Enough Is Enough: A Step-by-Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God's Help

by David E Clarke, PhD, William G. Clarke, M.A. (Contribution by), Arlene Pellicane (Foreword by)

Overview

You need to get to safety. Now.

When the abuse starts, that’s when you know enough is enough. It’s time to find a haven somewhere else. There will be a chance down the road to assess where your marriage is headed in the long term. No one is saying divorce is the inevitable outcome. God can transform anyone.

But He doesn’t promise to do that. People choose to persist in sin. And that’s why it’s imperative for you to leave . . . so you can think clearly, take stock of the situation, and most of all, protect yourself and those whom you love.

Dr. David Clarke, a licensed psychologist specializing in marital therapy for more than 30 years, wants to help you make the break from your abusive relationship. Whether or not divorce is on the horizon is beside the point. You need to get out so you can sort it out.

Dr. Clarke understands this journey won’t be easy. That’s why he provides a step-by-step plan that includes practical advice as well as biblical guidance. But leave you must, because abuse is a sin that doesn’t come from above. Let this book help you get away from your abuser so you can give your marriage the best chance to succeed. Because only with some distance will you be able to see what your loving, ever-faithful God has in store for you.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780802425133
Publisher:	Moody Publishers
Publication date:	01/04/2022
Pages:	208
Sales rank:	109,677
Product dimensions:	5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.46(d)

About the Author

DAVID E. CLARKE, PH.D., is a Christian psychologist, speaker, and the author of fifteen books, including I Don't Want a Divorce, My Spouse Wants Out, and I Don't Love You Anymore. He is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary and Western Conservative Baptist Seminary. He has been in private practice for more than thirty years, focusing on marriages in crisis. He and his blonde wife, Sandy, live in Tampa, Florida. They have four children and four grandchildren (so far; they have asked for more grandkids).

Table of Contents

Foreword Arlene Pellicane 9

Introduction: It's Time for Plan B 11

Part 1 The Definition of Abuse

1 The Abuse Never Stops 25

2 World-Class Selfishness 31

3 Less-than-Zero Respect 35

4 A Slow, Painful Death 43

5 Much Worse than an Unhappy Marriage 49

Part 2 Why You Stay

6 "But I Don't Want to Leave" 57

7 "My Church Threw Me under the Bus" 63

8 The Lies That Make You Stay 75

Part 3 Why You Can Get Out

9 Get Out of Denial and Get Ready for War 85

10 God Says, "I Want You to Get Out" 97

Part 4 How to Get Out

11 Get Spiritually Healthy 107

12 Get a Team of Warriors 113

13 Get Emotionally Healthy, Part One 123

14 Get Emotionally Healthy, Part Two 133

15 Get Financially Healthy 141

16 Get Your Kids Ready to Leave, Part One 147

17 Get Your Kids Ready to Leave, Part Two 153

18 Get Away from Your Abuser 163

Part 5 Give Your Abuser a Chance

19 "Here's How You Win Me Back" 173

Part 6 When Your Abuser Does Not Want to Change

20 Pursuing the Matthew 18 Process 185

21 Get Ready to Leave 195

Additional Resources 199

About the Authors 201

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

Praise for Enough Is Enough

David has given us a biblically based, psychologically informed, thoroughly researched, practical resource. It is written with wisdom, grace, and a wealth of both clinical and practical experience. This valuable resource provides more than just good information. It will help you reframe how you view your situation, and then give you practical ways to respond rather than merely react. It brings both clarity and comfort in ways that will lead to both healing and hope. I have over fifteen books in my personal library that address abuse, and this is the one that I will recommend.
—GARY J. OLIVER, THM, PHD
Executive Director of The Center for Healthy Relationships; Professor of Psychology & Practical Theology at John Brown University; licensed clinical psychologist; author of over 20 books, including Raising Sons and Loving It

In my counseling practice, I recurrently recommend Enough Is Enough and frequently receive responses thanking me for doing so. Enough Is Enough not only empowers abuse victims to put a stop to their abuse, it also provides a clear-cut, instructional path to stopping the abuse. Dr. Clarke’s plan of freedom is jam-packed with specific details and directives that pave the way for an abuse-free life. I have witnessed God perform many healing miracles through the information in Enough Is Enough. It is a must-read for anyone trapped in an abusive relationship.
—LAUREL SLADE-WAGGONER, BCPCC, LMHC, LMFT
Author of Don’t Let Their Crazy Make You Crazy

Dr. David E. Clarke has done it again! With a direct, blunt, no-nonsense, yet godly style, Dr. David speaks directly to people in abusive relationships who are seeking answers. He does not mince words, and frankly, if you are in an abusive relationship, you don’t need someone who will. I love how Dr. David explains the psychology of why people stay in abusive relationships, then provides step-by-step, biblically sound guidance on how to save yourself. I also love that the book is not a “how to divorce your abuser” book. The book gives guidance, yet it offers grace, for those who will accept it. I wholeheartedly recommend this book for those who are in abusive relationships, as well as those who suspect someone they know is in an abusive relationship. I also recommend this book for anyone in a relationship as a way to course correct and self-check. Too many times people offer a myopic view of issues, as they cling either to a purely spiritual or a purely secular perspective. The fact that Dr. David can comfortable meld the two is a treat and offers unimaginable benefits to readers of all Dr. David’s works!
—REV. KEN J. GORDON JR., PHD
Award-winning author

Enough Is Enough will help you see clearly, act decisively and regain your dignity. Dr. Clarke’s no-nonsense approach gives you the best chance to change your situation and save your marriage. It helped save ours!
—JASON AND SHELLEY MARTINKUS
Jason is the president of Redemptive Living, a certified coach, and author; Shelley is an author, speaker, and founder of Redemptive Living for Women