Drive Your Own Darn Bus!: How to Get Mentally Strong and into the Driver's Seat of Your Life

by Julia Kristina

Overview

A practical self-help book on mental strength and emotional toughness by a clinical counsellor, researcher, coach and online content creator with a big YouTube following and genuine star quality.

This book is the ultimate guide to getting emotionally strong, guiding you in taking responsibility for your own wellbeing and not letting others control your thoughts and emotions. Written in the trademark down-to-earth, direct, humorous and warm style that has made counsellor Julia Kristina so popular online, this book arms its readers with the skills to take over the steering wheel in their own lives, no matter what challenges they face.

Julia takes you through the thoughts, emotions and behaviours that hold us back, from perfectionism and fear of failure, to anxiety and guilt, to people pleasing, self-sabotage and taking things too personally. In each case she provides easy-to-use and super effective tools for emotional self-mastery that she has road tested in her coaching and counselling, and in her own life. For example, use the Thought Ladder to disrupt your negative thoughts and beliefs. Instead of telling yourself to stop thinking "I am totally crap" and just think "I am great", Julia shows you how to incrementally challenge and undo the original negative thought and reframe it through a series of steps - like rungs of a ladder. Another example is the STOPP Process: a 5-step method that allows you to identify, separate from and process/take positive action on a difficult emotion that is occurring.

Always rooted in real life, highly achievable and based in the author's understanding of human psychology, Julia's tools and techniques really will help you break through whatever it is you think is holding you back.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781786785268
Publisher:	Watkins Media
Publication date:	03/08/2022
Sold by:	Penguin Random House Publisher Services
Format:	eBook
Pages:	236
File size:	3 MB

About the Author

Julia Kristina has a masters degree in counselling psychology. She is a therapist, a master mind-management coach, a researcher, a speaker, and the creator of the Breakthrough Coaching Program. She helps smart people learn how to be more in charge of their minds and emotions so they can reach their goals, love who they are, and live more fully and freely. Find out more at: www.juliakristina.com

Table of Contents

Introduction 7

Part 1 How Your Emotions and Thoughts Get into the Driving Seat 17

1 The Trouble with Emotions 19

2 Embracing Your Emotions 27

3 The Trouble with Thoughts 37

4 Thoughts Create Feelings, Feelings Create Behaviors 47

5 Self-Compassion 57

Part 2 Become the Driver of Your Own Emotions 63

6 Shame and Self-Worth 65

7 Anxiety and Stress 73

8 Demotivation and Being Stuck 87

9 Anger 95

10 Guilt 105

11 Loneliness 113

Part 3 Become the Driver of Your Own Thoughts 121

12 "I Have a Critical Voice in My Head" 125

13 "This is Personal" 131

14 "Who Am I?" 137

15 "I'm Not Good Enough" 145

16 "I'm a Failure" 157

17 "I Will Be Happy When I …" 163

Part 4 Become the Driver of Your Own Behaviors 167

18 Be the Healthy Boundary-Setter 171

19 Stop People-Pleasing 187

20 Messing with the System 193

21 Deal with Difficult People and Have Better Relationships 201

22 Stop Overthinking 207

23 Self-Sabotage and Procrastination 215

Are You Ready to Drive Your Own Darn Bus? 223