 114
Trust Versus trust 118
Learning to Recognize Our Essential Value 119
What the Addictive Personality Wants You to Believe 120
Irrational Beliefs of the Addictive Personality 128
Alternate Messages from the Truth-Based Personality 129
Being Compulsively-Other-Focused 130
Ten Core Beliefs of Being Compulsively-Other-Focused 132
Healing through Forgiveness 134
Letting Go 134
Affirming Who You Are 135
Truths about Myself 136
Healing Relationships: Growing Beyond the Addictive Personality in Our Interactions with Others 137
Six Core Truths of Truth-Based Relationships 138
Patterns That Create Conflict and Traps 140
Patterns That Create Peace and Opportunity 140
You Are Not Alone: An Introduction to the Daily Lessons 142
Daily Lessons 145
An Eleven-Week Action Plan for Continued Healing 168
Epilogue 171
Index 173
About the Author 178
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