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CHAPTER 1
Why Me?
WHy me is the question referring me to being the best man to be in a life time lovers relationship. I'm gonna pour this from the heart. I was raised wrong and taught wrong from day one about a relationship with females. Besides my Mother being with my Father, my Aunt with my Uncle, or my Grandma with my Grandfather couples was not in my perception. When I say couples was not in my perception I mean no relationship was ever gonna last faithful until it was time for them to die off. I see all my mistakes which the most important one is rushing and not getting to really know who I say I want to be with. A lot has to do with the brains maturity or the education one has. A lot of times I want to rush kiss and have sex and it wasn't something she wanted. That right there kind of pushed her away or me to cut it off because I feel sincere and shes keeping sex away from me like if shes doing something totally different than me and were both together. A lot of times I felt like I was being played and not realizing how shes entitled to feel that way and I wish I had that understanding because I messed up a lot of beautiful relationships that could of bloomed and I broke a lot of girls hearts. Another mistake of mines was making females think were together and being outside when there not around trying to tell all the other girls the same thing. I feel bad that I did that because it was fake something I definitely wouldn't do now. When I use to do that it didn't hurt the girl until she found out, if she ever found out before we broke up. I use to take the emotions and things girls said to me for granted and I use to say I love a lot I wish I was never a part of the circle of people who did that because I missed a lot of golden opportunities, and respect that could have been something honored. I know that I am the man that will keep sparks flying in a relationship especially marriage. I see everything I did wrong in my past by the words I used the display, and I became in tune with myself to know my role and what it takes. I say this with a lot of confidence everybody who reads this book should know all females ain't looking for the same thing in a man. I only can target women who are looking for one man who is willing to be there and do everything the woman is suppose to do with him and nothing less. I am the man who is not complicated always remains smooth and doesn't like friction or conflict to arise. I am the man who stays the same and understands human mood changes and wouldn't lash out on his woman for her yelling or displaying her anger. This book is for women who want to be with one man not men and have the mind to treat him special and come out always surprising the moment and keeping her man happy even if he gets mad she wont take it wrong she knows what to do in all situations. I'm breaking down myself in a way but this book is soulmate material. I myself would not cheat on my woman I'm searching for marriage. I'm looking for a woman that I can build with spiritually and mentally despite of what we know already from growing up we need our own foundation we both go to and grow from which will balance everything out for us. I would work hard so we both have extra time to be together. I know I would want a woman who always wants to be with her man enjoying life where ever or when ever. Responsibilities will cramp that but taken advantage of all the opportunities I want that to be priority in our life style. I will always search for things we can do together like picnics in the park, going to the zoo, museum, a sports game, going to feed the animals at a wild life park, arcades, bowling, massage sessions at home, soothing discussions about our future in a hot tub with exotic non alcoholic beverages. I don't smoke or drink and that's what type of woman I would want to share life with. I keep myself clean and I like to smell good. I'm not expensive in clothes but I like expensive shoes. I like having conversations about a lot of things and that alone will keep things going if we were both on the same track of mind because we could test each other in what we know and that's the best to me. I am family orientated I love my family and I wouldn't turn against them and a woman with the same love and we can share our views of how we love our family, that is something that is a blessing. I like to leave good memories something that will always keep my woman thinking like what is he gonna do next and even if she doesn't think that her just knowing I ain't gonna give up on loving and gifting her out is cool with me. I know how to cook and with a woman who knows how to cook we can share each others meals preparing them. We can share putting them together maybe have a little lovers food tasting or playful food fight. I will initiate all of this and if my woman did it first she let me know shes down and that I wouldn't upset her. I would do anything she says and when I say that the woman I have should be a rational, logic, and sincere thinker and wouldn't waste questions on stupidity. I wouldn't talk irrelevant things to my woman I wouldn't just talk without a purpose. A lot of the time it would be to let her know I'm still feeling you and I haven't changed from my commitment. Ill joke around here and there with my woman and I hope to get the same in return. I would vent my issues with my woman and she would be a good listener. I would listen to her vent and we can talk it out besides family and me, its me and her against the losers. With some important things about me said having a woman who will do the same what a relationship that cant be touched especially children coming out of the goodness. I also have self control and I can walk away from anything that will degrade or dishonor my woman with any dishonorable thing.
CHAPTER 2
What I see women doing wrong
As I look at relationships out side of mines I see a lot of women getting treated like if they have no real value. I see a lot of men treat their woman like if they don't care about them all the time. What I see women doing wrong is letting to much slide that is definitely considered a no no. Women get cheated on and they are really sincere about being in a relationship and these women know they are being cheated on and all they do is raise a argument that never changes anything. It would be perfect logic to go and separate yourself from whats going on that you don't agree with and search for someone you are sure about. I see women saying they want a sincere and trustworthy relationship but they dress like if they need the worlds approval to make them feel good they have a good looking body. For women who do this and it bothers their man shes putting a lot of unnecessary emotions in the relationship which could make the man go out and be with a woman who dresses the same or modest. He may still be with the woman hes with but shes not his only and the reason is she makes him feel uncomfortable by the way she dresses. Women say they dress like that because it makes them feel good and their man has nothing to worry about. That is a practical joke because you have perverts and sick minded people that he has to worry about. If she arouses her man does she think she doesn't do the same for somebody else. How many times does a woman want to tell men she is spoken for? Basically dressing like a body promoter in a sincere relationship you will be saying it everywhere you go. You might say it so much you get tired of talking. For all the females who go through this attention do you think your man wants to hear about all the times you denied men all day long like if you did something that deserves a metal of honor. And if you don't tell him what type of relationship are you in, that would be very disrespectful. Women want to go to the club and hang out ladies night knowing they are going to be approached and at least asked do they have a man. A mans response to you having a man at this time is how can he let something so precious be out of his sight. What man wants his girl always getting a come on by other men? Women don't see it always from this point of view. Then coming home late at night is crazy even if you ain't cheating if it was the other way around you would act the same. To eliminate all the problems educate yourself about yourself. Relationships is meant to be firmly grounded fully balanced. Women not appreciating their man when hes sincerely loaded with work and business to take care of so they can survive living good. Starting arguments because they want more attention or some sex when they can talk about it with their man. For men who work hard to provide for their woman women should have more patience because if they lived any lesser would she stick around with the man shes with. Women need to really work with their man in this case and not against him. Men need to understand to be there also because logically your woman needs more than money or your boring.
CHAPTER 3
Young women do what older women do
I'm gonna start this by saying women start out wanting a commitment at a young age. Like I said before all women aren't the same. You see a lot of young girls day dreaming and wanting a boyfriend they can grow up with and one day marry them and make the boys their husbands. You can see this a lot in urban areas. Even if the young girls really cant see that far into the future with their small perception it still is a thought in their minds. Usually they are told girl you don't know what your talking about your to young to know what love is. They get told what they are feeling is puppy love and its gonna go away.
Now older women after a certain period of time they want a serious commitment a man someone who's going to be there and hold the house down and be a good baby father. For a older woman who just meets a man in the out side doors if he makes her feel good she may go to her girl friends and say every time I am around this guy he makes me feel appreciated and he puts butterflies in my stomach. Even though women are stronger minded than younger girls can that be considered puppy love? Who knows if its gonna be true or not? Is taking a risk healthy because your ready to settle down good? Its real funny how older woman and when I say this I ain't complaining. How older women act like that little girl she was sometimes in the relationship.
The same as young girls knowing they are young and when they are away from their parents acting grown. The morals of this is the commitment grown women want and some little girls look for the same thing with little boys without fully understanding life. I felt this would be a good thing to keep fresh in serious women's minds.
CHAPTER 4
Evidence in history what the nature of women can be
I was told by a wise person I wish to not disclose their position. I was told all women are snakes by nature and some women are taught to be like that growing up by their mothers. I see the logic in the training seeing a lot of boys and guys go after women for their bodies and not their minds. Don't get the word snake mistaken like if I'm saying it in a negative way for the whole. There are different kinds of snakes and the snake you would never have to worry about is the friendly garden snake. Then you have the vicious snakes the cobras, rattles, copperheads, corals, black mambas etc. The poisonous snakes that will bite you and you instantly die or if your rushed to the anti venom you may live to come across another to know how to better handle the situation. What could be a poisonous snake bite symbolic to a woman? A woman driving a man crazy to the point he'll give up everything he worked hard for so she doesn't leave and she still leaves. He could end up very depressed and go through therapy and come out of that mental stage or all that can take place and he commits suicide because he cant deal with it. A woman who is a true venomous snake in a situation where a man said I love you "so and so" before he jumped off a bridge she wouldn't care and that wouldn't move her one little bit. I really thought of what I'm about to say next off of rationalizing different things in life. I'm basically going to say that ruthless cunning women who don't care about going to hell may keep it to themselves or throw it in other peoples face.
It says in Ecclesiastes 7:26 I found more bitter than death the woman who is a trap who's hearts is snares and nets who's hands are fetters.
The definition of (snares): A trapping device, often consisting of a noose, used for capturing birds and small mammals. The definition of (fetters): A chain or shackle for the ankles or feet.
I will never imitate a woman. The point I'm trying to make is if I was a woman and The Holy book said something like this and I was a pure heart sinner it would be a praise. I believe females glorify that even god said its nature for them to do this wicked action. The next verse after says Ecclesiastes 7:27 One who pleases God escapes her but the sinner is taken by her.
This is saying only men of God can avoid slipping into her cunning desires. I am one to witness myself not slipping into anything I use to do and wanting to live according to what God says. Women may or may not quote God said its in me by nature. Lets stop for a moment. How many females grow up with out being comforted or taken care of as babies and discovered this nature. The answer to that is none. I hope that the women out there living a life of a manipulative, cunning woman just use that energy to raise a beautiful household and stay true to God and ask for forgiveness.
CHAPTER 5
The true relationship between a man and a woman
Man was created first and then God created animals to be a partner to man then while man was sleeping God took one of his ribs and made a woman which was perfect pair for creation.
My understanding of a true relationship between a man and a woman after I've been raised wrong. All my facts and experiences into a conclusion is like this. My understanding is man is to get to know the female first and they get to know each other without sexual intercourse they get to really see what both of them want out of the relationship first and ask each other do they think they can meet those requirements being together. If the answer is yes then they should get married and then indulge in sexual intercourse. This is all pleasing to God. This is also securing the fact the children if they bear any married will not be bastards or born out of wed lock. I think it would be real beautiful for a man and a woman to teach each other about themselves and get real mentally deep with each other and take it to the next level and cherish life with each other. I desire to marry before I have sexual intercourse again and I don't know how long its gonna take for me to get married but I'm not gonna let no woman take me out my militancy. I hope this lights the hearts of people and they really become focus and seek to please God and pair up and do what it takes to have the best of everything with one another. We don't live forever and to spend it all with one person and family is one of the best things I can ever have in this world. Through thick and thin never giving up.
CHAPTER 6
Why men don't want a commitment
Most men don't want a commitment because numerous of reasons I hope to go through as many as I can in this chapter if I leave any out please forgive me because it doesn't mean I don't know it,its just I didn't really get it to the surface.
The first reason a man wouldn't want a commitment is because he could have seen how a couple acted towards each other especially if he has a uncle and his aunt is real pushy his uncle could pull him to the side and say "boy you see how your aunt is don't be out there trying to find no girlfriend go out their and stick and move". This can be told to a young man by brothers, fathers, friends, etc also. The man can feel you know "why" put myself through drama like what he sees other people going through. Its a big thing if hes told " yeah it all starts out good then it all changes". That may prepare him to be defensive against sweet girls/ women who are sincere and wouldn't display crazy deranged behaviors like some. This is only the first reason. Another reason can be the life style not wanting to be tied down to one woman and liking to be able to benefit from all different types of personalities. A man may feel to be committed to all of the women he deals with because hes there for all of them and he treats them all good. It might be so sweet that he never had a argument with any of them because he ain't committed but he probably had a few pouting because hes not around all the time women in a case like this are happy when he is around and take advantage over his presence. A part of this could be college students or club type people or just real smooth Hood stars. Look at all the female groupies to a certain group which are majority they like weak women who just throw themselves at people for their fame why commit is the mind frame they have.
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