Table of Contents
Introduction General Principles Underpinning This Book xi
Part I Incompatible Personality Traits 1
1 What Are Incompatible Personality Traits? 3
2 Variety Plus or a Rich Inner Life? Extroverts and Introverts 7
3 Let's Get Organized or Go with the Flow? Planners and Optionizers 17
4 Which Rules, the Head or the Heart? Thinkers and Feelers 24
Part II Frustrating and Annoying Personality Patterns 33
5 Built-in Flaw Detectors Negativity 35
6 I'm Better Than You! Superiority 42
7 I Have All the Power, I Know All the Answers Bossiness 49
Part III Confusing Personality Types 59
8 The World Is Such a Dangerous Place! The Anxious Personality 61
9 Getting on Top of Anxiety General Strategies 87
10 Everything Is Under Control Anxiety-Based Behavior 96
11 I'm Always Right The Inflexible Personality 126
12 Don't Ever Leave Me The Demanding Personality 132
Part IV Damaging Personalities 143
13 You'll Never Get Me The Passive-Aggressive Personality 145
14 A Silent Nightmare The Bullying Personality 155
15 Everyday Predators Among Us The Sociopathic Personality 172
Part V Strategies 203
16 Strategies for Coping with Sociopaths 205
17 Making Decisions About Difficult Situates and Relationships 215
18 Rational and Irrational Thinking 222
19 Healthy Self-Assertion 233
20 Managing Your Own Anger and the Anger of Others 239
21 Managing Conflict 247
22 Skills for Maintaining a Strong Romantic Partnership 254
Part VI Following Up 267
Finding a Good Psychologist 269
Books You Might Like to Read 271
Index 275
About the Authors 206