Domestic Sex Goddess

by Kate Taylor

Overview

Successful sexpert Kate Taylor spent her early career writing sex manuals with tips on getting a better sex life, then she got married - and then she had two children.

Suddenly, the books she had previously written bore no relation to her own sex life. Where were the tips on having amazing sex in complete silence during 10 minutes of privacy whilst the kids are watching cartoons? Where was the advice on how to still fancy your partner when you've just spent 10 minutes picking his socks up off the bedroom floor? Where was the section on the most-childproof locks for bedroom doors, or how to laugh it off when your toddler gatecrashes a dinner party waving your vibrator? Knowing that she wasn't the only wife and mother struggling with these issues, Kate decided to write the book that would solve these problems forever.

Domestic Sex Goddess is a sex book for couples in long-term relationships, with or without children. It's for couples who adore each other, but would like new ideas to take to bed that bring back the initial excitement and who want real-life sex tips they can fit in around a busy day and eight hours' sleep at night.

Domestic Sex Goddess divulges the secret to achieving a thrilling long-term sex life - it's organisation. In each chapter of this book Kate takes a different area of the home and discusses practical lifestyle changes that you can implement in order to give yourself both the time and energy for sex. From sizzling sex tips for the kitchen, lusty lovemaking positions for the living room and bed-busting moves for the bedroom through to ideas to make the bathroom hot and steamy and even some outrageous outdoor activities, Kate presents all the naughty know-how you'll need to keep the passionate home fires burning.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781849491679
Publisher:	Quadrille
Publication date:	08/21/2009
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	145
File size:	20 MB
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About the Author

Kate Taylor is one of the UK's most popular sexperts. She is the published author of four sex books and was the high-profile writer of GQ's 'Sex life' column from 1998 to 2002 (when it was voted 'Best page in GQ' every year by readers). She has also written for many other publications, including Wallpaper, The Guardian, The Observer, Minx, She, More!, The Sun and Tatler. Kate presented Sex Tips for Girls (2001) and More Sex Tips for Girls (2002) on Channel Four. She was Capital Radio's Sex & Dating expert, and has been hailed as 'Britain's Candace Bushnell'. Her previous books include The Good Orgasm Guide, Life's Too Short for Tantric Sex, A Woman's Guide to Sex and Not Tonight, Mr Right. Kate Taylor met her husband via the dating site Match.com, who she married in 2000. They have since had two children.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Introduction
Having it all and having it off

Kitchen
You have to get clean before you can get dirty

Living room
How to turn it into the loving room

Bedroom
Keeping him up all night

Bathroom
Getting sex-ready in three minutes

Outdoors
Location, location, location

Resources
Shopping

Preface

Introduction

Having it all and having it off

Don't you just hate sex books? They sit there on the shelves in their pinky-purple packaging, smugly promising your relationship will be bed breakingly passionate and fake-strokingly intimate if you'd just light a ylang-ylang candle, shove your kids away for the weekend, and learn to do something complicated and vaguely Eastern-sounding with a banana, a rubber sheet, and a length of inner tube.

You get enthused with the idea, and happily show the book to your partner. He gets enthused, too, and lies back waiting for you to fill his body with ecstasy. Afterward, he drifts off to sleep while you strip the banana-splatted sheets off the bed, pick up the kids from your parents' house, and book an appointment to get the inner tube surgically removed. Worst of all, none of the promised intimacy has appeared. Instead, you've just set yourself another chore on your never-ending to-do list: "Be incredible in bed every night."

To my shame, I have written three of those kinds of sex books in the past. In my time as sex columnist, I've invented a million different ways to do the deed. When I was a single sex writer, I couldn't understand why women would ever try to get out of having sex if it were available to them. I thought sex would be amazing if only we could concentrate on being more inventive and spontaneous, and use a few props.

And then I got married.

And then I had two kids.

Now I find the only way that most sex books could improve my nighttime pleasure is by barricading my five-year-old into his own room so he doesn't come into our bed every night. The bananas? Fed to my toddler. The rubber sheet? On my oldest son's bed. The inner tube? Used to repair the wading pool. Sex books never make more than a passing reference to the problems faced by long-term couples, yet it's these couples who most need advice. New lovers have the advantage in bed, as a lot of sex's enjoyment comes from novelty and spontaneity. But when you've been together so long that you know every inch of your partner's body and all five of his Best Bedroom Moves, how can you get back that loving feeling or sense of blissful discovery? When you have to get up at 6 o'clock every morning to get the kids off to school, how can you face beginning a sexual technique that you know will take two hours to complete and use up all your tissues? And how can you look at baby oil as anything erotic, when you've actually started using it on your baby?

This is where this book comes in. It's a sex book for couples in long-term relationships, with or without children. It's for couples who adore each other, but have understandably felt the bloom go off their bedroom. It's for couples who would like new ideas to take to bed that bring back the initial excitement but don't require days of planning or other people, and who want real-life sex tips they can fit in around a busy day and eight hours of sleep at night.

It will help both of you, but I'm mainly writing for women, because it's women who can suffer more under the weight of a sex-free relationship, or one that's lacking in intimacy. When we have sex, we release a powerful hormone called oxytocin that can bond us to our partner. It's the same hormone we release when we have a baby. In long-term, settled love affairs, we need this oxytocin, and lots of it, to keep us attached to our mate.

Are you awash with it? Are you happily bonded to — and getting it on with — your man, or so unattached you're in danger of falling apart from him? To find out, take my quiz.

Are you a Domestic Sex Goddess

1 Have you ever faked a headache?
a) No! If anything, I have a higher sex drive than my partner.
b) Once or twice, but only in dire — and exceptional — circumstances.
c) Put it this way, my man's urging me to go for a cranial MRI scan.

2 Do you feel on top of things both at home and in your relationship?
a) Very often, I am on top of my man.
b) I feel on top of the housework — but sex, not so much.
c) I feel I'm on top of a cliff, considering jumping.

3 How do you feel when you meet your man at the end of the day?
a) Excited and aroused.
b) Serene and calm.
c) Annoyed — he didn't get my note telling him not to bother coming back.

4 How often do the pair of you have sex?
a) Once or twice a week.
b) Once or twice a month.
c) Once or twice a year — birthdays and Christmas.

5 Does he buy you romantic presents?
a) He buys sexy underwear for me.
b) He buys me jewelry and flowers.
c) He buys me household gadgets, household appliances, and things he wants. So, in short, no.

Scores on the bedroom doors

Mostly A: Sex Goddess
You and your man have a passionate relationship, but might be lacking in intimacy. While he might be keen to get to grips with your naked body, the contents of your brain remain unravaged.
What you'll get from this book: Suggestions of ways you can get closer outside the bedroom. Sex might be the glue that holds relationships together, but you'll want to be able to talk to him in the times you're not clutching his manhood. This book will help you do that.

Mostly B: Cherished Goddess
You are serene at home because you feel in control. You run the house well, but might be in danger of mothering your man. While it's good to run your home efficiently, keeping tabs on your guy might make him feel controlled and itch for some freedom.
What you'll get from this book: A way to maintain an air of lofty distance from your fella. If the thought of that frightens you, it's a sign you need to read on. The best long-term relationships aren't about living in each others' pockets.

Mostly C: God Help You
Oops. It's all gone belly-up — which is probably the position you lie in when you have your annual shag. Feelings of resentment have built up between you and your man, meaning that neither of you goes out of their way to please the other. Sexy? Nope. But don't worry, things can improve, and rapidly.
What you'll get from this book: A way to wipe the slate clean and start again. This book will change your attitude, giving you the tools to create a new relationship out of the wreckage of the old one. You'll find a million ways to enjoy lusty, thrilling sex with your man, and manage the house at the same time.