"Can You Run Away from Sorrow?": Mothers Left Behind in 1990s Belgrade

by Ivana Bajic-Hajdukovic

Overview

How does emigration affect those left behind? The fall of Yugoslavia in the 1990s led citizens to look for a better, more stable life elsewhere. For the older generations, however, this wasn't an option. In this powerful and moving work, Ivana Bajic-Hajdukovic reveals the impact that waves of emigration from Serbia had on family relationships and, in particular, on elderly mothers who stayed.

With nowhere to go, and any savings given to their children to help establish new lives, these seniors faced the crumbling country, waves of refugees from Croatia and Bosnia-Herzegovina, NATO bombing, the failing economy, and the trial and ouster of Slobodan Milosevic. "Can You Run Away from Sorrow?" poignantly depicts the intimacy of family relationships sustained through these turbulent times in Serbia and through the next generation's search for a new life. Bajic-Hajdukovic explores transformations in family intimacy during everyday life practices—in people's homes, in their food and cooking practices, in their childcare, and even in remittances and the exchange of gifts.

"Can You Run Away from Sorrow?" illustrates not only the tremendous sacrifice of parents, but also their profound sense of loss—of their families, their country, their stability and dignity, and most importantly, of their own identity and hope for what they thought their future would be.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780253050069
Publisher:	Indiana University Press (Ips)
Publication date:	10/06/2020
Series:	New Anthropologies of Europe
Pages:	158
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.37(d)
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Ivana Bajić-Hajduković is Adjunct Professor of Food Studies at Syracuse University in London, England.

Table of Contents

Introduction
1. The Locust Years
2. A Bite of Yugoslavia: Food, Memory, and Migration
3. Weaving the Order: Homes and Everyday Practices of Belgrade Mothers
4. Inalienable Possessions: Serbian Remittances
5. Keeping in Touch: "Can you run away from sorrow?"
6. Family Revisited: The Consequences of Migration
Conclusion
Bibliography
Index

What People are Saying About This

Catherine Baker

Older women's voices are scarcely heard in grand histories of the break-up of Yugoslavia. Ivana Bajić-Hajduković's empathetic study of mothers whose children emigrated from Belgrade in the 1990s, a time of war, repression, and hyperinflation, puts the intimacies of home, food, and gifts at its centre to view migration through the heartfelt sacrifices of the women left behind so that their children could build new lives abroad.

"Older women's voices are scarcely heard in grand histories of the break-up of Yugoslavia. Ivana Bajić-Hajduković's empathetic study of mothers whose children emigrated from Belgrade in the 1990s, a time of war, repression, and hyperinflation, puts the intimacies of home, food, and gifts at its centre to view migration through the heartfelt sacrifices of the women left behind so that their children could build new lives abroad."

Catherine Baker]]>

Older women's voices are scarcely heard in grand histories of the break-up of Yugoslavia. Ivana Bajić-Hajduković's empathetic study of mothers whose children emigrated from Belgrade in the 1990s, a time of war, repression, and hyperinflation, puts the intimacies of home, food, and gifts at its centre to view migration through the heartfelt sacrifices of the women left behind so that their children could build new lives abroad.

Daniel Miller

We would all recognise that war and displacement is usually the harbinger of tragedy for mothers and many works describe their suffering. But this book does something that is much less common. It takes the situation of left behind mothers in Serbia to ask deeper questions about what it means to be a mother. Being a mother means you are supporting your children, not receiving their remittances, it consists of cooking proper meals, and reminding children of the taste of home. When there is a reversal in circumstances, and the house becomes more a museum than a home, this becomes a visceral blow to mothers who for a time feel they have ceased to exist as such. Through her poignant stories and careful analysis Bajić-Hajduković helps us understand that it was the mothers left at home, who became exiled from themselves and shows us what lies at the foundation of being a mother.

Wendy Bracewell]]>

We know a great deal about the lives and attitudes of migrants, but much less about those they leave behind at home. Focusing on Belgrade mothers whose lives were shaped by the emigration of their children during the war years of the 1990s, this book offers a remarkable ethnography of self-sacrifice, loss, loneliness, and grief,  as well as resourcefulness and survival. Readers will be touched as well as enlightened – and will be reminded to get in touch with their own mothers.

Daniel Miller]]>

We would all recognise that war and displacement is usually the harbinger of tragedy for mothers and many works describe their suffering. But this book does something that is much less common. It takes the situation of left behind mothers in Serbia to ask deeper questions about what it means to be a mother. Being a mother means you are supporting your children, not receiving their remittances, it consists of cooking proper meals, and reminding children of the taste of home. When there is a reversal in circumstances, and the house becomes more a museum than a home, this becomes a visceral blow to mothers who for a time feel they have ceased to exist as such. Through her poignant stories and careful analysis Bajić-Hajduković helps us understand that it was the mothers left at home, who became exiled from themselves and shows us what lies at the foundation of being a mother.

Wendy Bracewell

We know a great deal about the lives and attitudes of migrants, but much less about those they leave behind at home. Focusing on Belgrade mothers whose lives were shaped by the emigration of their children during the war years of the 1990s, this book offers a remarkable ethnography of self-sacrifice, loss, loneliness, and grief,  as well as resourcefulness and survival. Readers will be touched as well as enlightened – and will be reminded to get in touch with their own mothers.

Editorial Reviews

"We would all recognise that war and displacement is usually the harbinger of tragedy for mothers and many works describe their suffering. But this book does something that is much less common. It takes the situation of left behind mothers in Serbia to ask deeper questions about what it means to be a mother. Being a mother means you are supporting your children, not receiving their remittances, it consists of cooking proper meals, and reminding children of the taste of home. When there is a reversal in circumstances, and the house becomes more a museum than a home, this becomes a visceral blow to mothers who for a time feel they have ceased to exist as such. Through her poignant stories and careful analysis Bajić-Hajduković helps us understand that it was the mothers left at home, who became exiled from themselves and shows us what lies at the foundation of being a mother."—Daniel Miller, author of The Comfort of People

"We know a great deal about the lives and attitudes of migrants, but much less about those they leave behind at home. Focusing on Belgrade mothers whose lives were shaped by the emigration of their children during the war years of the 1990s, this book offers a remarkable ethnography of self-sacrifice, loss, loneliness, and grief,  as well as resourcefulness and survival. Readers will be touched as well as enlightened – and will be reminded to get in touch with their own mothers."—Wendy Bracewell, School of Slavonic and East European Studies, University College London

"Older women's voices are scarcely heard in grand histories of the break-up of Yugoslavia. Ivana Bajić-Hajduković's empathetic study of mothers whose children emigrated from Belgrade in the 1990s, a time of war, repression, and hyperinflation, puts the intimacies of home, food, and gifts at its centre to view migration through the heartfelt sacrifices of the women left behind so that their children could build new lives abroad."—Catherine Baker, author of The Yugoslav Wars of the 1990s

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