Five Steps to Romantic Love: A Workbook for Readers of His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters

by Willard F. Harley Jr.

Overview

Five Steps to Romantic Love will help you and your spouse to know and meet each other's needs and overcome the habits that destroy your love. This workbook takes the proven concepts found in Dr. Harley's His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters and helps you make them a reality in your marriage. All of the worksheets, inventories, and questionnaires that Dr. Harley recommends in these two bestsellers are available here in a full-sized and easily reproducible format. Fall in love again and enjoy an intimate, passionate marriage that lasts.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781493434381
Publisher:	Baker Publishing Group
Publication date:	02/01/2022
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	210
Sales rank:	850,967
File size:	8 MB

About the Author

Willard F. Harley, Jr. is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Surviving an Affair; Draw Close; and He Wins, She Wins. Harley's much-loved book, His Needs, Her Needs, is also available with a video curriculum for churches and small groups. His popular website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem.

Table of Contents

Introduction 7

Step 1 Making a Commitment to Build Romantic Love 9

Agreement to Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs and Overcome Love Busters 11

Step 2 Identifying the Most Important Emotional Needs 13

Emotional Needs Questionnaire 14

Step 3 Learning to Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs 27

Learning to Meet the Need of Affection 28

Affection Inventory 30

Strategy to Meet the Need of Affection 32

Affection Worksheet 34

Learning to Meet the Need of Intimate Conversation 36

Friends and Enemies of Intimate Conversation Inventory 38

Strategy to Meet the Need of Intimate Conversation 40

Friends and Enemies of Intimate Conversation Worksheet 42

Learning to Meet the Need of Sexual Fulfillment 45

Sexual Experience Inventory 47

Strategy to Discover the Five Stages of Sexual Experience 52

Sexual Experience Worksheet 53

Sexual Fulfillment Inventory 55

Strategy to Meet the Need of Sexual Fulfillment 57

Sexual Fulfillment Worksheet 59

Learning to Meet the Need of Recreational Companionship 61

Recreational Enjoyment Inventory 63

Strategy to Meet the Need of Recreational Companionship 66

Recreational Companionship Worksheet 67

Learning to Set Aside Time for Undivided Attention 69

Time for Undivided Attention Worksheet 71

Time for Undivided Attention Graph 73

Learning to Meet the Need of Honesty and Openness 74

Honesty and Openness Inventory 75

Strategy to Become Honest and Open 77

Honesty and Openness Worksheet 79

Learning to Meet the Need of Physical Attractiveness 81

Physical Appearance Inventory 82

Strategy to Meet the Need of Physical Attractiveness 83

Learning to Meet the Need of Financial Support 84

Financial Support Inventory: Needs and Wants Budget 86

Strategy to Meet the Need of Financial Support 90

Learning to Meet the Need of Domestic Support 92

Household Responsibilities Inventory 94

His Household Responsibilities 95

Her Household Responsibilities 96

Learning to Meet the Need of Family Commitment 97

Family Commitment Inventory 99

Strategy to Meet the Need of Family Commitment 101

Quality Family Time Worksheet 103

Quality Family Time Graph 105

Learning to Meet the Need of Admiration and Appreciation 106

Admiration and Appreciation Inventory 107

Strategy to Meet the Need of Admiration and Appreciation 109

Admiration and Appreciation Worksheet 111

Step 4 Identifying Love Busters 113

Love Busters Questionnaire 114

Step 5 Overcoming Love Busters 123

Overcoming Selfish Demands 124

Selfish Demands Inventory 126

Strategy to Replace Selfish Demands with Thoughtful Requests 128

Guidelines to Making Thoughtful Requests Inventory 130

Selfish Demands Worksheet 132

Thoughtful Requests Worksheet 134

Overcoming Disrespectful Judgments 136

Disrespectful Judgments Inventory 138

Strategy to Replace Disrespectful Judgments with Respectful Persuasion 140

Guidelines to Respectful Persuasion Inventory 142

Disrespectful Judgments Worksheet 144

Respectful Persuasion Worksheet 146

Overcoming Angry Outbursts 148

Angry Outbursts Inventory 150

Strategy to Overcome Angry Outbursts 152

Angry Outbursts Worksheet 155

Overcoming Dishonesty 157

Dishonesty Inventory 159

Strategy to Overcome Dishonesty 161

Dishonesty Worksheet 163

Overcoming Annoying Habits 165

Annoying Habits Inventory: Part 1 167

Annoying Habits Inventory: Part 2 168

Strategy to Overcome Annoying Habits 170

Annoying Habits Worksheet 172

Overcoming Independent Behavior 174

Practice Resolving the Five Most Common Issues in Marriage 177

Resolving Your Unresolved Conflicts Using the Policy of Joint Agreement and the Four Guidelines for Successful Negotiation 186

Marital Negotiation Worksheet 193

Possible Solutions for Practice Conflicts 195

How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor 199