Discover Your Sensual Potential: A Woman's Guide to Guaranteed Satisfaction

by Barbara Keesling PhD

Overview

Sex is one of the purest forms of human endeavor—the ultimate arena of sharing between people. It is the nourishing confluence of so many special elements: touch, physicality, communication, play, arousal, and intimacy. So why so often does the entire focus of sex for women become: Will I have an orgasm or won't I? Wouldn't it be wonderful—for both men and women—if female orgasm were no longer an uncertainty, but rather, a given?

Dr. Barbara Keesling allows this fantasy of sexual fulfillment to be any woman's reality—following her unique exercises designed to strengthen and gain control over a little-known, rarely exercised internal area of the female body, it is possible for all women to control and guarantee orgasm! Once loving partners are no longer worried about climax, the pressure often associated with lovemaking gives way—and sex can reach its full potential.

To this end, Dr. Keesling paves the way for wonderful sensual payoffs by including racy and romantic exercises to help couples rediscover that sex is much more than striving for a big finish—it's the sensual stops along the way that make it worthwhile.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780060929473
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	01/27/1999
Pages:	176
Product dimensions:	5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Barbara Keesling has worked as a sex surrogate and sex therapist; earned a doctorate in psychology; written several bedside guides on lovemaking including Sexual Healing, Sexual Pleasure, and How to Make Love All Night; and taught human sexuality and psychopathology at Pepperdine University in southern California.

Keesling's expertise has been featured in numerous national magazines such as Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, and Marie Claire, and she appeared in an erotic Playboy pictorial. She is a frequent guest on national TV and radio talk shows.

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Secrets

You are about to experience an orgasm that is going to shatter every notion you have ever had about the joys of making love. Whether you are a highly orgasmic woman who regularly enjoys deep sensual fulfillment or you are one of the silent majority of women who has to work hard to achieve a satisfying erotic connection, your understanding of your own sensual potential is about to change forever.

Imagine, if you will, an explosive vaginal orgasm that doesn't require prolonged intercourse to the point of exhaustion. Imagine an explosive vaginal orgasm that does not require convoluted gymnastics or a perfect partner. Imagine an explosive vaginal orgasm that never disappoints you and never fails. Imagine an explosive vaginal orgasm that you control. Now imagine how much this would free you and your partner; imagine how it would invigorate your lovemaking. What you are imagining is a reality called super sexual orgasm, the key to your erotic potential.

Pam's Secret

I am a sex therapist in private practice in Southern California, but I actually began my work in the field of human sexuality as a sexual surrogate. When I first started my work years ago as a surrogate partner, there was another surrogate working at the same clinic—let's call her Pam—who was able to have, according to her, the most deliciously powerful vaginal orgasms, instantaneously triggered at penetration. Pam had always had these "vaginal volcanoes" as she described them to me. She said the experience was all-consuming and enormously, deliciously spellbinding. Her orgasms had never been any different and she actually thought hers was everywoman's experience!

It was so tantalizingly frustrating for me to hear how Pam could offer no explanation for how others could replicate her enormous pleasure. It also seemed strange from a research perspective that such an enormous potential for a woman's pleasure was so little understood. After all, I thought, if we can put satellites in the sky that can read the license plate of the car in your driveway, surely we can figure out Pam's secret!

Well, it wasn't always easy but I was very determined. Over the years, my therapeutic work and the work of my colleagues moved me closer and closer to discovering Pam's secret. And finally, after many years, all of the pieces of the puzzle came together. Finally, I was able to understand what Pam's body had been doing. And, even more important, Pam's secret became a secret that could be shared.

Introducing the Key to Pleasure:
The Cul-de-Sac

The key to super sexual orgasm lies within a small passage of the vaginal canal, just beyond the cervix, known as the cul-de-sac. As is so often the case with labels, the name of this passage belies the truth, for this cul-de-sac is no dead end. To the contrary, this small section of the vaginal canal is so extraordinarily rich in sensitive nerve endings that the slightest contact with a man's penis or sex toy can trigger an instantaneous orgasm so powerful, so shiveringly all-consuming, and so absolutely delicious that it practically defies description (though the phrase "lightning bolt" does come to mind!).

This cul-de-sac passage is the gateway to total erotic pleasure. And the "cul-de-sac response" that is triggered during penetration is the secret that is about to change your life. Sounds simple, doesn't it? It is simple. Beautifully simple. But here's the problem: While every woman has a cul-de-sac, not every woman can make this super-charged part of the vaginal canal "available" during intercourse. For most women, the weight and positioning of the uterus tend to compress the vaginal canal at the entrance to the cul-de-sac passage, creating a daunting vaginal roadblock. This most unwelcome obstruction tends to make the special cul-de-sac passage a closed road, inaccessible to penetration by the penis during intercourse. The penis (or dildo) may reach, but it cannot enter, and as a result, the most potentially gratifying erotic experience any woman could imagine remains just out of reach. Out of reach, that is, until now.

Over the past several years I have worked with my colleagues and clients to develop a simple program of exercises and techniques to give a woman the necessary strength and control in her uterus and vagina to actually lift and flatten the uterus during intercourse, to "fan" the vaginal canal, and open the cul-de-sac passage to penetration. The result: super sexual orgasm in the cul-de-sac passage for any woman who has the desire to make it possible.

This program is included in its entirety in Part I. It begins with exercises to build necessary muscle strength and control (Chapter 2). It continues with exercises and techniques to help you capture necessary body motion and positioning (Chapter 3). And it culminates in a powerful synthesis that will bring you to your first super sexual orgasm (Chapter 4). But that is just the beginning. In Part II the larger, more romantic payoffs of SSO become clear as you experience a new sense of strength and confidence, and capacity for intimate connection.