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Overview

Sex is all around you. No matter where you look or what you listen to, chances are you’re getting some kind of message about sexuality. And we’re guessing that the messages you’re receiving don’t always help you figure out the truth about sex. Sometimes it’s not any easier to get the truth about sex when you ask an adult in your life. We’re just guessing…but if you did get the nerve up to ask someone about sex, you probably didn’t get much of an answer (or at least not the answer you were looking for). The reality is, for most adults, the topic of sex can be scary to talk about—with anyone. But we’re here to change all that. In Good Sex 2.0: What (Almost) Nobody Will Tell You About Sex, you’ll explore the truth about sexuality based on what God has to say about it, as well as what the latest research reveals. This journal will help you explore: • Sex Messaging: how to tell sense from nonsense in a sex-obsessed culture • Sexual Identity: how we come to understand and experience our sexuality • Intimacy: going out, hooking up, messing around, and genuine closeness • Desire: the difference between sexual appetites and human needs • Boundaries: how biblical principles and common sense can govern sexual choices for a lifetime • Responsibility: our sexual responsibilities to God and each other • Do-overs: what it means to receive mercy and restoration from God As you spend time in this journal, it will bring up the tough questions, open up honest dialogue, and help you see how your sexuality fits into God’s plan for your life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310282709
Publisher:	HarperChristian Resources
Publication date:	12/28/2008
Edition description:	Revised ed.
Pages:	176
Product dimensions:	7.20(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.50(d)
Age Range:	13 - 16 Years

About the Author

Jim Hancock invested two decades as a church-based youth worker. Now he spends his days writing and creating digital movies and learning designs for youth workers, parents, and adolescents. He's the author of many youth ministry resources including How to Volunteer Like a Pro and The Justice Mission, and co-author of Good Sex 2.0 and The Youth Worker's Guide to Helping Teenagers in Crisis.

Dr. Kara E. Powell is an educator, professor, youth minister, author, and speaker. She is the Executive director of the Fuller Youth Institute and a faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary (see www.fulleryouthinstitute.org). Kara also serves as an Advisor to Youth Specialties and currently volunteers in student ministries at Lake Avenue church in Pasadena, CA. She is the author of many books including Sticky Faith: Everyday Ideas to Build Lasting Faith in Your Kids (with Chap Clark) and Deep Justice Journeys. Kara lives in Pasadena with her husband, Dave, and their children, Nathan, Krista, and Jessica.

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Good Sex 2.0: What (Almost) Nobody Will Tell You About Sex

A Student Journal

By Jim Hancock Kara Powell
Zondervan
Copyright © 2009

Jim Hancock and Kara Powell
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-310-28270-9

Chapter One SEX MESSAGING
Session 1

THE BIG IDEA

Now suppose you come to a country where you could fill a theatre by simply bringing a covered plate on to the stage and then slowly lifting the cover so as to let every one see, just before the lights went out, that it contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon, would you not think that in that country something had gone wrong with the appetite for food?

C. S. Lewis wrote that in the 1940s. We think he was on to something. We think maybe something has gone wrong with our appetite for sex. Pretty much any way you look at it, our culture is preoccupied with sex way out of proportion to its actual significance.

You've grown up largely unprotected from what grown-ups cynically refer to as "adult content." But you didn't introduce all of that to the equation, did you? No, that would be your parents' generation-and your grandparents' and possibly even your great-grandparents' generation-who did that.

So what can we do to help you understand and enjoy and take responsibility for your sexuality? How do we equip you for life in the world where you live (not in some Neverland where people don't wrestle with sexuality)?

It's a little embarrassing to admit how poor a job the generations just ahead of you have done at this. We've had too many sexual partners, spread too many sexually transmitted diseases, gone through too many divorces-not all of us, of course; just too many of us.

Sometimes we didn't know what we didn't know. And sometimes we knew and chose poorly. It's no shock that we-and often you-have paid a price for that. Sorry. We could use some generational do-overs, if you're willing to give them.

It doesn't make sense to tell you how much things have changed because, for you, they haven't. You've never known a world without HIV/AIDS and other widespread sexually transmitted diseases. You've never lived in an age without easy access to porn. As far as you're concerned, marriages have always had about a 50-50 chance of making it. The world is what it is. If your generation stops the spread of those diseases, if you ignore pornography and it goes away because it's disgusting and demeaning, and if you create strong marriages that last a lifetime, then that won't be considered "going back to a better time." If you do those things, then you'll be going forward. Forward is the direction of hope, which is what you should mainly be concerned with every day.

There are people-you already know this-who think it's odd to introduce the Bible into a conversation about sexuality. Why, they wonder, would you bring something written so long ago and far away to what must be a 21st-century discussion? It is, after all, the 21st century ...

Our answer is that what the Bible says about sex may actually be more helpful today than ever. Most everybody-including us-agrees that things are messy these days. But not messier than what's recorded in the Bible. The earliest Christian communities flourished in cultures where sexual behavior was flat-out abusive. Those folks lived in places where sexual slavery was a given and where women and girls were property-collected, traded, used, and discarded. They lived in cities where boys were sex objects for wealthy men. And no one raised an eyebrow, let alone a helping hand.

People who loved Jesus stood out in those cultures. And it wasn't so much about what they said as the way they lived. God's people reinvented the family by living in committed marriages, instilling respect for women, and protecting and nurturing children instead of exploiting them.

Think about how many abused people become abusers. If it's always been that way, and there's every reason to believe it has, then that means that from the beginning of the Christian faith there were abused people who somehow found the strength to break the cycle of abuse because they loved Jesus. They chose to give better than they got.

That was world-changing stuff-not because smart people wrote about it but because ordinary people lived it out.

Maybe it's time to do that again. People who claim to know something about God have a reputation for telling others what to believe and how to behave-but not necessarily taking their own advice. We've reached the point where almost nobody listens anymore because actions speak so much louder than words.

So maybe it's time to stop talking so much-especially about other people's behavior-and quietly, steadily help each other grow into our own sexuality healthy and whole. We can do that with God's grace-not because we're good but because God is so very good.

This Journal begins with Sex Messaging. Because Job One is sorting through all the messages you've received about sex your whole life-the good, bad, and indifferent-so you can pitch the ones that are garbage and embrace the sex messaging that is true and noble and right and pure and lovely and admirable. (That last part is borrowed from Philippians 4:8, which sort of sums up our hope for you in this Journal.)

Okay, then. Here we go ...

NOW | Where Did You Learn about Sex?

Q: Do you think it's true that people get the "clean" info about sex from their parents and the "dirty" version from kids at school? How would you even define clean, and how is that different from the "dirty" version?

Q: How comfortable do you think parents are talking to their own kids about sex?

Totally Sort of Not Even

Because ...

Q: How comfortable do you think kids are talking to their parents about sex?

Totally Sort of Not Even

Because ...

Q: How would you rate the quality of information you've received about sex from your friends?