Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

by Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg

Overview

Self-defeating behavior is the single most common reason that people seek psychotherapy. It is a poison, preventing us from achieving the love, success, and happiness we want in our lives. And what's really frustrating is feeling we have to change and not knowing how -- or knowing how but being unable to stick with change. Get Out of Your Own Way is an antidote -- it explains why we sabotage ourselves, going back to childhood origins of various behaviors. More important, it offers a proven course of action to transform behavior from self-defeating to life-enhancing.

With anecdotes and usable insights drawn from twenty years of psychiatric clinical practice, Dr. Mark Goulston shares ideas that have helped thousands of patients overcome pain, fear, and confusion -- to approach life's challenges with dignity, wisdom, courage, and even humor. Get Out of Your Own Way provides practical steps toward change that you can work into your everyday life, so you can stop being your own worst enemy -- and become your own best friend.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9785001690788
Publisher:	Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
Publication date:	07/24/2020
Sold by:	Bookwire
Format:	eBook
Pages:	241
File size:	2 MB
Age Range:	16 Years
Language:	Russian

About the Author

Mark Goulston, M.D., is a corporate consultant who works with executives, managers, and line workers to help them get out of their own way so they can realize the success that their skills, talents, and abilities deserve. His clients include Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, GE, White & Case, Eli Lilly and Company, Disney, Kodak, and the FBI. He writes "The Leading Edge" column for Fast Company. He was selected as one of America's Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 by the Consumers' Research Council of America. Dr. Goulston is the author of Get Out of Your Own Way and Six Secrets of a Lasting Relationship.
Philip Goldberg, a novelist and screenwriter, has authored or coauthored sixteen books.

Table of Contents

	10 Things You Can Learn from Self-Defeating Behavior	xi
	Introduction: How to Beat Self-Defeat	xv
1.	Chasing After Love and Approval From a Parent	1
2.	Getting Involved With the Wrong People	6
3.	Procrastinating	11
4.	Expecting Others to Understand How You Feel	15
5.	Waiting Until It's Too Late	21
6.	Getting So Angry You Make Things Worse	25
7.	Saying Yes When You Want to Say No	29
8.	Holding a Grudge	33
9.	Assuming They Don't Want Anything in Return	37
10.	Playing It Safe	41
11.	Always Having to Be Right	45
12.	Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong	49
13.	Putting up With Broken Promises	54
14.	Trying to Make up While You're Still Angry	59
15.	Not Learning From Your Mistakes	63
16.	Trying to Change Others	67
17.	Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling	71
18.	Talking When Nobody's Listening	75
19.	Pretending You're Fine When You're Not	79
20.	Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive	83
21.	Taking Things Too Personally	88
22.	Acting Too Needy	92
23.	Having Unrealistic Expectations	96
24.	Trying to Take Care of Everybody	100
25.	Refusing to "Play Games"	104
26.	Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression	108
27.	Being Envious of Others	113
28.	Feeling Sorry for Yourself	117
29.	Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way	122
30.	Thinking "I'm Sorry" Is Enough	126
31.	Holding It All In	130
32.	Quitting Too Soon	135
33.	Letting Others Control Your Life	139
34.	Leaving Too Much to Chance	143
35.	Letting Fear Run Your Life	148
36.	Not Moving on After a Loss	152
37.	Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good	156
38.	Not Asking for What You Need	161
39.	Giving Advice When They Want Something Else	166
40.	Backing Down Because You Don't Feel Ready	171