Dream Me Home Safely: Writers on Growing Up in America

by Susan Richards Shreve

Overview

In the title essay of this extraordinary keepsake of childhood in America, John Edgar Wideman pays fierce tribute to a complex mother who "used to dream me home safely by sitting up and waiting for me to stumble in." The young writer Bich Minh Nguyen remembers arriving in Michigan from Vietnam in 1975 and a classmate who said, "Your house smells funny," and Michael Parker recalls a sister's vivid — and hilarious — act of defiance on a particular North Carolina evening in 1971. These and many more intensely intimate memories make Dream Me Home Safely a collection as diverse and powerful as all of American letters.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780544310407
Publisher:	HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:	10/22/2003
Pages:	240
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.69(d)

About the Author

Susan Richards Shreve's published novels include A Student of Living Things and Warm Springs. She has worked as a Professor of English at George Mason University and was previously Co-Chair and President of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation. She has received several grants for fiction writing, including a Guggenheim fellowship and a National Endowment for the Arts award. 
 

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FOREWORD

I am so grateful for this book celebrating the Children's Defense Fund's
thirtieth anniversary. This gift of thirty-four extraordinary American writers
sharing their stories of growing up in America paints a complex, richly
detailed, and achingly real portrait of American childhood. Every reader will
catch glimpses of his or her own childhood and see the childhoods of others
with new eyes.
Tina McElroy Ansa remembers her nurturing black Georgia family
and community as a world 'made up of stories,' and listening at her mother's
side 'as she whipped up batter for one of her light-as-air, sweet-as-mother's-
love desserts.' In a town on Chicago's North Shore, Mary Morris learns early
on how girls and women can get into 'trouble,' while boys and men escape
blame — and, since she is a girl, she makes an exit plan, just in case.
Michael Patrick MacDonald sees his father's face for the first time at his
funeral and leaves the service with a renewed appreciation for the family he
does have and the unspoken community of love and loyalty that surrounds
him in his poor and desperate 'white trash' South Boston neighborhood: 'For
once in my life I felt I should be proud of where I came from, who I was, and
who I might become, and for a moment was ashamed for having ever felt
otherwise.' Lois-Ann Yamanaka writes about trying not to panic when the
autistic son she loves so fiercely sees balloons in the supermarket checkout
line, knowing the moment is about to escalate into a fit of frustrated
screaming and thrashing that will force her to drag him from the store while
other customers stare indisgust: 'In JohnJohn's world, I can afford to buy
him every balloon on every trip to the market. In JohnJohn's world, he takes
all of the shiny balloons home to our yard full of white ginger blossoms and
lets all of them go . . . [a] moment of beauty, his silent freedom.'
Anna Quindlen looks at the overscheduled lives of today's children
and mourns what's been lost: 'Pickup games. Hanging out. How boring it
was. Of course, it was the making of me, as a human being and a writer.
Downtime is where we become ourselves, looking into the middle distance,
kicking at the curb, lying on the grass or sitting on the stoop and staring at
the tedious blue of the summer sky. I don't believe you can write poetry or
compose music or become an actor without downtime, and plenty of it, a
hiatus that passes for boredom but is really the quiet moving of the wheels
inside that fuel creativity.' Alan Cheuse writes about his especially fortunate
circumstances growing up on the water: 'I don't know how it would have
been, born into a town without a coastline . . . The ebb and flow of waters,
the detritus, flotsam, treasures left behind on the sand, the marine life, fresh
water and salt mingling in the tides, the sound of buoys on summer nights,
bells, horns, the ships anchored within sight of our playlands: the hope this
gives you as a child, there is almost no explaining.' And in another world,
Julia Alvarez dreams of someday being able to turn her life story into a book
another little girl might want to read — 'a girl like me, no longer frightened
by / the whisperings of terrified adults, / the cries of uncles being rounded
up, / the sirens of the death squads racing by.'
As singular as every one of these stories of childhood is, common
threads run through them, linking experiences across race, class, and
geography. The role of many memorable adults who stand up for children is
striking. I hope readers will recognize people like them in their own lives:
Alexs Pate's mother, determined that her son will not be mistreated by
teachers or led to believe he x FOREWORD is destined to be a 'negative
statistic,' on yet another determined march to the principal's office in his
defense; Anthony Grooms's mother putting him and his sister to bed at
Christmas to the sounds of Burl Ives and Nat King Cole; Robert Bausch's
father pretending to wake his six children up on Christmas morning by blaring
Benny Goodman or Glenn Miller on the hi-.; Jeanne Wakatsuki Houston's
and Bich Minh Nguyen's grandmothers, suspicious of the neighbors, the
children's friends, the toadstools in the front yard — any of the pieces of the
outside world that might somehow bring their family harm. And John Edgar
Wideman's mother, sitting at her apartment window watching for the child out
way too late, prepared to wait up as long as it takes to dream him home
safely.
Reading these stories, we may wonder what our children will
remember about us. Will we be remembered for doing everything we could to
dream them home safely? Even ideal childhoods are marked with some
degree of fear and uncertainty. Scary movies, bullies, illness, and death are
timeless. But while generations throughout history have often looked back to
the times before them as simpler innocent, in many ways
childhood today may be more dangerous than ever. Pervasive cultural,
domestic, and community violence, child abuse and neglect, drugs, high
rates of hunger and homelessness, and tenuous family and community
supports ravage the lives and dreams of countless young people. Community
breakdown has coincided with a culture saturated with violence- and sex-filled
images, and too many parents seek to meet children's needs with things
rather than time. Too many children are left alone to sort out the values
promoted relentlessly by television, movies, and video games. Safety nets for
children and families are being eroded as politicians place millionaires'
desires before children's needs. And year by year it seems as if adults' hold
on our children's hands and values is becoming looser and looser, so that too
many children sink in the quicksand of materialism and spiritual poverty.
There are sad stories and painful memories in this collection, but
also a great deal of hope, as seen in children's resilience, their small
kindnesses to other children, the writers' ability to look back through the lens
of time at the parents and siblings and houses and neighborhoods they were
given and understand what true gifts these things were. And with all their
accumulated flaws, the adults in these essays sometimes appear at their
best, too, in stories of parents who hold on to their children through minor
crises and major catastrophes, refusing to let go. May each reader learn to
do the same for every one of our children, until collectively and individually we
are able to dream them all home safely.
—Marian Wright Edelman

Copyright © 2003 by the Children's Defense Fund. Foreword copyright ©
2003 by MarianWright Edelman. Reprinted by permission of Houghton Mifflin
Company.

Table of Contents

	Foreword	ix
	Ars Politica	1
	The Center of the Universe	3
	My Father's Dance	8
	from Sweet Summer	15
	Rowing in Amboy	20
	Thread	25
	Parenthood: A Life Sentence	32
	A Child's Garden of Verse	39
	from The Kingdom of Brooklyn	57
	Saturday Days	65
	Transgressions	68
	The Spiral Staircase	73
	Christmas, Alabama, 1962	82
	Ba-chan's Superstition	96
	Mute in an English-Only World	104
	Memphis Years	108
	Spitting Image	112
	The Bluff	123
	Toadstools	129
	Birds at Night	133
	The Gravedigger's Daughter	143
	Psychedelic Shack	150
	Movie Where You Don't See the Monster Until the End	154
	Innocence Found	159
	Summer Coming	168
	Foreigner in Marshfield	172
	The Boy Nobody Knew	179
	Growing Up in St. Louis	182
	Three Women and Me	186
	Crick	192
	The Swimming Pool	197
	Childhood	202
	Sitting	206
	JohnJohn's World	216

Editorial Reviews

In today's diverse society, it's no longer possible for an individual voice to capture a singular American view of childhood. Dissimilar experiences can each sound uniquely American, such as the stability of Patricia Elam's refreshingly functional family, in which "the only thing that distinguished us from the families on Ozzie and Harriet, Leave It to Beaver, and Father Knows Best... was our brown skin"; the quiet confusion of Michael Patrick MacDonald, who "decided that `normal' certainly meant something somewhere out there, beyond... where we lived"; or the poignant isolation of Nina Revoyr as the only Japanese child in Marshfield, Wis. This collection successfully gathers many voices, completing an impassioned picture of growing up in America. Thirty-four authors, including Chang-rae Lee, Alice Walker and John Edgar Wideman, lyrically portray their younger years. Each piece-whether describing the bluffs of Illinois, the movie houses of Paris, Tex., or Christmas in Alabama-illustrate how childhood informs adulthood. As Lisa Page writes, as we age, "the child remains, transcended, often denied, but there all the same, hiding beneath our business suits, our corporate uniforms, the camouflage we wear to communicate our grown-up selves." While most essays are magical, a few are forced and the flow of the anthology suffers from its alphabetical, rather than thematic, organization. But these are easily overlooked flaws in this beautiful compilation that proves that "childhood, of course, never ends." (Oct. 22) Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.

Publishers Weekly

The Children's Defense Fund (CDF) is dedicated to the mission of "leaving no child behind," especially those who are poor, disabled, or minority. This collection of 34 essays, assembled in celebration of the organization's 30th birthday, provides a balanced blend of essays on childhood contributed by such authors as Joyce Carol Oates, Anna Quindlen, and Alice Walker. All of the essays are highly readable and of high quality, even when the contributor is not as well known. And since each piece represents a unique experience, the essays may be read in random order. From the sweetness of Tina McElroy Ansa's "The Center of the Universe" to the poignancy of Alexis Pate's "Innocence Found," the collection teems with memorable narratives. Especially moving are the stories told in the first person, with a hint of nostalgia for childhood. Many feature children living in poverty or with less than ideal parents, but the tone never sinks to cynicism. A foreword by CDF founder and president Edelman rounds out the text. With such a low price and proceeds going to an excellent cause, this work is recommended for all collections.-Jan Brue Enright, Augustana Coll. Lib., Sioux Falls, SD Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.

Library Journal

"This collection constitutes a memorable portrait of coming-of-age in America." Booklist, ALA —

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