Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint: A Powerful Guide to Transformation Through Disentangling Multigenerational Patterns

by Judy Wilkins-Smith

Overview

Break free from the patterns that hold you back and open to your most extraordinary life with systemic dynamics and family constellations work.

Everyone knows we inherit our physical DNA, but few people realize we also inherit our emotional DNA—an ancestral blueprint of thoughts, feelings, and actions handed down to us through multiple generations of repeated family patterns. In Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint, transformational coach Judy Wilkins-Smith shares the good news that no matter what blueprint you’ve been given, you have the power to change your life.

Wilkins-Smith adeptly guides readers through both the art and science of creating lasting transformation by working with systemic dynamics and constellations. As she explains, all of the different systems we belong to—our families, organizations, careers, religions, clubs, cultures—subtly determine how we think, feel, choose, and act. When we illuminate our invisible allegiances to these systems, we’re able to make new choices and watch a world of possibilities open before us.

Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint brings you a wealth of hands-on strategies and practices so you can learn to detect hidden and multigenerational patterns, recognize their purpose, and then transform old cycles to create an extraordinary life. Throughout the book, you’ll:

• Learn to make the invisible visible by decoding your use of language and your body’s messages
• Identify the gifts that are often hidden within the pain and messiness of a family or other system
• Understand the physical, emotional, and neurological changes that happen through systemic work
• Break free from the immensely powerful meta patterns that keep you in a systemic trance—including gender, war, natural disasters, and religion
• Explore the ways your unconscious patterning impacts every area of life—relationships, money, health, and more

With inspiring stories of real transformation, fascinating explanations of the science behind this work, and practical tools and exercises, Wilkins-Smith will expand your idea of what you think is possible for your life and help you make your greatest visions a reality.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781683648888
Publisher:	Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date:	06/07/2022
Pages:	256
Sales rank:	487,857
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Judy Wilkins-Smith is a highly regarded organizational, individual, and family patterns expert. A systemic executive coach, trainer, facilitator, thought partner, and leadership conference and motivational speaker, she has 18 years of expertise in assisting high-performance individuals, Fortune 500 executives, and legacy families to end limiting cycles and reframe challenges into lasting breakthroughs and peak performance. She resides near Dallas, Texas. For more, visit judywilkins-smith.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Part I Discovering Your Emotional Blueprint: The Treasure Map within You

Chapter 1 The System: A Treasure Chest of Possibilities 9

Chapter 2 Your Hidden Treasure in 3D: Emotional DNA and Constellations 27

Chapter 3 The Science Behind Systemic Work and Constellations 41

Chapter 4 Practical Magic (aka Transformation) 55

Part II Following the Clues

Chapter 5 Uncovering the Hidden Gems: Symptoms Are Gold Mines 67

Chapter 6 Mining for Gold, Part 1: Identifying Your Issue 75

Chapter 7 Mining for Gold, Part 2: Exploring Your Issue 85

Chapter 8 The Pivot: Transforming Your Issue 97

Part III Digging Deeper: Into the Heart of the Hidden Language That Runs Your Life

Chapter 9 Disentangling Sentences of Doom: Sentences of Resolution 115

Chapter 10 Portals of Possibility: Sentences of Re-Solution 129

Chapter 11 The Big Guns That Run the Show: Meta Patterns 139

Part IV The Treasure of Human Potential: Building Beyond Perceived Limits

Chapter 12 Mining Your Relationship DNA: Personal Relationships 157

Chapter 13 Mining Your Relationship DNA: Business Relationships 173

Chapter 14 Where Is Your Best? Your Success DNA 187

Chapter 15 Show Me the Money! Money DNA 201

Chapter 16 Communiqués from the Body: Health DNA 217

Chapter 17 Systemic Work and Constellations in Service of Global Transformation 231

Acknowledgments 237

Notes 239

About the Author 243

Editorial Reviews

04/18/2022

Leadership coach Wilkins-Smith debuts with an eye-opening exploration of how nature and nurture shape personality. The author draws on her leadership workshops to encourage readers to “discover and face the invisible patterns you’ve been loyally following that have been handed down to you by your ancestors.” Doing so, she suggests, will help one learn to change these habits. For example, Wilkins-Smith tells of a client who struggled to make an impression at work before he realized that taking care of his younger siblings while growing up gave him a tendency to put others first, and that he should start prioritizing his own career. To reveal one’s family patterns, Wilkins-Smith urges readers to ask themselves such questions as “Do your family members have similar events, thoughts, and experiences in their lives (e.g., the women all leave)?” She also recommends positioning note cards representing family members in a manner of one’s choosing and then analyzing the layout to uncover one’s feelings about one’s relatives. The client stories brim with keen psychological analysis, and the exercises effectively package the author’s workshop techniques for solo use. The result is an insightful and informative guide to better knowing oneself. (June)

Publishers Weekly

...an eye-opening exploration of how nature and nurture shape personality...The client stories brim with keen psychological analysis...The result is an insightful and informative guide to better knowing oneself.” —Publishers Weekly

“Judy’s work is expansive, profound, and what the world needs right now. I thought I knew what constellations work was until I read her book. The depth and wisdom she brings is transformative personally and will be globally. She brings the wisdom of the ancients and science together seamlessly and with such clarity that it’s impossible to debate the work!” —Betsy Chasse, filmmaker of What the Bleep Do We Know?! and Pregnant in America

“Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint is no ordinary self-help book. It takes you on a deep journey to help you identify healthy and unhealthy connections to your family of origin and enables you to truly shift your mindset and unlock lasting transformation. We all have a story that comes from our family lineage and a multi-generational system that carries forward emotional hooks that can unconsciously control your life and hamper ambition. This book works with you to debunk myths you’ve long accepted or believed were the truth just because that’s how it is in your family. As a leader, this book helped me identify limiting beliefs that were impacting my effectiveness. By acknowledging and creating a more empowering path, I have emerged a stronger leader and person. The growth is ongoing and the impact is undeniable.” —Cheryl DeSantis, chief people & diversity officer at SmileDirectClub

“Judy has a magical way of taking a look alongside her clients to the most tragic events in their lives and helping them turn the tragedies into strengths, lessons, and triumphs. Her work lies at the heart of an energy field, where all her clients and workshop participants connect with each other (and their family/organizational systems) in nonverbal and verbal ways they never thought were possible. I was so drawn to the process of change within her work that I studied it for my PhD dissertation in marriage and family therapy. Since then and even before my study, many researchers across the world have studied family and organizational constellations to uncover the mechanisms of change and impact of this powerful modality. A must-read for lifelong learners of all ages and for everyone who feels propelled to make a significant leap in their personal and professional growth!” —Sofia Georgiadou, PhD, LPC-S, LMFT, NCC

“In the book Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint, Judy Wilkins-Smith takes the reader on an authentic journey of transformation and assists them in unveiling the true power of who they are. Beyond your subconscious patterns and ancestral history lie a new and ‘bigger you.’ This book not only applies extensive research and real-life experiences of what that entails but also navigates you through a concise road map of how to get there! If you’re drowning in a sea of how-to books but looking for something different, something special, something life changing … Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint will pull you out of the mucky self-help waters and onto the shore of a new and expansive life!” —Barry Goldstein, multi-award-winning producer, composer, and author

“Powerful and timely! Judy Wilkins-Smith’s book, Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint, offers a compelling new model for healing. Through a beautiful synthesis of ancestral wisdom, insight, modern science, and the power of systemic work and constellations, she shows how transformation can be a genuine part of our daily lives. Judy gives our minds a reason to accept what our hearts already know—that the power of wellness lives within each of us. This book is a must for any library of science and healing in the 21st century!” —Dr. Darren Weissman, chiropractor and creator of The LifeLine Technique

“Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint is a fabulous journey into seeing, understanding, embracing, and transforming inherited ancestral patterns of thought and emotion, choices and values that have been unconsciously running the show, opening the reader up to exciting new levels of life expression. Easy to read, filled with client stories and insightful coaching exercises, no one who starts this book will be the same by the end!” —Cate Montana, author of The E-Word: Ego, Enlightenment & Other Essentials and Apollo & Me

“Every human being on the planet is shaped by invisible patterns of thoughts, language, feelings, and actions handed down by their ancestors that end up unconsciously limiting their lives. In her fascinating and easy-to-read book Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint, Judy Wilkins-Smith shows us how to uncover and understand these multigenerational patterns and turn those old traumas and triggers into transformation opportunities. If you want an astounding new window onto your family, business, money, or relationship ‘issues’ and a fast track to healing and change, this is the book for you!” —Sandie Sedgbeer, author, broadcaster, and host of OMTimes Media’s flagship radio show What Is Going OM

“In this brilliant book, executive coach Judy Wilkins-Smith shows how these are often unconscious patterns passed down through generations from our ancestors. She shows how a single thought or word—our ‘emotional DNA’—can curb our potential. We’re surrounded by systems that keep these blockages in place, and until we learn to crack the code, we reenact our family patterns. I recommend this book highly both for clinicians and as a self-help guide.” —Dawson Church, PhD, author of The Genie in Your Genes

“Eye-opener! This book makes you aware of the influence of your family system on many aspects of your life and prompts you to take action for change. The book is very accessible and easy to read, contains many examples that strike home, and invites you to consider your own path and its possibilities.” —Bibi Schreuder and Barbara Hoogenboom, co-owners of Bert Hellinger Institute Netherlands

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