Table of Contents
Note to Caring Adults v
Note to Parents vi
Welcome to Your Workbook! vii
Part 1 When Your Parents Fight
You Are Not Alone 1
Activity 1 Think of a Workbook Buddy 4
Activity 2 Things Parents Fight About 5
Feelings, Feelings, Feelings 6
Activity 3 Feelings Kids Have When Parents Fight 6
Activity 4 Start a Feeling Journal 8
Activity 5 Feelings About Divorce 8
Activity 6 Situations and Feelings 10
Activity 7 Expressing Feelings 11
Part 2 Coping Tools
Thinking for Yourself 13
Activity 8 Knowing Your Own Thoughts and Feelings 15
Considering Your Options 17
Unfreezing the Brain: The STEP Solution 17
Activity 9 Explore Options and Picture and Practice in Your Mind 19
Activity 10 Saying What You Want 23
Living Your Values 24
Activity 11 Finding Your Core Values 25
Activity 12 Knowing Your Core Values 26
Activity 13 Living Your Core Values 28
Acting with Courage 30
Activity 14 You Were Courageous When… 31
Activity 15 Inspiring Courage Within Yourself 32
Encouraging Yourself 33
Activity 16 Is Self-Talk Helpful? 34
Activity 17 Practicing Self-Talk 35
De-stressing Your Mind and Body 38
Activity 18 What Ways Do You Feel Stress? 39
Activity 19 Where Do You Feel Stress in Your Body When Your Parents Fight? 40
Activity 20 Letting Go of Stress 41
Activity 21 More Ways to Let Go of Stress 42
Asking for Help from Others 44
Activity 22 Helpful Qualities 46
Activity 23 Who Would You Ask for Help? 47
Activity 24 Finding Helpful People 48
Part 3 Using the Coping Tools 52
Getting Started 52
Activity 25 Which Situations Are Yours? 52
Sadness 55
Activity 26 What Does Sadness Feel Like? 57
Worry 63
Activity 27 What Does Worry Feel Like? 65
Anger 71
Activity 28 What Does Anger Feel Like? 73
Hurt 79
Activity 29 What Does Hurt Feel Like? 80
Confusion 87
Activity 30 What Does Confusion Feel Like? 89
Fear 95
Activity 31 What Does Fear Feel Like? 97
Guilt 103
Activity 32 What Does Guilt Feel Like? 105
Activity 33 Guilty Words 106
To Help You Remember 113