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Conflict 101: A Manager's Guide to Resolving Problems So Everyone Can Get Back to Work
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Overview
Learn how conflict is created, how to respond to it, and how to manage it more effectively so that your team can get back to doing what it does best: producing top results for your organization.
From mild disagreements to major personnel blowouts, conflict in the workplace is unavoidable. Conflict 101 employs research, humor, and relatable anecdotes to help readers more deeply understand:
- what it takes to build trust,
- harness negative emotions,
- encourage apologies and forgiveness,
- use a solution-seeking approach,
- and say what needs to be said in the workplace to move past conflicts.
Whether it's a fight over resources, a disagreement about how to get things done, or an argument stemming from perceived differences in identities or values, the manager's role is to navigate relationships, build compromises, and encourage better collaboration.
In doing so, you'll not only become a stronger manager--you'll build a much stronger team.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9780814417119 |
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Publisher: | AMACOM |
Publication date: | 05/11/2011 |
Pages: | 272 |
Sales rank: | 1,000,815 |
Product dimensions: | 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d) |
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Overview of the Book
Part I sets the stage for understanding conflict, beginning with this chapter.
Chapter 2, “What Gets in Our Way?” explores what happens when a working relationship has gotten off track—how fear, assumptions a blame, and habits get in the way of resolving conflicts.
Part II, “Understanding the Dynamics of Conflict,” provides an analysis of the dimensions of conflict, which points to the tools to understand differences and avoid needless contention. Chapter 3, “What We
Need: The Satisfaction Triangle,” describes three necessary components of satisfactory solutions. In Chapter 4, “Where We Are: Levels of Conflict,” you will see how resolving conflict at the earliest opportunity is easiest—and strategies for dealing with conflicts that have escalated.
Chapter 5, “How We Respond: Approaches to Conflict,” enables you to gain a clearer understanding of your own approaches to conflict, and the approaches others around you use. From there, you learn strategies for beginning to change those approaches when they are not useful and to deal more effectively with other approaches you encounter at work.
Chapter 6, “Who We Are: Cultural Considerations,” explores cultural differences and the role these differences play in creating and resolving conflict. Chapter 7, “What We Are Arguing About Matters:
Sources of Conflict,” analyzes five sources of conflict in the workplace:
information, interests, structural conflicts, values, and relationships—
with a guide to using that understanding to resolve conflict more effectively.
Part III, “Keys to Resolving Conflict,” introduces five concepts managers can use to create a more positive climate for workplace relationships.
Chapter 8, “Building Trust,” considers behaviors that build or wreck trust and how to rebuild trust that has been broken. Chapter 9,
“Apology and Forgiveness,” addresses the role that apologies and forgiveness play, and provides steps to take to apologize effectively and to move toward forgiveness. Chapter 10, “Rethinking Anger,” explores the physiology of anger, as well as ways to manage your own anger or respond to others’ anger. Chapter 11, “A Sense of Humor,” focuses on the importance of keeping the ups and downs of working relationships in perspective;
and Chapter 12, “Time,” reflects on the importance of time in decision making and the resolution of conflict.
Part IV, “Putting It All Together,” brings together concepts explored in earlier chapters, providing specific conflict-resolution tools and communication skills. Chapter 13, “Reaching Agreement: A Solution-
Seeking Model,” delineates a process for addressing differences, presents a solution-seeking model, and shows how to use it. Chapter 14,
“Listening Is the Place to Start,” focuses on listening skills and explores how managers can listen more effectively. Chapter 15, “Saying What
Needs to Be Said,” gives a guide and some tips for raising concerns and addressing issues so that others are more likely to hear your message.
Chapter 16, “The Challenge of Electronic Communication,” explores how to use electronic communication effectively in addressing workplace conflicts.
Each of the concepts and skills presented here will enable you to resolve conflicts more quickly and effectively, which will have an immediate impact on morale, productivity, and ultimately the bottom line.
Table of Contents
Contents
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
PART I
INTRODUCTION
CHAPTER 1 THE JOY OF CONFLICT
Conflict Defined
Conflict in the Workplace
Drawing from My Own Experience
How We Think About Conflict
Overview of the Book
CHAPTER 2 WHAT GETS IN OUR WAY?
Fear as a Stumbling Block
Blame as a Stumbling Block
Assumptions as Stumbling Blocks
Habits as Stumbling Blocks
PART II
UNDERSTANDING THE
DYNAMICS OF CONFLICT
CHAPTER 3 WHAT WE NEED:
THE SATISFACTION TRIANGLE
Substance Satisfaction
Process Satisfaction
Emotional Satisfation
CHAPTER 4 WHERE WE ARE:
LEVELS OF CONFLICT
The Five Levels of Conflict
Strategies for Each Conflict Level
CHAPTER 5 HOW WE RESPOND:
APPROACHES TO CONFLICT
Avoiding
Accommodating
Directing
Compromising
Collaborating
CHAPTER 6 WHO WE ARE:
CULTURAL CONSIDERATIONS
Culture Defined
Five Dimensions of Cultural Difference
Power and Culture
CHAPTER 7 WHAT WE ARE ARGUING
ABOUT MATTERS: SOURCES OF CONFLICT
Information
Interests
Structural Conflicts
Values
Relationships
PART III
KEYS TO RESOLVING CONFLICT
CHAPTER 8 BUILDING TRUST
Components of Trust
How to Wreck Trust
How to Build Trust
How to Rebuild Trust
CHAPTER 9 APOLOGY AND FORGIVENESS
Apology Offered
Forgiveness Granted
CHAPTER 10 RETHINKING ANGER
The Physiology of Emotions
How to Manage Your Own Anger
How to Respond to Someone Else’s Anger
Anger and Violence in the Workplace
CHAPTER 11 A SENSE OF HUMOR
Keeping Things in Perspective
As Simple as a Smile
Cautions on the Use of Humor
CHAPTER 12 TIME
Patience Is a Virtue
Time to Process Feedback
Time as a Face-Saving Tool
Time to Check It Out
The Right Time
PART IV
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
CHAPTER 13 REACHING AGREEMENT:
A SOLUTION-SEEKING MODEL
A Four-Step Process
Prepare
Discover
Consider
Commit
CHAPTER 14 LISTENING IS THE PLACE TO START
What Keeps Us from Listening?
The Three C’s: Calm. Courage. Curiosity
What Are You Listening For?
The Listener’s Tools
CHAPTER 15 SAYING WHAT NEEDS TO BE SAID
Know Yourself First
Frame the Situation Accurately
Speak to Be Heard
More Powerful Persuasion
What to Avoid When You Are Talking
CHAPTER 16 THE CHALLENGE OF ELECTRONIC
TEXT COMMUNICATION
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
When Not to Use Electronic Communication
How to Write an E-Mail
A Word About Social Networking
BIBLIOGRAPHY
INDEX