Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids

by Vicki Hoefle

Overview

There’s a new set of 3Rs for our kids—respect, responsibility, and resilience—to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all. Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counter-intuitive—yet much more effective—approach: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines, even if duct tape is required, so that the kids step up. Duct Tape Parenting gives parents a new perspective on what it means to be effective, engaged parents and to enable kids to develop confidence through solving their own problems. This is not a book about the parenting strategy of the day—what the author calls “Post-It Note Parenting”—but rather a relationship-based guide to span all ages and stages of development. Witty, straight-shooting Hoefle addresses frustrated parents everywhere who are ready to raise confident, capable children to go out in the world.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781937134198
Publisher:	Bibliomotion, Inc.
Publication date:	08/21/2012
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	224
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator and the creator of the Parenting On Track™ Program. Vicki Hoefle began teaching more than 20 years ago, while running a daycare center in Seattle, WA. Parents applauded her approach with their children, and wanted to bring her tools and understanding of children home with them. After years of study and everyday practice, Vicki developed the Parenting On Track™ Program, which combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an ICF certified coach with a suite of time-tested tools. Vicki can speak first-hand to the real world implementation of these strategies with her own family of five children. For more than two decades, Vicki has shared her parenting tips and techniques with families across the country. Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator, and educator.

Editorial Reviews

"[Hoefle’s] conjuncture that a misbehaving child is a discouraged child carries the weight of truth. By letting kids work out their own kinks, parents will have more time in the long run to enjoy their children and the parenting journey." – Library Journal, August 2013

From the Publisher

A veteran parent educator narrates her finely tuned lesson on helping children grow into responsible adults. Though she sounds like she wants to be engaged and helpful, Hoefle’s otherwise pleasant speaking voice sounds somewhat pedantic and lacking in energy. It’s not a good vehicle for this program. Using examples of many kinds of parent-child struggles, she shows how careless parenting reinforces kids to rely too much on others and not enough on themselves. By saying and doing less (thus, the duct tape to keep us quiet), parents create a space in which kids figure out their own solutions. The advice, based on familiar psychological principles, is a good reminder that beleaguered parents have thoughtful options for influencing children, rather than defaulting into reactive authoritarian approaches, doing what’s expedient, or going passive. T.W. © AudioFile 2013, Portland, Maine

AUGUST 2013 - AudioFile