Table of Contents
Introduction ix
Addiction and Its Manifestations 1
What Is Addiction? 1
What is Recovery? 27
Roadblocks to Recovery: Potential Challenges and Obstacles That Can Interfere with Your Recovery 41
Detoxing after Detox: Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS) 41
Playing Defense: Denial, Minimizing, Rationalizing, and Avoidance 43
Substituting One Manifestation of Addiction for Another 50
Acting Out on Anger and Resentments 55
Escaping and Numbing Uncomfortable, Painful Feelings 60
Stressing Out 71
Connecting the Dots between Stress and Trauma 75
Adding Injury to Injury: Unresolved Trauma 76
Taking Medication 78
Refusing to Part Ways with People, Places, Events, and Things 80
Thinking in Distortions and Clinging to Faulty Beliefs 83
Having Unrealistic Expectations 89
Floating on the Pink Cloud 92
Becoming Complacent 93
Continuing Your Journey of Recovery 96
Pathways to Recovery: Strategies, Suggestions, and Solutions to Strengthen Your Recover 99
Recovering One Day at a Time 100
Filling the Internal Emptiness 102
Breaking In Recovery-Oriented Ways of Thinking, Feeling, and Acting 102
Connecting the Dots between Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions 103
Recovery and the Four Points of Balance 107
Mental Balance 109
Emotional Balance 119
Physical Balance 125
Spiritual Balance 145
The Value of Twelve-Step Program Participation 159
Trauma, Addiction, and Recovery 163
What Is Trauma? 163
The Effects of Trauma 165
Trauma Can Take Many Forms 166
The Connection between Trauma and Addiction 168
What's the Difference between Stress and Trauma? 172
What's the Difference between Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? 175
Trauma and the Brain 178
Retraumatization 182
Trauma Reenactment 182
Considerations for Healing from Trauma, Treatment, and Recovery 183
Trauma Self-Help Healing and Recovery Tips 184
Professional Trauma Treatment 189
Addiction as a Family Disease 193
Families as Systems 193
What Exactly Is Addiction? 194
In Your Defense 195
Positive Intentions, Unintended Results 198
Enabling 199
Codependency 204
Turning the Corner 211
Family Recovery 213
What Is Recovery for Family Members/Significant Others? 213
The Therapeutic Value of Connection and Support through Mutual Aid/Twelve-Step Programs 217
Self-Care and Balance 221
A Continuing Journey 229