Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate

by Gabrielle Hartley, Elena Brower

Overview

“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.” —Gwyneth Paltrow

Marital strife and divorce can be your chance to profoundly transform yourself, your mindset and your relationship with a more harmonious and steady vision. 

While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart.

What if you emerged from your divorce stronger and more resilient than ever before? Better Apart is the first book to apply the life-changing, healing wisdom of meditation and yoga, combined with practical advice, to help anyone going through the painful and seemingly intractable realities of divorce.

Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower are warm and caring guides who can help you compassionately part from your partner. Whether your separation is amicable, or your ex is combative, Better Apart can help you find peace, calm, and hope. Blending practical advice from a legal perspective together with spiritual wisdom, Gabrielle and Elena are experts and realists who have created a simple five-step process that uses original meditations, perspective-shifting exercises, and fresh suggestions to help navigate the common legal and emotional pitfalls of divorce. Don’t worry if you’ve never tried yoga or mediation; Gabrielle’s insight buttressed by Elena’s practices and exercises are accessible for all. Together, they show you how to meaningfully shift your mindset and to move forward though any—or all—parts of this emotionally fraught process.

Better Apart radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062689399
Publisher:	HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:	01/26/2021
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	256
Sales rank:	311,178
Product dimensions:	5.30(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Gabrielle Hartley is an attorney, mediator, speaker and author. She is known for a unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she developed over two decades in practice. Gabrielle keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Gabrielle served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation.  She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.

Elena Brower is a teacher, author, and speaker who has taught yoga and meditation since 1999. Her first book, Art of Attention, has now been translated into six languages. Her second book, Practice You, is a bestselling ​journal now being incorporated into teaching curricula worldwide for students of all ages. Her Elevate Mentorship Online Programs are beloved for bringing analog creativity to virtual coursework. Elena has contributed to Yoga Journal, Yoga International, Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Well and Good NYC, Positively Positive, and more. Listen to her Audio Courses on Sounds True, and practice with Elena on YogaGlo.com.

Table of Contents

Invitation and Welcome ix

Pause-Are You Sure You Need a Divorce? 1

Chapter 1 Designing Your Elegance: Dissolve the Myths, Once and for All 5

Chapter 2 Patience: Slowest Is Quickest 17

Chapter 3 Respect: The Stories We Tell Ourselves 45

Chapter 4 Clarity: So You Can Perceive What Else Is Possible 65

Chapter 5 Peace: Finding Calm Within the Chaos 87

Chapter 6 Forgiveness: Letting Go and Moving Forward 113

Chapter 7 Need-to-Know Divorce Basics: The Elegant Approach 137

Chapter 8 Don't Let Money Move You: Defining Your Emotions, Desires, and Needs 159

Chapter 9 Parenting Forward: The Legacy You Will Leave 185

Chapter 10 Really, We're Better Apart 207

Acknowledgments 219

Resources 223

Editorial Reviews

Addressing the practical, emotional, and spiritual, Better Apart is a major paradigm shifter. As a child of divorce, the lessons within this book resonated deeply with me and I’m hopeful for the future of separating families who’ll have access to this wisdom.”

Kate Northrup

Better Apart is my top recommendation for anyone who is wrestling with the “divorce” question but feeling shame or fear around it. Gabrielle sets out a do-able approach to not just survive divorce - but thrive emotionally, financially and spiritually in life after separation. Her thoughtful but practical book lays out a roadmap for using “crisis” as a unique opportunity for mindful living and personal growth. An amicable divorce truly is possible and Gabrielle lays out the steps to get there without sacrificing your well-being."

Erin Levine

Gabrielle and Elena provide a warm and thoughtful approach to divorce that includes both legal wisdom and healthy psychological principles. Their discussion of custody and co-parenting leads you on the path toward a calmer and happier future for you and your children.

Robyn Landow

Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.

Gwyneth Paltrow

"Gabrielle inspires and educates with a practical, accessible approach, empowering readers to think beyond blame, shame and anger, and instead focus on personal growth, financial integrity and a peaceful reorganization of the family unit. This book is a must read for those looking for a roadmap to a better, happier, healthier life Post-divorce."  

Marcelle Kott

By encouraging parents to forget perfection and establish clear rules and workable schedules, this book demonstrates that some families can truly be better apart.

Dr. Sharon Saline

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