Table of Contents
Preface: Telling Children the Truth 9
I The Exiled Self
1 Depression: Compulsive Self-Deception 23
2 Mommie Dearest 42
II From Victim to Destroyer
3 How Does Evil Come into the World? 47
4 What Is Hatred? 52
5 The Wellsprings of Horror 57
6 Private Mania 61
7 Ideal Soldiers: When Will We No Longer Need Them? 73
8 Sheer Sadism 82
9 The Tragedy of Jessica 86
III Therapy: Resolving the Consequences of Early Cruelty
10 The Longest Journey, or What Can We Expect from Psychotherapy? 93
11 Taking it Personally: Indignation as a Vehicle of Therapy 98
12 Misleading Information 110
13 We Can Identify the Causes of Our Sufferings 113
14 How to Find the Right Therapist 121
15 Answers to Readers' Letters 127
IV Interviews
16 The Feeling Child: Interview, March 1987 201
17 Beyond Philosophy: Interview, November 1992 211
18 Violence Kills Love: Spanking, the Fourth Commandment, and the Suppression of Authentic Feelings: Interview, June 2005 221
19 Combating Denial: Interview, July 2005 232
V From the Diary of a Mother
20 From the Diary of a Mother 243
Notes 279
References 281
