Table of Contents
Acknowledgements 13
Introduction 15
1 Bonds, Attachments, and Play Deborah Gray 17
Attachment defined 17
Security in attachment 19
Pleasure, pressures, play, and attachments 21
Secure attachments-strong, kind, playful parents and confident kids 23
Creating patterns of security after rocky early years 24
Wired through our attachments 25
Attachment and understanding how people think (theory of mind) 26
Emotional "skills" and attachment 27
2 The Value of Play Megan Clarke 29
Play defined 30
Play and your child's development 30
The importance of play for parents 32
Let's be playful 33
Connecting Through Games
3 Connecting the Two of You 37
Infants and Toddlers 37
Age 3 and Up 55
Age 5 and Up 65
4 Connecting the Whole Family 75
Infants and Toddlers 75
Age 3 and Up 89
5 Connecting Siblings 107
Age 3 and up 107
6 Activities to Help with Mood and Flexibility 115
All ages 115
7 Building Attachment when Children Have Had Exposure to Toxins Jill Dziko 121
Age 5 and up 125
Infants, toddlers and school age 135
Addendum: Notes For Professionals 141
Jill Dziko 141
Julie Fisher 143
Laura Stone 145
Biographies 149
Resource List 151