Self-esteem is how we "see" ourselves; it influences much of what we do, including what we become. Feeling good about oneself gives a person the confidence to tackle life's many complex tasks and challenging pleasures. People who lack confidence, and avoid new or difficult experiences, may appear to lack ability. However, their low self-esteem probably caused them not to "try."
The foundation for self-esteem in adulthood develops during childhood. The building of self-esteem happens in conjunction with the development of many different tasks, from learning to say "momma" to understanding the molecular structure of DNA. Childhood is certainly a time of discovery, and part of that discovery has to do with learning what oneself is capable of mastering.
There are many reasons why the development of a child's self-esteem may be hindered. They range from very real problems, such as physical handicaps, to less clear issues, such as emotional problems stemming from parental divorce. Despite the particular difficulties that children may encounter, their self-esteem can grow and flourish – with the right support.
Understanding what is happening to children when they are experiencing significant developmental stages is crucial to helping them go through "phases," such as whether they are being shy or rebellious. However, adults are sometimes unaware of how sensitive children are to their words and actions. The environment in which a child experiences a new activity can be critical.
Unfortunately, there are many potentially negative results when children do not develop healthy self-esteem. Possible outcomes range from general unhappiness to deep depression, to dropping out of school, to robbery and even to violence. People with very low self-esteem may harbor resentment towards others who seem to have "more." This frustration can turn into anger. People with low self-esteem also often lack esteem for others.
Building children's self-esteem does not require special materials or complicated techniques. Rather, parents and teachers can rely on sensitivity and basic communication skills to understand and help children believe that they are competent and valued. The information presented in this publication explains how adults can influence the growth of a healthy self-image in children.
